Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

LameWolf

'Ello all.

MessedUp, all you can do is your best; I don't think there's a "right" or "wrong" way to help someone going through depression, cos everyone's different. I do hope your BF can see a doctor who doesn't have his head up his metaphorical backside. (I think we've all suffered those at some time, haven't we?)

CG I hope the psych appointment went well - I'm assuming you'll have been by now, as it's late in the day.

:hello: to everyone else.

System

I'm really not a great gf.

Does anyone here have any expereince with respite? Things are not good right now and if i don't give my bf a break then this is all going to go to !!!!. He's had to put up with for 21 months now and right now with me being ill and him really being down i am just making things 10x worse. i want to ask my gp to admit me. i need to be somewhere else. its not fair that he keeps having to pick up the pieces. i have a friend who goes every month for a week to give her and her partner a break (partner has MH problems). i don't know what to do

jennihen

I know 2 people who go for regular respite and they both swear by it. The difference in being able to ask people who are being paid to do the services they require rather than depending on loved ones is a break in itself. Also different social interaction and a chance to discuss and debate those probs we don't want our nearest and dearest to know about!!!!

PS you ARE a great girlfriend - you are bogged down in crap but still care bout BF's feeling. You are lucky to have each other and together you will find the solution.

System

jennihen wrote: »

I know 2 people who go for regular respite and they both swear by it. The difference in being able to ask people who are being paid to do the services they require rather than depending on loved ones is a break in itself. Also different social interaction and a chance to discuss and debate those probs we don't want our nearest and dearest to know about!!!!

PS you ARE a great girlfriend - you are bogged down in crap but still care bout BF's feeling. You are lucky to have each other and together you will find the solution.

Thanks jennihen, is there any way in particular to get it spoke to my friend and she said she's on some enhanced care plan,. i don't even think i have a care plan (even though NICE guidelines say those with BPD should have one). Would i be better off talking to my GP or Psychiatrist about it?

pS thank you very much for the PS, only just saw it as i posted. I just hope he's ok and i'm not making this worse for him

jennihen

Do you have a CPN? - There should be a comprehensive care plan availabe for you to see. I'm a volunteer in Cornwall and we are waaaaay behind the times but the first thing we push for is to see the care plan for our clients. This is because we see day to day life in all its !!!! and glory!! Who can you get to see first -your GP or Physch? Can you manage a phone call to one or the other to tell them how you are feeling? respite is also a godsend in that the MHT can acheive as much in a few days as weeks or months of disjointed appointments.
Big hugs Babe x

System

jennihen wrote: »

Do you have a CPN? - There should be a comprehensive care plan availabe for you to see. I'm a volunteer in Cornwall and we are waaaaay behind the times but the first thing we push for is to see the care plan for our clients. This is because we see day to day life in all its !!!! and glory!! Who can you get to see first -your GP or Physch? Can you manage a phone call to one or the other to tell them how you are feeling? respite is also a godsend in that the MHT can acheive as much in a few days as weeks or months of disjointed appointments.
Big hugs Babe x

Have an appointment with my psych next thursday but am thinking i need to see my GP before then. Don't have a CPN as of yet, have an assessment in 2 weeks time to see if i would benefit from a CPN or ASW but i'm not sire i can last that long. I need to see someone now. Maybe i shoukd go to A+E tomorrow (yes i am feeling that bad). I'm ust scared they will send me home. They seem far to keen on treating people at home nowadays. I needs to be somewhere safe. i'm not safe here. !!!! if i wanted to i'd be dead by now.

I'm really sorry, that isn't the kind of stuff i should be posting here. i'm just at my wits end. I wont do anything i'm just a mess right now. I can't take another arguement with bf he's feeling !!!!! and he blames me,i know he does. i needs to go away. its the only way i can make it right. i'm sorry just a mess right now.

jennihen

Sweetheart, there should be an out-hours-number if you are feeling that you really can't cope. I can't bear to think of you suffering - I know what its like and I have been where you are. It was a while ago but I was admitted through A+E and spent 3 weeks 'inside' -ended up being a godsend. I wish there was something I could do . . .

crazy_girl

MU- how are you now? perhaps A&E would be a good place to go, let them do an assesment, tell the truth and see what they say?

crazy_girl

.....and you are a good girlfriend, even though youre feeling so bad, you still care about the effect its havign on him

crazy_girl

it turned out to be just an assesment today, wasnt best pleased, been up since 6:30, had wet feet and had been wandering about in the rain for blinkign ages. got to go for one more session then they will say if psychotherapys for me then its at least a 4 month wait and i might not be seeing the same person again

he said its quite likely that i have BPD, im not sure how i should feel about that