The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

jo1972

sleepyjo wrote: »

but have got a banging headache and not too sure if i have it because i haven't had a drink! or it is just the time of the month

It's probably cos you've not had a drink if you're used to drinking everyday, don't worry about it Well done!

Finding it hard tonight, and it's even past my danger zone time..

Probably cos DD1 and OH is out and I'm home alone..

budget_babe

jo1972 wrote: »

I'd love to get back to the person I was 17 years ago, I've been thinking about it today going through the day again with my mum, as, as I had to have an emergency c/section I was out of it and my dear old mum and OH had to bear the brunt of the emotions. DD was very small, just 2lb 8oz and was on life support for a week, we didn't get to hold her in our arms till she was 2 weeks old and was in the hospital till she was 4 months old. I don't think in that entire 4 months alcohol passed my lips and it didn't occur to me either. Maybe I need to think about this more, luckily for me DD1 is now fit and healthy, 3" taller than me (and I'm not short :mad:) and I can think about that time in my life because although it was scary at the time, we all came out of it okay, some don't and wouldn't want to think about that part of their lives.

ETA: yes 3 is correct.....:eek:

Jo thats even more amazing, I have highlighted your words in bold. You do have such inner strength you must have to get through what you did. I think the time has come in your life to step back and look at yourself, focus on your good points which are many. Be kind to yourself and bring out the inner you that has been hiding away for awhile.

As I have become older I have tried to develope my spiritual side, by this I mean appreciating the simpler things in life more and trying to be a kinder and more forgiving person. Trying not to anger so easily and being more patient. It is not always possible especially in the world we live in, going to work and making ends meet can get us all down.

I said sometime ago that I am trying to be a better me, I am but I guess the work never stops.

I do so want you to get to where you want to be, you need to find your own way forward but if I can help at all then I will, along with all our other dear friends on here.

So Jo please take care, love light and protection xxxxxxx

Also Sleepjo well done on staying af today :cool: enjoy the rest of the weekend with your Ds. I hope the headache is better soon? Take care and hugs xxxxxxx

Budgie xxxxxxxxxxx
ps Jo what I am trying to say perhaps is not making much sense? I don't know? Its very hard to post things that perhaps seem a little deep or even odd? But whatever you make of it, just know that I wish you well. xxxxxx

mollypolly

WELL DONE EVERYONE
Lots of positivity on here today.
Keep up the good work .

Hope you all have a lovely unhungovered weekend.
Take care of you
Love Mollypollyxxxx

sleepyjo

jo1972 wrote: »

It's probably cos you've not had a drink if you're used to drinking everyday, don't worry about it Well done!

Finding it hard tonight, and it's even past my danger zone time..

Probably cos DD1 and OH is out and I'm home alone..

can you not go to bed with a nice hot coco! i am off to pick up ds from his party, i agreed to collect, then at least i knew i couldn't have a drink, i am shattered now, so will fall fast asleep when i get back!:A

eselt

Hi all- hope everyone is OK- loads of activity on here, its taken me ages to catch up!

Re: socialising, when I first gave up I would order two bottles of AF beer and get them to put it in a pint glass and noone really noticed, but I soon got fed up of paying through the nose for this and switched to cheap as chips lime and soda and just started telling the truth- I don't drink.After the intial disbelief everyone was fine, particularly as most of them knew what a problem I'd had- I think they were a bit relieved as they didn't have to worry about whwther I'd make an idiot of myself and stumble embarrassingly around the place- quiet and still might be boring, but at least you maintain a bit of dignity and don't have to spend the following day phoning round and apologising for things you can't remember doing......bad times.

Have a good weekend everyone...I will be gripped by grand prix fever, can't wait.

budget_babe

Happy Sunny Positive Morning to you all

Hope everyone is ok?

I am up watching the qualifying, Eselt which team do you support? Please don't say Ferrari? :eek:

So have a good day everyone. I hope you have the sun with you? Especially BhB so as you get to go into that pool of yours :cool: I have a big pond does that count? :rotfl:

So hugs everyone, Adj1nl how are you? Just a little worried as you have been so low? Take care and let us know you are ok? Hugs xxxxxxxxx

Sunny hugs to all
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxx

noynoy

not af free last night and dont think i will be af free tonight either..but i know one thing at least i can stop after a ccouple of glasses now..six months ago would have been a different matter i would have woken up with a hnag over and wasted the weekend..and thats down to me and the support you lot have given me

thanks x

Needstochange

Morning all :wave: :wave:

9 for me please HS. Its absolutely glorious weather here today doesn't it make you feel happier:D

Good week for me so well on my way to my target. Off to visit friends for the weekend now so will be indulging no doubt but it was planned. Really hope the weather stays nice.

Budgie your aim to become a kind person has certainly worked. You are a rock to everyone on here. Have a lovely weekend mi dear and enjoy your "new" rooms.

Have a great weekend all whatever you are up too

sleepyjo

jo1972 wrote: »

I'd love to get back to the person I was 17 years ago, I've been thinking about it today going through the day again with my mum, as, as I had to have an emergency c/section I was out of it and my dear old mum and OH had to bear the brunt of the emotions. DD was very small, just 2lb 8oz and was on life support for a week, we didn't get to hold her in our arms till she was 2 weeks old and was in the hospital till she was 4 months old. I don't think in that entire 4 months alcohol passed my lips and it didn't occur to me either. Maybe I need to think about this more, luckily for me DD1 is now fit and healthy, 3" taller than me (and I'm not short :mad:) and I can think about that time in my life because although it was scary at the time, we all came out of it okay, some don't and wouldn't want to think about that part of their lives.

you sound a lot like me jo, life has taught me over the years (and it has taken me a long time, to come to terms with this) that everything happens for a reason!
i didn't believe that years ago when i had my first baby, a litle boy - full term and he was born dead (stillborn) everyone said it was an act of god, go home and forget and try for another baby, then we had our son, fit and well, then i gave birth to a little girl - full time again and she died as she was being born, then the next year a miscarried at 5 months, a little girl. then i gave up and questioned everything to do with god, life etc. BUT NEVER EVEN THOUGHT OF HAVING A DRINK! then decided by a lovely doctor to try once more and had a lovely daughter, safe and well - then sent husband for the snip straight away!!
it was only years later, when kids were at high school, that i started to drink, first just one at night to help unwind, then one bottle, then i got onto cider, which is and hopefully was my downfall, as it tastes like pop, but has 7.5% in it, so it is quite strong, when you can drink 2.5 litres most days. but like you jo, i never even thought about alcohol during our sad years, never even went on anti-depressants, but i did question everything, then years later, i realised that if my first son had of lived, then i never would have my lovely son i have today, and if any of my dughters had of lived, i wouldn't have got the wonderful daughter that i have now.

i have had two AF days now, still have a headache - but not as bad as yesterday, i'm going to take 6 cans of my peartiser tonight and try not to drink any alc,
best wishes jo-jo

fedupandskint

Mornign everyone!

Nice to have a lie in this morning and wake up in the sunshine and unhungovered.

Noynoy - I am like that now, if I have a drink I can stop after a couple of glasses and not the bottle as it would have been last year. A great achievement for both of us!!

BB - I am also trying to develop my spiritual side by trying to not get so caught up in the consumerist world we live in. I am finding this difficult as you said with trying to make ends meet by working and my negative side comes out there more than ever by coping with the systems there. I love living a simpler life in my mind and in my head with the occasional slip up (as per the 100 day challenge helping me do this and change my even worse beauty habit) I really despised this side of myself for a long time and felt unable to change my ways until I stumbled on this challenge.

Your crystal room sounds lovely BTW

Jo - well done my dear on hanging in there, you sound deep in thought this weekend. I love your posts, they keep me going.

eselt - ditto, you are so kind and thoughtful. I have started enjoying F1 this time round and i'm enjoying the shae up the new rules have caused and the different drivers winning. Quite like Brawn the best at the moment!

Mnd you so is everyone else! I can't believe I had another AF Friday which always was my big trigger bell peels loudly day/night before. A year ago I was discussing at work with my firneds what we would drink when we got in and what time we would start and how much of a mess we would guess we got in. Saturudays were a blur and groggy with a headache. Not today!

Have a good day everyone! Catch up later x