cananyone help

arcunebera

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agscully

I really dont think she is going to appreciate you going through website history , her email's etc , finding out her user id on here , you know she is ok , she is safe and well , for a reason only she knows she does not want any contact with you , i think at the moment you should respect her wish and back off a bit, give her some space , as for her leaving her cats behind , if she has a good reson to of left and needed to leave quickly its possible she had no time to take her cats with her , how long has she been gone ?

tinkerbell84

galvanizersbaby wrote: »

This isn't a dating site - it's a moneysaving site.
What worries you so much about what she has posted?

people do meet on here though - more than you'd think

look at smartie12 and blowingbubbles who got married at xmas having met on here

Sian_the_Green

This is all a little weird to me, I am not sure I am fully convinced by this, if this is genuine and you are genuine I wouldn't be on here looking as she has only one post, you don't blab all that stuff out on a site you are not registered on for more than a day... Just a thought

tinkerbell84

i think you should remove the post with her user id, OP.

her post tells you everything you need to know.

give her some space

agscully

Having just read the post your other half made on this site, there does seem to be a lot of issues she is trying to deal with , perhaps she has gone away just to try and get her head together

Triggles

Ok. To summarise:

She has been distant recently. She then changed her password on her emails, effectively locking you out, and then left. She is not taking your calls, but she is obviously taking them from her mum as her mum contacted her and told her she needed to let the police know she was okay. She went in personally to the police station with ID and verified to them that she okay. She hasn't contacted you.

This really indicates that she wanted to leave and is okay. If the police had any indication that she was having any kind of mental health problem or emotional distress, they would have offered her assistance.

You are now calling and texting her repeatedly, calling her relatives, contacting her work to see if she's been in, digging through the computer, searching everything she has done, and in your own words are "looking to see if shes met someone online." Don't you see what you're doing here? It's called stalking. You know she is okay, as the police have verified it. Regardless of whether or not you wanted her to leave, she did. As an adult, she has a right to her privacy and a right to do what she wants. She may or may not have met someone. She may have just needed a little time to herself. I think you need to back off and cool down. Wait and see if she contacts you of her own accord.

Mely

She sounds like she could be depressed.

arcunebera

agscully wrote: »

I really dont think she is going to appreciate you going through website history , her email's etc , finding out her user id on here , you know she is ok , she is safe and well , for a reason only she knows she does not want any contact with you , i think at the moment you should respect her wish and back off a bit, give her some space , as for her leaving her cats behind , if she has a good reson to of left and needed to leave quickly its possible she had no time to take her cats with her , how long has she been gone ?

while i do appreciate what you are saying yu don't seem to have realised that the computer is shared and the hitory is a combination from both of ours. i was not looking through private emails but a general email folder we share.

Im not sure how this is helping anyway.

I just need to make sure she is ok and I don't believe she is.
She also has no money and the joint account iss untouched

agscully

Sian_the_Green wrote: »

This is all a little weird to me, I am not sure I am fully convinced by this, if this is genuine and you are genuine I wouldn't be on here looking as she has only one post, you don't blab all that stuff out on a site you are not registered on for more than a day... Just a thought

I would agree that something doesnt seem to be quite right here, not sure its genuine .