The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

dotstar24

Goat!? where?.

i'll never forget the time i went to a farm with my MIL (born again christian) and son. i was leaning on a fence post...minding my own business... when all the sudden i felt there was someone looking at the back of my head, and when i turned...for a split second i thought Satan himself had come to get me.....but it was just a goat going for my hair. scared the bejesus out of me!

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fluffyb

Well done maz123 :dance:

Are you joining me on the naughty bench tomorrow then :rolleyes:

jo1972

graemecarter wrote: »

Ok Quasi - try and get through until 9pm without a drink. When you get to 9pm, you can decide to have a drink, but you may decide not to have one. Don't make the decision now, but at least give yourself a chance by going through until 9pm AF

Did as was told Sir GC and can report another AF night

Going to make a decaf douwe egberts now and watch hells kitchen!

xx

fluffyb

I am just about to have a hot chocolate and watch Hells Kitchen Jo :T
Great minds...............:rotfl:

Well done on clocking up another AFD Jo :T:D:j

maz123_2

fluffybishop wrote: »

Well done maz123 :dance:

Are you joining me on the naughty bench tomorrow then :rolleyes:

Too right I am, but its planned and organised and i'm going to the gym Saturday morning so i can't go too mad! That is the plan and i WILL stick to it
jo1972 - Your a star!

Pippilongstocking

jo1972 wrote: »

Did as was told Sir GC and can report another AF night

Going to make a decaf douwe egberts now and watch hells kitchen!

xx

Well done Jo!

I have a secret second jar in my garage 'corner shop'.

Ok reasons to not drink - I have to post this to remind myself that I don't stop often after I just have one. I have been feeling really well and have managed quite a few AFD's and was yesterday morning really thinking I was feeling great.

Had to give a talk for work last night so had a gin to steady my nerves (it was in the evening) as I hate public speaking - so it did calm me down. But if I hadn't had the first drink I dont know if I would have had any of hte next drinks. And before I had the gin I thought to myself - surely there is a better way for you to calm down a bit as I wanted anohter AFD.
SO this post is really to remind myself that for the sake of a couple of drinks (or several) I have lost one whole working day - because of how I felt - I went to work - but TBH - contributed little today.

So this is for me to.................Always remind yourself how you feel the morning after: (reasons NOT to drink)

Wonder what utter rubbish you spouted out of your mouth with the people you were with til the wee small hours
Leading to paranoia, depression and self loathing
Wonder if anyone knows you are hungover (I think I had one of my first hangovers today - I usually feel OK after drinking)
Look at the spills down your nice clothes to see where you just couldn't quite make you mouth after a couple
Spend the day feeling rubbish about the fact you called OH at 1am, 2am and 3 am- two people really tired and a bit hacked off instead of one
Wonder why your throat is sore and remember that you were violently ill when you came home (cleaned it all up nicely but nevertheless its horrible)
Wonder if you woke anyone up with your clattering about
Up later than normal with kids to get to school - BUT - in all honesty not really funcitoning properly
Wonder if you are actually alright to drive ? or work out when its really safer to leave it unitl
Add up the cost of the drinks and wonder how much better than money could have been spent
Spend the next day eating lots of high carb food to try and feel a bit human again
Add caffine (coffee, coke, ironbru, red bull or tea) into the equationn to get you kick started
And some painkillers inot the equations and a dodgy stomach
Spend a bit of time wondering if it was something you ate thats making you feel so rubbish /
Spend some of the day phoning/texting your pals just to say 'hi' but really its because you want to make sure everything is still 'OK'
Have hardly any attention span at work, but unfocused and too self intraverted to really be contributing much
By tea time you are exhausted - you've spent the day eating rubbish to just get by and you can't contribute much at night time as you are just wiped out.

Basically you've lost the best part of a whole night and then the next day for the sake of having just a couple of glasses that leads to a whole lot more.

I wasted £20 quid last night in the pub - then drank the best part of a bottle of red, got home at 3ish this morning having gone on to an unknown persons house for a wee party with the rest of our group.

Nothing wrong with going out of course - but I knew I was working today, I wasn't really able to drive until the afternoon because I had drunk wine so late. If I hadn't have had the first drink - I don't suppose it would have seemed such a good idea to start on a bottle of red at 1am.......................and finish it by 2am. Then have a night cap.

Total alcohol consumption last night
2 gin and tonics
2 large glasses red
1 pint cider
1 bottle red wine
1 malt whiskey

And that's just the drinks I remember - which I think I remember all of them.

Excuse the monologue - I really think I should stop before the first drink as one with me always leads to many.

I think like others have said I got a bit complacent thinking that after a few AFD's I could cope with just the one..........

Onwards and upwards - it was horrible but maybe a necessary evil to feel so terrible today - I haven't felt that paranoid, rubbish, self loathing and depressed in quite a while.

Now that I know I can do some AFD's - and have started to feel good - I am not sure I want to go back to the paranoid self-loathing person I was before when I drank almost everyday.

Sorry for the post - todays been a bit of a rude awakening for me.

fedupandskint

Fay, you summed up just how I think about this now. I remember the last hangover I had and how very awful I felt for the whole weekend. The first glass of wine I threw down my throat in supersonic speed and the rest of the bottles went from there. Never been as bad as this since or anywhere near. Only thanks to this thread helping me change my ways.

What helps me is to remember this each time i want a drink. Is it a work night? Set myself a rule not to drink on these nights. If not, what do I need to do the next day, and be honest with myself. If I am busy, how much the alcohol will affect me the next day? Because it does in my case.

That's what has stopped my having a drink last night, tomorrow night and tonight as finished work yesterday for a holiday. I am so busy that I know I can't have a drink because it will affect me so much the next morning. I am groggy enough without alcohol! Because my alcohol intake has reduced so much over the last few months I can tell the next morning straight away when I have had a couple of glassess of wine.

Tomorrow is another day Fay, it is never too late to change for the next time, we all take time to change, especially in certain situations we are less confident to handle.

For me, the more AFD I have the better I feel strangely enough! I would never have thought this before. No wonder I felt so run down last year and could never shake off that feeling. It has gone now and I have only just made that connection.....

Pippilongstocking

TA fedup - I just needed to say it all outloud as I am not good at stopping after one. Interesting to hear your thoughts and how you consider whether or not to drink using the next day stuff as well.

I am actually grateful I had a hangover for once - I don't normally get them. NO idea why - never really have. Prob due to the amount I use to drink everyday.

Ta for being out there - x all of you x

stroppy

Hello all,
Another one for me please Happyshopper.
Went to watch my eldest play football tonight and by the time we got back it was after 8, think the fresh air wore me out and running round after his little brother and sisters for 2 hours.....trying to keep them happy whilst watching game was hard work! Managed to see his goal though
For first time in ages just didnt fancy a drink!
Stroppy xx

jo1972

Got a power cut here so logging on from my phone. Can't do paragraphs so I'll keep it short. Fay, thanks for your honest post, that sounded like my life! I hope you feel better tomorrow x Thanks to all for the support you have given me, it's because of this I am sober tonight. Wish i could post more but I'm sat in the dark texting on a bloomin phone! Speak to you all tomorrow x