Should I buy my 4-year-old son pink shoes?

KellyWelly

jackieb wrote: »

I saw a boy on the bus with a toilet roll on his hand today. He was 3. He refused to put on his gloves. He just wanted to wear his toilet roll tube. :rotfl:

My son did this for months when he was about 3 years old - I'd never thought anyone else did it too! He would wear them on each arm and draw all over them and colour them in sometimes.

jellyhead

Jackie that's so cute, bless him lol!

Aaagh wrote: »

Regarding negative comments, he'll be wearing the shoes when he's with me and that's a great opportunity to teach him how to respond to comments, though I don't think he really needs me. He's a bit of a comedian and loves attention.

BTW, yes dad is around and apart from a possible raised eyebrow, he would be fine with whatever.

If he is a confident child then that makes all the difference and I'm sure he'll be fine The reason I wouldn't buy pink shoes for mine is that he is young and not confident or socially mature so I wouldn't want something quite so noticeable as pink shoes, not until he's slightly older and knows how to deal with the attention.

It's nice that your OH is fine about it, I know some dads wouldn't be and won't even let their 1 or 2 year old boys have a dolls pram..

Somebody mentioned irons earlier and wondered why a kid would want one - given the opportunity at toddler group etc. most children will play with one though, same with toy kitchens, washing machines - they just copy what they see adults doing at home and for some reason they think it's fun.

LilMissEmmylou

fernliebee wrote: »

Unisex pink shoes?

http://www.zappos.com/n/p/p/7319043/c/90280.html

when i read the first post i so thought of vans or converse with pink on them.

tbh at the age of 4 i dont think he would be bullied over it and he will no doubt grow out of it. However plenty of men wear pink ties, shirts, t-shirts these days and its no reference to them being gay, its just a popular colour. I say if its subtle pink and not say pink barbie shoes - go for it!

Sami_Bee

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

Green is a unisex colour and boys and girls can wear it with no problem. Pink is different

My son has a pink dolls pram and a pink handbag, loves pepper pig and upsy daisy and at our wedding wore a pink shirt does that make me a bad mother?

I think your comments are very insensitive, please try to have some respect for other people on the forums.

anyway to the OP I would happily buy my son pink slippers maybe that way he will be happy with his pink accessories but no chance of him being seen in them out of the house and therefore picked on (bit of a compromise)

I have a friend who is male, straight, late teens, big strapping muscly guy and his fave colour is pink - he has a pink ipod, bike, watch all sorts of pink things!
Pink is a nice colour, for anyone to enjoy! :cool:

Sami_Bee

jellyhead wrote: »

It's nice that your OH is fine about it, I know some dads wouldn't be and won't even let their 1 or 2 year old boys have a dolls pram..

Somebody mentioned irons earlier and wondered why a kid would want one - given the opportunity at toddler group etc. most children will play with one though, same with toy kitchens, washing machines - they just copy what they see adults doing at home and for some reason they think it's fun.

My son got a mini dyson for Christmas and loves it!
He loves to load/unload the washer too :T
I'm not looking forward to him out growing the cleaning is fun stage!

TAZ

excuse me if i repeat anything already said as i haven't read all replies but i have to say i can't understand how there is this big thing that wearing pink is too girlie etc and could mean they end up gay etc.

i have 3 teenage boys (14, 15 and 17 in 2 weeks) that for christmas have been bought and are wearing,(actually more that i thought they would) bright pink legwarmers gloves and hats, one of them has pink knee high socks with hearts on and another has pink checkered sock all of these socks or legwarmers are worn outside of their trousers in full veiw of their friends
they also have illuminous green and yellow hats etc
my boys and their friends love pink

robpw2

taz now i would be wondering if your kids are gay lol ...he he

they are not 4 after all

pink to make the boys wink and all




(ps this is a joke and not meant to cause offence)

Sami_Bee

TAZ wrote: »

excuse me if i repeat anything already said as i haven't read all replies but i have to say i can't understand how there is this big thing that wearing pink is too girlie etc and could mean they end up gay etc.

i have 3 teenage boys (14, 15 and 17 in 2 weeks) that for christmas have been bought and are wearing,(actually more that i thought they would) bright pink legwarmers gloves and hats, one of them has pink knee high socks with hearts on and another has pink checkered sock all of these socks or legwarmers are worn outside of their trousers in full veiw of their friends
they also have illuminous green and yellow hats etc
my boys and their friends love pink

This trend is most deregurr with the chavs round my area, hopefully not in yours too.

Frankly I'd rather have the gayest son ever than a chavvy son :rotfl:

sarymclary

My youngest son loves the colour pink! Aged 3 he would insist my best friend's daughter could only come round to play if she brought her 2 fairy costumes with her. They were just having fun, and with only older brothers, he had no experience of playing with girls' toys. He loved to dress up all the time in one of his costumes, so it was just trying out a different costume.

I accidentally ordered the wrong pair of pyjamas one year from the Studio catalogue, but because I'd had his name put on them, they couldn't be returned. They were meant to be Bart Simpson ones, but they ended up being pink Winnie the Pooh ones. They have remained his absolute favourite pair of pyjamas - I had to fight him to get them in the washing! they're far too short for him now, but still remain in his PJ drawer. If he'd asked for a pair of pink shoes I would have got them, but just playing out shoes, and maybe a pair of pink slippers. It's just a colour, and it just happens to be a colour he likes.

My eldest son's favourite colour was always purple, from the age of 2. We had a devil's job finding a purple 1st bike, and my DH actually sprayed a silver one purple for his next size up, and had a purple BMX. He's now 16, and this Christmas he asked for a pink tie, and a pink shirt. It's fashionable. He's had more girlfriends than I can count, and has definitely not become 'gay' because we allowed him to have purple or pink things.

p.s. My youngest is now 8, still loves pink (even gets his girl friends to paint his nails), but comments on the girls on High School Musical as being 'hot', so yet again, it's certainly not influenced his choice of gender!

sarymclary

Sami_Bee wrote: »

My son got a mini dyson for Christmas and loves it!
He loves to load/unload the washer too :T
I'm not looking forward to him out growing the cleaning is fun stage!

My youngest had 3 hoovers (2 dysons), a mini kitchen, an ironing board, a mini washing line, etc., and loved to help out with chores. He loved the dishwasher job so much, that it is now one of his chores to put the dishwasher on when it's full.

They're playing at being grown ups, and as they spend the most time around you at home, its obvious you're the grown up they want to emulate the most.

All 4 of my boys can cook, the 2 eldest extremely well. My 15 yr old makes the best cakes in town - so well that my family request he bakes a cake if they're coming to visit, and we all prefer his cake to a shop bought birthday cake. I always vowed I'd make them self sufficient, and never be with a woman just because they needed one, but because they wanted to be with one.