The Giving Up Smoking Thread!! Part 2

dundeedoll_2

Hi dundeedoll, and well done for sticking with it even though you're having problems. If you still have my PM, re-read the part about the 'grieving' process, it sounds to me that it's those sort of feelings that you're experiencing. If I'm right then stick with it but understand why your head's reacting like it is. Fags were a huge part of our lives, a 'friend' or so we thought, and they were there to help us through things right? Wrong! They just helped us to get more stressed up and in need of the next one!:( You'll soon get passed this DD and you'll find that times like this happen much less and are very fleeting, passing off far sooner until you don't get them at all. I think you're eating is all tied up with the same thing, compensating for what you're lacking. Stay strong DD, you're not really lacking in anything at all, you're getting through it all little by little. Then one day you realise that rather than having lacked anything you've gained so much and will feel as though you can conquer the world! That's what quitting does....it gives us back so much, our lives included. Keep up sipping water, and drinking the herbal tea, especially green tea and do eat a good deal of fruit, far more filling than the food, it hits the spot where the 'loss' is too. You CAN do it DD, keep strong and keep yourself reminded of all the reasons you're quitting.....they're far more important in you life than fags!!!
Sue x[/QUOTE]

Thank you so much for your advice/encouragement, Sue. I don't think I am 'grieving' for the fags (just -very stupidly- for the ex!) It's more like a constant hunger feeling even tho' I still have this awful lump in my throat and feel I just can't eat most of the time - that's why I said I can't really explain it.
Anyway...........I know time will help and it/I WILL get better.
I DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE AGAIN - EVER!!!
Thanks again Sue.........so good of you to post on here so much to help others.
DD x
(That PM has been a great help)

larmy16 wrote: »

Morning all! Yes the thread is very quiet.

Sorry you are struggling DD - just keep at it though as it will come right in the end. Just so long as you keep on the road to your destination that is the main thing. Sometimes you stop and falter, but you get up and keep going. Isn't this true of so much in life?

Thanks Larmy, yes that's very true. As I said to Sue I know time will help and it/I WILL get better.
I DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE AGAIN - EVER!!!
Thanks for your support too.
DD x




I hate having to make sure I've got enough fags for the day.

I hate having to shove a packet in my (already) overstuffed bag.

I hate going into the shops asking for 20 cigs.

I hate not wanting to talk to people because my breath stinks of smoke.

I hate that I spend £15 a week on something I set fire to.

I hate getting up 10 minutes earlier so that I can have a cigarette

I hate that I have to sit in the garden in the snow and rain.

I hate that I cant sit still after eating a meal.

I hate getting stressed in the morning just because I havent had my tea and fag yet.

Excellent post! :T:T:T
I have amended this slightly to apply to me, printed it off and have made it my mantra!

Off to have a shower now and then to bed as I have to be up at 5am

larmy16

I just thought of another 2 negatives which drove me insane.

I hate all the washing of clothes/changing of clothes to hide the smell.

I hate the smell of nicotine on my hands and the fact it never goes, no matter how many times I wash them!

Sue-UU

Sorry DD, I completely forgot about your ex! Many apologies. Surely it has to be comfort eating that's troubling you, but as you say yourself, it'll pass in time.

I'm so delighted to read your adamant statement "I DO NOT WANT TO SMOKE AGAIN - EVER!!!"It sounds as though you're completely committed to this DD and I'm thrilled to bits to hear it as you'll not be living the rest of your life with the phrase "If only I could beat this"

If praise is deserved then it's yours in abundance DD! :T

BTW, it's a pleasure to try to help others quit as I spent so much time desperate, afraid and terrified of smoking and all the illnesses I MIGHT be in store for. I'd do all I could to keep anyone else from waiting as long as I did.

Sue x

bluebellbunny

Hi guys, hope you're all well and not finding it all too hard. I'm just popping by to tell you all that it is possible to do without cigarettes, it may be hard but it's SOOO worth it.
Here is what my SilkQuit is telling me -
Smober Time: 5M 2D 17m 32s
Amount Saved: £1,429.60
Cigarettes not Smoked: 4620
Life Saved: 2W 2D 1h

As you can see I was smoking quite a lot and I have managed it. I REALLY don't know where I was finding the money even with all the duty frees I used to get, I could never go back to it now even if I wanted to as I have no clue where the money would come from!!!

Stick with it and don't give up giving up as they say!!!

bluebellbunny

What about the yellow fingernails? That was one of my negatives that drove me insane!!!

whathavewedone

Hi all

Just dipping back in the thread to say that I'm still off the fags (no lapses at all since I quit in early April) and I'm really chuffed. I honestly can't imagine smoking again now. I work with smokers who flout the smoking ban and I hate the smell. I look at their grey lined faces (they are about 15 years older than me) and listen to their coughs and feel glad this will not be me.

I hope I've cracked it now - finally - at the age of 39. I think I have but you can never be too complacent when it comes to the evil weed.

Sue-UU

Very many congratulations bluebellbunny and whathavewedone!!!!! :T:T:T:T :T:T You'be both done so well in what's not always an easy thing to do, it takes sheer determination and courage - but like many before you, you've accomplished your dream and have every reason to be so very proud of yourselves! :j Great going girls, I'm thrilled to bits for you both.:D

whathavewedone, I can understand your intrepidation and thoughts of possibly becoming too complacent, so until the (what I consider) safety net of a 12 month comes up then keep on your guard, especially at times of celebration ie Christmas or during the lows of adversity etc. Always keep your age in mind, at 39 your young and have so much life ahead of you, always remember that one false step could send you hurtling back, so NEVER, EVER CONTEMPLATE JUST ONE PUFF OR JUST ONE CIG as it never works out at just the one! I like the way you're already viewing your law-flouting colleagues, their skin and those awful, chesty coughs we've all hated. Keep watching them WHWD, but be careful NOT to have to breathe in THEIR smoke and if necessary have a quiet word with the boss, or do it in the form of an unsigned note. They should NOT be doing it and putting others at risk and should be stopped!!! :mad: Let's hope they'll follow your great example and do themselves a huge favour.

Oh those disgusting yellow fingernails for sure BBB, I used to be so ashamed of mine and have even been known to use a brillo or pummice stone to get it off!!!! The lengths we'll go to for a killer fag eh??? MAD!!!! :mad:

Excellent work girls, I mean it from the heart and am thrilled to bits for you. :j

All best wishes for a very healthy LIFE!!! Sue x

whathavewedone

It's the bosses who own the building that smoke in the office Su-uu - everyone else who smokes goes outside!! Lots of us have complained but to no avail so far. Luckily for me it's a big office and their desks are far away from mine. As it's summer all the windows are open too so it's not that bad.

I will definitely guard against complacency. I'm not even at the 6 month mark yet.

SandC

Hi guys, finally remembered to check back in here. Sue, how wonderful that you still support everyone so regularly and fully. Smoking plays no part in my life any more so I forget this thread exists!

Anyway, I am 1 year 5 months since stopping smoking and I did it by going to an Allen Carr clinic locally. I got £50 off the price so it cost £170 but it is quite possibly the best money I ever spent. For those struggling and spending that much a month on fags, please consider it. I found it easy. Really easy.

I still occasionally have a dream where I've smoked a ciggie and I wake up so relieved that I haven't. That's about as close as it comes but it serves as a reminder that there is always something there inside me that someone who has never smoked will not have - the potential to smoke again. I keep vigilant at all times. I haven't been tempted as I recall, to 'just try one' but that's something at the back of my head all the time.

I am off in a few weeks for a special holiday funded almost entirely out of savings from stopping the dreaded weed. When I stopped I immediately set up a couple of standing orders to take money from my current account into one or two other accounts for savings - so I would have tangible evidence of the financial benefits if nothing else.

Good luck to newbies, you WILL do it to those who backtracked!

frugalpam

Hello! Just popping in to let you know I'm now getting on for 19 months quit (on the 25th) :j To those who haven't met me, I was a die-hard smoker - I would drive to the garage or 24hr Tesco to buy fags in the dead of night if I was running short :eek: If I can quit, then anyone can. This thread is the best - you'll get loads of encouragement and support especially from Sue. Stick with it - quitting is the best thing you can ever do for yourself. YOu might think the craves will never go away - especially in those early days and weeks, but honestly they DO go away. Be determined, look upon it all as regaining your health and dosh, you're only 'giving up' a slavish addiction to nicotine!
bye for now
Pam x