Black Dog of Depression - can we help each other?

Sugar_Coated_Owl

CWTA, What have you knitted so far? It's good that you've found something to occupy your time.

That's a shame about the cat rescue place. Could you perhaps do a morning instead? IKWYM though, sometimes I think of things that I could do but never end up putting them into practice.

I've no friends anywhere so kind of know how you feel. We're always here though if you fancy a chat

LameWolf

Ello peeps

Sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days - flare has been pretty bad, and I've been rather less than successful in keeping myself functional with caffeine tablets and sheer bloody-mindedness.

I've just had a catch-up read of the thread; oh dear, I'm so sorry so many are feeling so low, esp Sandy and CwtA. I feel a tad guilty that I've not been here, but I know you guys will understand.

Am currently flaked out on the sofa, and trying to get used to new netbook that we bought yesterday. We don't have presents as such, but go halves in buying something useful.:o

Unity, is your DD2 ok?

Hopefully I'll be online again soon - take care everyone.

Careful_with_that_Axe

lw Why on earth should you feel guilty? Anyway, I thought we banned that word?
Taking time resting is the best thing you can do for yourself - spesh whilst you are having a flare up.

Feeling a little more positive today - joined the Flylady thread and it has helped motivate me to do some housework. I do always feel better when the place looks nice. Am just taking baby steps at the moment but at least am getting some things done.

Thanks for your support razorbladekisses - the last coupla days have been horrid for me and you really helped.
'ugs to everyone.

sandy71

razorbladekisses and dlm thank you both for your broad shoulders. x

Rachel021967 wrote: »

Sorry your unwell at the moment Sandy. You do your best and your husband and children need to acknowledge that. You not only cope with your own disabilities but with a child with ADHD. Many people without a physical disability would find it difficult under the circumstances. You keep on going, your fantastic.
As for your friend, you have to ask is the relationship right for you. You need to think about all the pros and cons and decide if the effort is worth it.
From best I remember from the "Parking in a parent and child" thread you had a child under 5. Homestart is a charity that offer support and friendship for a family coping with difficult circumstances and have a child under 5. Maybe your care coordinator or health visitor could refer you. Also for children over 5 their might be a "Young Carers" charity (for us it's called Surrey Young Carers). They offer groups and workshops for children with parents with a disability. They get to have fun in a supportive environment.

Also would your family be willing or able to split some of the chores between them?

Thanks. Generally my husband is ok but he is going cold turkey giving up the cigs so to say he is grumpy would be an understatement!
My son (the one with ADHD) is being a nightmare at the moment so that isn't helping much.

My youngest has just turned 6 so homestart is out but will look into the young carers thing. Would it matter that he isn't the only one who looks after me when things are bad? To be honest at the moment he doesn't seem to care about anything. Thanks for the info.

The kids do have their own jobs, I just have to nag a lot to get them done!! Husband will do stuff but I have to ask him to, he will walk out of the kitchen leaving a mess but if I ask him to do it he will. He just doesn't think!!
I just wish I could stop feeling so bad. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up.

LW Never feel guilty for not being here, you have been an amazing support to me over the last few weeks, hope things improve for you soon.

cwta Hope you feel better soon. Glad you are feeling positive, hope your motivation rubs off on me my house is a tip

crazy_girl if you are lurking I hope you are ok.

Hugs to anyone else who needs them. xx

Rachel021967

Sandy - the child does not have to be a main carer to qualify for Young Carers. I still have to do a lot for my girls, but they get me out of bed, occasionally cook and they insist I get out when all I want to do is creep in a corner and die. Eldest two aged 16 and 13 also play with my 5 year old.
Careful with that Axe - I've also joined the flylady thread in an attempt to get the better of the tip. It's going to take me weeks to get on top of things.
If you like knitting there is a thread on the Old style board where a group of them knit I think for charity.
Unity I hope your daughter is feeling a lot better. I'm having a problem with sleeping at the moment as well. I hope you get a better nights sleep tonight.
Lame Wolf - you started this support group that we are all benefitting from. I know its easier said than done but you have nothing to feel guilty about. You need to take care of yourself.
RazorBladeKisses - I also have no friends and I know how hard it can be. You were a very supportive friend to Carefulwith thatAxe.
Crazy girl - I hope your Ok.

LameWolf

Just checkin' in while I'm relatively functional.....

Thanks for being so understanding that I'm not able to post as much at the mo.

We went and saw Avatar yesterday. Absolutely loved it, but oh boy, am I zonked out today. Luckily tonight's dins is already made, just need to nuke it when Mr LW gets in from work.

I'm thinking of joining the Flylady thread, prob next week (I know I'm not up to it just now) Thought we'd get weekend out of the way, and I'll join when Mr LW is back to "normal" working. I may, of course, chicken out before then.......:cool:

Actually I'm dreading him being back to work 5 days a week; the loneliness is like a tangible thing, pressing down on me. LOL better make the most of the weekend then, I guess.

Sorry, rambling now.:o

Unity

LameWolf wrote: »

Ello peeps

Sorry I haven't been around for a couple of days - flare has been pretty bad, and I've been rather less than successful in keeping myself functional with caffeine tablets and sheer bloody-mindedness.

I've just had a catch-up read of the thread; oh dear, I'm so sorry so many are feeling so low, esp Sandy and CwtA. I feel a tad guilty that I've not been here, but I know you guys will understand.

Am currently flaked out on the sofa, and trying to get used to new netbook that we bought yesterday. We don't have presents as such, but go halves in buying something useful.:o

Unity, is your DD2 ok?

Hopefully I'll be online again soon - take care everyone.

Hi LameWolf It sounds like a case of the PYF Post Yule Flare and I have to admit to having made it's acquaintance this year too .

Thank you, my DD2 is much better and thankfully - since she works in construction - they are off over Yule and New Year, so she's got the time to recover.

Unfortunately DD1 has her own black dog in residence and I'm finding my sleep is even more disturbed due to worrying about her.

Rachel021967 wrote: »

Sandy - the child does not have to be a main carer to qualify for Young Carers. I still have to do a lot for my girls, but they get me out of bed, occasionally cook and they insist I get out when all I want to do is creep in a corner and die. Eldest two aged 16 and 13 also play with my 5 year old.
Careful with that Axe - I've also joined the flylady thread in an attempt to get the better of the tip. It's going to take me weeks to get on top of things.
If you like knitting there is a thread on the Old style board where a group of them knit I think for charity.
Unity I hope your daughter is feeling a lot better. I'm having a problem with sleeping at the moment as well. I hope you get a better nights sleep tonight.
Lame Wolf - you started this support group that we are all benefitting from. I know its easier said than done but you have nothing to feel guilty about. You need to take care of yourself.
RazorBladeKisses - I also have no friends and I know how hard it can be. You were a very supportive friend to Carefulwith thatAxe.
Crazy girl - I hope your Ok.

Rachel021967 thanks for your concern, DD2 has always been pretty tough, thank goodness. I hope your sleep problems soon get better - unfortunately mine are very longstanding and go back many years, but I still live in hope of a cure one day .

I have to see my GP this afternoon, or I would not be venturing out, the way the weather is - but needs must. I am going to register my concern at the way my repeat prescription was bungled last month and I am going armed with the info I've managed to find on the interactions between Tamoxifen and Fluoxetine, so that if he doesn't already realise the two should not be taken together, he can check and decide on an alternative. I need my bloods checking too as my joints are swelling something rotten and feel like they're on fire :eek: .

I got my date today for the transforaminal epidural and it's next week!!!! :T:T:T . Despite writing to the consultant I've not had a reply about having the facet joint injections done at the same time as the last lot (done in August didn't work) so I rang the specialist's secretary today and she took notes to ask if this might be possible. I am just so sick of being in constant pain that I adopted the premise that "Shy bairns get nowt!" so wish me luck.

I hope that everyone is as well as can be and send gentle hugs to all who need them.

LameWolf

Wishing you all the luck in the world Unity.

Sorry to hear your DD1 has a Black Dog. Bummer!

Don't you just love docs who don't realise some drugs shouldn't be taken together?:mad: I had to inform my GP that Moclobemide and Tramadol isn't a good mix.

Well, lets hope 2010 is an improvement for us all.:beer:

Rachel021967

Unity - I'm sorry to hear about your eldest daughter. Hopefully she's getting all the help she deserves. I hope your epidural and injections go Ok next week and that you get some respite from the pain.

Lame Wolf - I know what you mean about loneliness, I'm going to really miss my husband and girls next week. Also a break from the school run means fewer triggers.
As for FlyLady I'm not following it religiously but trying to make an effort to particularly declutter. My house is like a gorge with a narrow pathway and mountains of clutter.

Sugar_Coated_Owl

LameWolf I've only just joined this thread so a big thank you from me for starting it Please don't feel bad for not posting that much, post when you feel up to it

Unity Sorry to hear about your daughter. I hope she's getting all the help she needs. I hope you manage to sort out your medication with the Doctor and best of luck with the epidural and injections. I hope it eases the pain you are experiencing.

Hello and (((HUGS))) to everyone else.