The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

winebox

forgot to say....
Fay well done on your :j!
And Jo...hope you're OK are you still having problems getting online? (if you are, then you won't be able to answer the question of course )

winebox

pariskate wrote: »

I have to get into a bikini in June and want to not scare the children.

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

barshamhillbilly

Hi Guys and Gals

Day 23 for me. I HAVE NOT HAD ANY ALCOHOL FOR 23 DAYS !!!!! :j:j:j:j:j:j:j

Molly - look out - I'm gonna chase ya ....... OK, so I am a year behind ... but ..... (Don't slow down though )

I have good feelings about it this time, think I'm gonna do it .

I have to agree with GC, cutting down is just not an option for me. It's all or nothing. Hopefully I can keep at nothing !

Lime cordial and fizzy water now tastes as good as beer used to. The days are much longer - and the garden is becoming clear! I had no idea it was so big :rotfl:

With respect to added challenges, anything that makes you feel better WITHOUT putting extra stress on must be good. If it gives you something else to stress about then don't do it, or set a lower target.

I used to think (and Mrs BHB definitely thought) that posting and reading this thread made me think about alcohol. Now I think that it makes me think about how I don't want it!

Cravings are nearly gone now

BHB xx

Wanna_Bee_Free

I found that setting a lower target this month has helped me believe I can do it whereas last month I chose half the month, this month I went for what I thought was a more achievable two days a week not drinking. Kind of recommended health wise anyway. I am still on a last minute push and need to do four days in a row though because one week I didn't manage two alcohol free days.

mollypolly

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

Hi Guys and Gals

Day 23 for me. I HAVE NOT HAD ANY ALCOHOL FOR 23 DAYS !!!!! :j:j:j:j:j:j:j

Molly - look out - I'm gonna chase ya ....... OK, so I am a year behind ... but ..... (Don't slow down though )

I have good feelings about it this time, think I'm gonna do it .

I have to agree with GC, cutting down is just not an option for me. It's all or nothing. Hopefully I can keep at nothing !

Lime cordial and fizzy water now tastes as good as beer used to. The days are much longer - and the garden is becoming clear! I had no idea it was so big :rotfl:

With respect to added challenges, anything that makes you feel better WITHOUT putting extra stress on must be good. If it gives you something else to stress about then don't do it, or set a lower target.

I used to think (and Mrs BHB definitely thought) that posting and reading this thread made me think about alcohol. Now I think that it makes me think about how I don't want it!

Cravings are nearly gone now

BHB xx

Well Done BHB.Thants brilliant that you feel you can do it now.:T:T
I agree that this thread definitely makes me not want to drink.I think it makes you realise just how much of a problem alcohol is.
Lime cordial and sparkling water is now my favourite drink too:beer:
Keep up the good work...you'll never catch me but please keep trying......I like to be chased :D
Love Mollyxxxx

barshamhillbilly

mollypolly wrote: »

you'll never catch me but please keep trying......I like to be chased :D

Chase me, chase me

Needstochange

Afternoon everyone :wave:

Some really interesting posts today

I was going to quietly bow out of the thread after the May challenge (wouldnt dare leave under Budgies watch ) I remember Grey pilgrim saying something similar about wanting to stop relying on posting and get on with life IYSWIM. I will be doing this for sure at some point as I now feel I am getting my old skewed view of alcohol a little bit back to normal. Having said that I know for a fact that there are a few AF days I have had that are purely based on my stubbornness when it comes to hitting a target and therefore having the challenge in place does make me consider if I really want a glass of wine or is it just a habit. At what point do AF days become the norm rather than an event I wonder? I think I am about there or thereabouts and I will be off to test some time in the future.

Anyways May is still on my mind and I am thinking about starting a daily journal. Years ago (before I lived,breathed and slept on the internet) I used to do this regularly and I found it did create a better me to some extent as it made me investigate stuff I was thinking. Im sure Budgie didnt just mean this to be a weight loss month so I think I may pick up my writing again. Still thinking though so this may change again:o

Winebox your post made me really sad (although there was a momentary grin when I thought about you wandering about with no eyebrows and a daft face drawn on and not realising:D) I love reading your posts planned or unplanned and through those I know there is a funny and caring person behind them. I know you cant "give" someone self esteem but you must know how well thought of and respected you are on here.

BHB well done on 23 days :T

2 days to go guys:eek:

happyshopper

Needstochange wrote: »

Afternoon everyone :wave:

Some really interesting posts today

I was going to quietly bow out of the thread after the May challenge (wouldnt dare leave under Budgies watch ) I remember Grey pilgrim saying something similar about wanting to stop relying on posting and get on with life IYSWIM. I will be doing this for sure at some point as I now feel I am getting my old skewed view of alcohol a little bit back to normal. Having said that I know for a fact that there are a few AF days I have had that are purely based on my stubbornness when it comes to hitting a target and therefore having the challenge in place does make me consider if I really want a glass of wine or is it just a habit. At what point do AF days become the norm rather than an event I wonder? I think I am about there or thereabouts and I will be off to test some time in the future.

Hi ntc. I think we have similar viewpoints on the 'next step'. Funnily enough, out of idle curiosity I looked at what was going on exactly a year ago on this thread (well, on the old thread on 28th Apr 2008) and looks like you'd just posted for the first time. I've never been as open as many of you on here, but suffice to say lots lots lots of it has rung true for me, so thanks. I just feel like it's time to see if I've gotta hold of it now; Can I do it without the 'crutch' of posting a daily tally of AFDs? Time will tell...hope I don't come back having failed (wish me luck GC ) . I will keep an eye on you all tho'. Anyways, am still here for now!

HS

Needstochange

you're right HS it was about this time last year I first posted after a particularly bad "schoolday" night and with the hangover from hell . I had started to believe that I was also suffering from depression because of the incredible lows I was getting during the day. If I remember rightly I posted then promptly went out for a boozy lunch with a friend and then didnt bother much again till November:eek::rolleyes: After my first AF day for many a month (year probably if i am being totally honest, which i am on here) I realised that I could do it. The rest is history thanks to this thread and all the extremely supportive people who post on here, its odd really but I cant say I have any real support in my quest in the real world, even my parents say "why not have a wine, one wine is good for you":D(the apple doesnt fall far from the tree eh:rotfl:)One thing I have realised though, I wasnt suffering from depression at all or at least only the sort that is brought on by alcohol. I dont want to feel like I used to anymore and that is my driver (as well as MPs whip of course;))

Good luck mate whatever you decide (but I will miss your bike stories:D)

budget_babe

Needstochange wrote: »

Afternoon everyone :wave:

Some really interesting posts today

I was going to quietly bow out of the thread after the May challenge (wouldnt dare leave under Budgies watch ) I remember Grey pilgrim saying something similar about wanting to stop relying on posting and get on with life IYSWIM. I will be doing this for sure at some point as I now feel I am getting my old skewed view of alcohol a little bit back to normal. Having said that I know for a fact that there are a few AF days I have had that are purely based on my stubbornness when it comes to hitting a target and therefore having the challenge in place does make me consider if I really want a glass of wine or is it just a habit. At what point do AF days become the norm rather than an event I wonder? I think I am about there or thereabouts and I will be off to test some time in the future.

Anyways May is still on my mind and I am thinking about starting a daily journal. Years ago (before I lived,breathed and slept on the internet) I used to do this regularly and I found it did create a better me to some extent as it made me investigate stuff I was thinking. Im sure Budgie didnt just mean this to be a weight loss month so I think I may pick up my writing again. Still thinking though so this may change again:o

Winebox your post made me really sad (although there was a momentary grin when I thought about you wandering about with no eyebrows and a daft face drawn on and not realising:D) I love reading your posts planned or unplanned and through those I know there is a funny and caring person behind them. I know you cant "give" someone self esteem but you must know how well thought of and respected you are on here.

BHB well done on 23 days :T

2 days to go guys:eek:

Hi Everyone :hello:

My Dear Ntc as usual you are right again but of course you cannot leave in May :eek: what would I do without my number one? and if I can be selfish please? I REALLY DO NOT WANT YOU TO LEAVE AT ALL (Please) xxxxx

But you are right I did not mean this to be a weight loss month just an alcohol free month with a few small changes perhaps added? You see I feel for our members who struggle and try so hard, so my feelings were if they could post and say they had done something positive then that would lift their self esteem.

For instance who on here could possibly beat Jo and the lovely meals she cooks? That is a positive she could state? Eg: I made this wonderful nutritious healthy meal which my family loved

But it can be anything painting that wall that has needed doing for ages, clearing out that wardrobe, going for a walk and just taking time for yourself.

I don't want anyone to feel any extra pressure just hopefully a little more motivated to do something for themselves. Alcohol as we know plays such a part in everyones life and it drags people down so much and I have found that it can have a negative effect.

I love your idea of keeping a journal and Fay saying that she may take up yoga again? Also the weight loss that some would like to aim for? (Myself included;))

I agree with Gc that we should all keep the alcohol cutting down or giving up as priority, but if we can raise some positivity as well then I feel that would be beneficial?

So I have decided that I will score May as members want and need. If they do want to aim for some changes to be a better me then great and if its just the af they want to do then thats great too:T

I will just try myself to make more time for me and to be a better me. I posted way, way back that I had discovered I wanted to be a better me and I do

I hope I have made a little sense? It is so hard to convey things correctly and how you want them to be perceived? I tend to run with my heart alot and let my emotions get ahead of me, it is because I care about the people on here that at times my heart rules my head:D

Oh and of course what you say about our wonderful Winebox is of course spot on :T But Jo where are you? I would like to know your thoughts as well as you are always formost in my mind and I really do care about you.

So I will go now and catch up with all the posts, haven't gone boxercise tonight as not up to it to be honest.

OH AND CAN YOU LET ME KNOW YOUR TOTALS FOR FRIDAY PLEASE MY DEARS, and Hs sorry you won't be about in May but if you change your mind?

Love n hugs guys
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxx