Should I buy my 4-year-old son pink shoes?

geekgirl

I used to buy my kids white baseball boots and paint them bright colours with fabric paint cos you couldn't buy them like that when they were little.
Why not buy him a cheap white pair, paint them pink or pink and whatever other colour he likes and it won't have cost you much at all, if he then decides he doesn't like them before he grows out of them you can paint them again in another colour. Very MSE and he gets his pink shoes.

Mely

I dont think you should buy your little boy pink shoes. I dont care what anyone says regarding gender free play - pink shoes on a boy just isnt right!

UKTigerlily

If we'd kept to gender roles women wouldn't even be able to vote let alone leave the kitchen nowdays! It doesn't matter if it's traditionally for boys or girls, both genders can do what they like nowdays & a boy wearing abit of pink isn't gonna make the world come to an end, we have more important things to worry about. That's like saying a girl can't join in with football lifes too short to not be happy.

jenhug

my grandads fave colour was pink! interestingly my nan hated pink!
A young lad locally died recently, all the flowers were pink, and everyone wore pink to the funeral, it was his fave colour and said "real men wear pink"
I think there is nothing wrong with it at all.

morlandbanks

Supermom wrote: »

Sorry I shouldn't asume that dad is in the picture.

Sorry, little off topic, but WHY shouldn't you assume Dad is 'In the picture'? It does still take two people to produce a child.

Don't all start having a go, but It does upset me a bit that we all seem to assume that everyone's parents are seperated (if they were ever together for longer than the night of conception!).

Information I found on the BBC website, which I'll assume is relatively factual, says that nearly a quarter of children were living in single parent households in 2006. So at least 3 out of 4 children DO have two parents living together.

On the pink shoe issue - sorry for my rant, poster - I'd go with the advice of the person I've quoted above! Dressing up at home...regular colours for outside or he'll be tormented by his peers.

LJM

if he wants pink shoes let him have them he is a child,it wont hurt at all i have friends who have boys with dress up dresses/prams/dolls etc,it seems unfair to label a child my daughter is 4 and she loves boys toys i would never tell her she couldnt have something which is boyish just because shes a girl.
its not the children who poke and make fun its the parents/carers where do you think the kids get it from,sorry for ranting but it really annoys me

LJM

UKTigerlily wrote: »

Kids will be bullied whatever they do, it makes no difference if they wear pink or whatever, and maybe if the parents of the kids bullying didn't make issues of things like boys wearing pink, their kids wouldn't either. I'd much rather see a boy wearing pink than a girl playing with a doll. As a kid I wanted a transformer, and got one. I'm not a lesbian now at 30! Even if a child turns out to be gay it's not gonna be down to letting them have those pink trainers at 4, and so what if he does end up gay?

I think children should play with what they want to regardless of gender, why do they need to grow up with their parents stereotyping them from day 1? TBH it's not a case of they'll get bullied it's the parents making an excuse to not give the child a traditionally opposite gender item of clothing or colour or toy.

I imagine most children are bullied at some point unless they are the bully, and I bet it's not down to what colour they wear!

here here well said

Savvy_Sue

sarahsarah wrote: »

Just had a quick look:


( all from Amazon)

:T I wonder if they do them in an adult size 8, that's JUST the kind of thing I'm looking for right now! :rotfl:

annie_d

Let him have pink. My son chose pink when he was small. 24 now and still often wears pink and never bullied because of it.

chocomonsta

definately let him have his pink shoes and be happy.

Please let us know what you decide to do.

My son often went to the shops in my knee length boots, which came up to his thighs and my 3/4 lenght leather jacket which on him reached the floor, I think he was about 7 at the time. He loved the attention he got, nobody was ever nasty they just smiled or asked who the boots belonged to!

Hi is going on holiday soon and will be using his 'shocking pink' suitcase...he is 18 and says he is confident in his sexuality. He has a lovely girlfriend and she loves pink too...as I do

I can just imagine your little boys face when he gets his pink shoes :j

choco x