Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

emweaver

mustangal i know how you feel ive had a issue with dh mum and brother and theyve had me in tears all day and he wont stand up for me. apparently im too young and have no reason to be depressed im just a miserable cow and he should have left me a long time ago. they also accused me of stealing from mil and have banned me from her house! dh wont talk to me everytime i try to talk about it he gets angry.

hope things look brighter for us both in the morning x

black_paw

emweaver i really feel for you. big hug for you

marrowgirl

Mustangsal & emweaver, I wish I could give you a big group hug. :grouphug:
I really feel for you guys. I hope you can get the support you need and deserve. Unfortunately not everyone understands depression, I was definately one of these people until I became depressed myself. In a way I have to thank my black dog or I could have carried on thinking people should "pull themselves together". I'm ashamed to admit how stupid i was.
Big hugs to you. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.
X

Space_donkey

marrowgirl wrote: »

Mustangsal & emweaver, I wish I could give you a big group hug. :grouphug:
I really feel for you guys. I hope you can get the support you need and deserve. Unfortunately not everyone understands depression, I was definately one of these people until I became depressed myself. In a way I have to thank my black dog or I could have carried on thinking people should "pull themselves together". I'm ashamed to admit how stupid i was.
Big hugs to you. Hope you have a better day tomorrow.
X

You are right people dont understand depression. I have had it explained to me like this. Non depressed people have the same experiences as we do but they see things differently and so because they see it one way they think we see it the same way as they do, but are just being weak.
My therapist recently looked out of the window and started writing on a bit of paper. He suddenly told me to look out of the window and tell him 3 things that I saw. when I had done this he showed me his bit of paper. It had 1 thing the same as me and 2 which were different. He is making me look for different things so I see things in a different light and I have to say it is working. I am feeling really good at the moment

LameWolf

Hi all.

Sorry, I've been offline during the bank holiday break, trying to get caught up on all the jobs I can't manage on my own while I had Mr LW here.

I hope everyone's ok today (Mustangsal, sounds like you've been going through the mill).

My dog's been quiet all weekend, but back snapping and snarling today. I guess it's because I'm back to being stuck indoors on my own again - not seeing a living soul for 12 hours at a stretch, day after day, will do that to you, I guess.

mustangsal

Thanks everyone. I know that feeling Lamewolf! I actually got out for an hour with a friend today. feeling a little more positive for it. but now expect mil any minute and no doubt that'll undo my positivity. never mind. start building it again tomorrow. I'm due to go out on friday so have that to both dread and look forward to. trying my best to stay positive but it's a struggle.

LameWolf

Good luck for Friday Mustangsal. I hope it's somewhere nice that you're going, not somewhere unpleasant. (As in, out with a friend as opposed to visiting the dentist, sort of thing, iyswim).

Mr LW and I are supposed to be going to a Mensa meeting Thursday evening; I feel sort of obliged, as they don't get a lot of members turn up, and the chap who organises it (it's once every 3 months) carefully chooses the venue with regard to getting my wheelchair in. Still feel nervous, though. Stupid, innit? LOL

Actually, I'd forgotten about it til I read your post. so thanks for the timely reminder!:o

I don't have a mil (sadly, she died some months before Mr LW and I met) but my ex-mil was the harridan from hell. I hope your visit from yours wasn't too stressful.

black_paw

all quiet out there... a slimming world has opened a few doors a long ,,, but i want me chocolate ... bar humbug ... will hobble hopefully quickly past the door on way to car

happymumto2

Hope everyone is doing ok, not been back for a couple of weeks, had a really bad time of it, which I now know was down to the medication I had been prescribed. My 40th came and went with my sister having a turn because she'd had a table decorated and cake organised at a local restaurant and I couldn't leave house due to social anxiety! I was also convinced I was about to cross over to the other side, which I knew was irrational!!
Saw my own GP who changed my anti-depressants, am still very down and struggling when I have to go to Tesco etc, but am much better now I'm off the other tablets, I thought I was going round the bend. On the plus side, am painting my house to take my mind of things which must be a good thing!!

Space_donkey

happymumto2 wrote: »

Hope everyone is doing ok, not been back for a couple of weeks, had a really bad time of it, which I now know was down to the medication I had been prescribed. My 40th came and went with my sister having a turn because she'd had a table decorated and cake organised at a local restaurant and I couldn't leave house due to social anxiety! I was also convinced I was about to cross over to the other side, which I knew was irrational!!
Saw my own GP who changed my anti-depressants, am still very down and struggling when I have to go to Tesco etc, but am much better now I'm off the other tablets, I thought I was going round the bend. On the plus side, am painting my house to take my mind of things which must be a good thing!!

You have my sympathy. Im sure doctors don't understand the full effects of some of the things they prescribe for us.