Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

crazy_girl

dmg- did you go to the psych? what is it with them? they all seem to get a kick out of having a go at poorly people! im pretty sure youve a right to request another one though?

sorry to hear youre otherwise poorly too, get well soon!

crazy_girl

sandy- how is hubby now?

pipkin71

Sorry to hear you haven't been so great dmg.

Also sad to hear that you feel you have been bullied on the forum. Everyone has the right to post on threads without being made to feel uncomfortable;)

Hope you feel better soon

sandy71

Hubby turned up at midnight looking very sheepish. We talked for hours, he admitted he could probably cope with the depression if it was that on its own. It's the seizures he struggles with, he said he feels helpless as there is nothing he can do until it stops.
We talked about moving back up north as well. I have family and a couple of old friends there so would have a better support network. He could transfer within the company and reduce his commute from 1 1/2 hours.

Thank you all for being there last night and keeping me calm (ish) don't know how I would have coped alone. xx

dmg sorry you haven't been too good, hope things improve soon. I hope you went to the psych and breathed on him a lot. He might cancel your next appointment because he is ill

whitevanwoman

crazy_girl wrote: »

went to the psychotherapig today

:T :rotfl::T

Love it. Am ROTFLMAO :rotfl:I really am! The dog is getting worried about me.

However on a serious note, not a good result. I sometimes feel that the biggest problem for people with mental illness is the mental health staff.

I've recently become involved with my local mental health NHS trust as a service user providing feedback to management about services. Getting involved in this has done me the world of good. It's the only way I can do something towards improving services.

I recently discovered a mental health website www.elemental.org.uk which is a refreshing change and which focuses far more on wellness than illness. Even with regards to the use of language ie, being classed as a "service user" or "service avoider" - terms thought up by the NHS to describe us, and which are somewhat negative and not conducive to recovery. The website suggests alternatives such as "expert by experience" which is much more positive and empowering but the site makes the point that people who adopt this kind of approach are often seen as "radicals" or "difficult" or "challenging", simply for insisting on our rights under the NHS charter. Funnily enough, I was described as "challenging" by a MH nurse with the Crisis Team in the summer, as I was complaining about the fact that having a stranger come to my house and sit at the table listening to me cry for an hour and then going, without offering any real practical help or support, was not actually doing me any good and was actually doing me more harm than good. I felt like I was a "naughty child" and should have been grateful that someone was at least coming out to see me.

Here's a link to the page giving more info about this, well worth a read
http://www.elemental.org.uk/html/differences1.html

absolutebounder

crazy_girl wrote: »

the nhs doesnt practise what it preaches

would you want to scrap it then? I wonder where that would leave people.
The only real major problem with the NHS is that people value what they pay for which in the case of the NHS is nothing so many people dont value it.

LameWolf

Folks, sorry I've not been posting; been having a rough time physically as wellas mentally and needed to step back for a bit.

CG hang on in there, mate. Have you time for a swift wash and brush up before hubby gets in?

pipkin71

Glad to see you're still online CG.

It's difficult to know what to say when someone makes a post like yours, other than to please think about what you have to live for.

Could you phone samaritans or is there someone else you can actually talk to?

As much as the internet gives support, it's worrying knowing the place you are in right now

pipkin71

absolutebounder wrote: »

would you want to scrap it then? I wonder where that would leave people.
The only real major problem with the NHS is that people value what they pay for which in the case of the NHS is nothing so many people dont value it.

I wouldn't want to see an end to the NHS and have a system like America's in it's place.

The system is overstretched but it's better than many have in other countries.

crazy_girl

ab- why do you insit on talking to me when you know all you do is make me more upset? oh yeah, you get your jollies that way, well enjoy yerself coz im crying