The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

sleepyjo

fluffybishop wrote: »

Hi jo-jo and welcome I only joined in the challenge last month for the first time. When I tried to cut down before I failed miserably, but putting it down here really does help you make and stick to a target

I am like you - every day I would say I am not drinking today, but by 6pm that had gone out the window. Also, my over drinking [and over eating] all started during a very stressful time and I am getting both under control again now but know if I have stress in my life I will reach for comfort food/drink again.

Thanks fluffybishop for your reply, i too seem to over-eat while drinking.
when i was younger, if anything upset me, i always reached for the tin of sweets, then when i got older i reached for the bottle and it seemed better than eating, now i seem to do both, plus the cider i (used to drink- i will say that positively) is loaded with sugar, which doesn't help.
congratulations on the amount of alcohol freee days, you have had, does it get easier in time?
you say that you only drink at the weekends now, can you limit yourself ok, or do you want to drink everything in site, i have tried doing this in the past, but if there was any wine or cider left on a monday morning, i had to finish it, then i thought, oh well! i'll carry on today as well and so on......
best of luck
jo-jo.

fluffyb

Poor winebox My memory goes too when I have overdone it :rolleyes:
Hope Eastenders cheered you up!!! :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: Had me bawling my eyes out....again :rotfl::rotfl::o

Jo, hope you get through tonight ok. Thinking of you

My danger period is over now and I just want a mug of hot chocolate now :rotfl:
HS, please can you put me down for 5 AFD's. Thank you for keeping score this month, you are doing a grand job :T:T

Well that's me done for the week again. I failed miserably on Monday because I am out of my normal routine this week, but managed the last 3 nights fine :rolleyes: The next 3 nights are my planned drinking nights - back off the naughty bench again on Monday :rotfl:

Hope everyone is coping ok tonight. xx

sleepyjo

winebox wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl:oh dear, welcome to my world...at least they were small bottles.

Hi jo-jo (3 jo's now?:eek:)
Jo - how's you tonight now?

I really think this might be the worst hangover I've ever had.

I don't know what to make of OH....took him round a couple of little pressies to "try & redeem myself for poxy behaviour last night" & for starters he insisted I needed a glass of wine to feel better :mad:, then he asked what I was so upset about last night.....I cast around for a few seconds trying to invent something then had to 'fess up, "can't remember"...& he doesn't believe me! Poor chap now thinks he's said / done something to really hurt me that I won't discuss. He asked again & I had to say, I honestly don't remember, that's how very drunk I was. Wot a mess. very shameful.

Something very simalar happened to me last month, i got absolutely sozzled, drinking cider all day on my own, my husband came in for tea and said someone had given him a bottle of wine, so i opened that after tea and drank the lot, i don't even remeber going to bed that night, banging headache the next day, but my husband kept going on, about my decision on what we talked about last night, and that it was a good idea and was pleased that i had told him i would pay for it - and i couldn't remember anything about it, i couldn't remeber having a conversation with him, let alone making any decisions about anything, i pretended i knew what he was on about, untill eventually it came out that i was buying a new awning for the caravan! and i was paying for it!! i thought at first he was making it all up, untill he showed me the catalogue, with my scrawled handwriting across the one that i had picked.
i swore (again) after that - NEVER AGAIN! untill the next night!!:rotfl:

fluffyb

Hi jo-jo - sorry posts crossed

I am drinking on Friday/Sats/Suns and manage to drink around 12-18 units with a mixture of feeling fine about not having another drink and the need on a Sunday to finish the bottle as it won't taste so good the next Friday :rotfl::eek: I was drinking around 60 units a week before that so for me to average around 14 units is brilliant!!!!

I am also taking a herb/plant supplement which helps stop the cravings too and also helps you want to drink less when you do have a drink.

I admit to looking forward to a drink on a Friday night but I have it under control and can say 'no' or even leave half a glass of wine :eek: [unheard of before :rotfl:]

The benefits are good too - saving money,losing more weight,feeling better about myself in general, feeing less worried about damaging my health, and buying a better quality of wine for the 3 nights that I do drink :rotfl:

If I can do it then anyone can

fedupandskint

Oh yes the evenings are long, just about to watch coast to coast and then distract myself by hoovering the house. It's Fridays for me when the wines bells peel louder than ever. What will I do then? Clean the bathroom and watch GW woo hoo what an exciting life I lead!

Think I might sort out my toiletries stash for the holiday in a weeks time instead of hoovering or might do both. Anyway danger time is over for me, Danger Mouse has left after guarding the fridge to stop me going in for wine!

fedupandskint

Oh how rude of me! I forgot the say Welcome to Sleepy Jo or jo-jo!

Welcome! It's great on here for fun and laughs along the hard road of cutting down abstaining from alcohol and tears!

budget_babe

Hi everyone :hello:

Yoga tonight is cancelled so on here instead

Firstly Hugs ((( ))) to Dear Molly Polly it is nice to be missed and I so relate to what you say about being frightened to have a drink. I feel the same now as I've got out of the habit but I suppose that it is just as easy to fall back into an old pattern again before you realise what is happening to you? To be honest I am ok with not drinking, did you see the lady who plays Teresa on Corro last night, drink can make people look, ugly and ignorant when infact this is not the case at all. I thought she played a good part though. I am now liking the me that goes out and is in control and doesn't have to worry about saying something wrong. So just for today I am not having a drink and so it will be the same tomorrow and the next day. Logging on here though keeps me focused and determined. So take care Dear Mp and keep leading the way, hey I am following by your example. Lots of love Angel xxxxx

Maman sorry you too are now unwell, I hope that you start to feel brighter soon. So take care and look after yourself. Hugs xxxxx

Wbf onwards and upwards it is, stay positive and DO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF. Lots of love xxxxxx

Dotty and Fedup (Hope you don't mind the: Dotty, Dotstar). Hugs and well done on the cutting down, Fedup I hope that you are feeling better in yourself? Are you taking care of yourself? Hope you are both ok? Lots of love. xxxxxx

PK well done on the cutting down, hope you are pleased with your: hairdo, I have also had my feathers trimmed today. Take care and hugs xxxxxx

Jo I am sorry to hear that you were feeling so ill this morning, looking after your health is a very good reason to try and give up the alcohol. Having pains and your heart racing is an awful feeling. So PLEASE DO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF ALSO. I worry about you and I hope that you find a way to stay af? It is so hard I know and when I was drinking too much at the weekends and in the mornings beating myself up about it, I still did the same thing again the following weekend. I couldn't/didn't want to give up? But I have now managed it, I guess its being in the right place within yourself at the time? I remember back to my very first post just after new year and after months of lurking I finally posted after writing my poem to take my mind off wanting/needing the all so important glass of red wine. I realise now that a glass of red wine is not important any more being healthy and in control is. I posted that first time after reading Polaroid's post (I know I keep banging on, but I do miss her and hope she is ok?) She was so worried when Eselt was missing, SO COME BACK OUR DEAR POLAROID. So love and hugs our Darling Jo and I think I have probably gone on too much now, but I am worried about you and I hope that you will be ok? Oh and :mad: to the tax credit people. Lots of love xxxxxxxxx
P.s Extra positive thoughts :A xxxxxxx

Dear Winebox aka Slim and Sober I am sorry that you too are feeling ill and had a crap night last night. What I have posted for Jo is for you too. I do also worry about you and I hope that you can find away forward for yourself as well. So please take care of yourself and stay positive. Lots of love xxxxxxx

Nirelandguy well done on 14 days af, you will learn to replace the end of week alcoholic drink with something else, I find posting on here works for me. Sorry you are feeling down but things will get better. So take care and hugs xxxxxx

SleepyJo Hi and welcome you will get the support you need on here and well done for realising that you have got a problem and for deciding to do something about it. Lots of love and hugs xxxxxx
P.s Long posts you don't have to tell me about those :rotfl:

adj1nl hugs Jon and try not to worry (my biggest thing is worry as well). Just take the time you need to get well again and keep posting it helps to write down what you are feeling. Alot harder to tell people you know. So take care and hugs xxxxxx

Bsntc hope you are ok? Take care and lots of love xxxxx

Grahame Carter hope you are ok too? You seem a little quiet, hope all is well with you? So hugs and take care. xxxxxx

Bhb so glad you are back posting :cool: Lots of love xxxxxx

Eselt, Noy noy, Fb, Stroppy, Fay and Bis hugs and take care xxxxx

Sea hope you are ok too? hugs xxxx

HAPPY ANOTHER ONE FOR ME PLEASE MAKING 16 AF DAYS, HUGS AND TAKE CARE XXXXXX

Ok must go or I'll get logged out :eek:
Hugs to everyone else and look after yourselves.
God Bless
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Bismarck

pariskate wrote: »

Hi Jo-Jo and welcome - stick around here and you'll get lots of good advice and insight but maybe most importantly open and uncritical ears. It's really hard when we don't have anyone to talk about our alcohol fears with.

if you need some me time how about deciding that instead of opening a bottle to relax and look forward to after work, take a bath and pamper yourself, or go out alone to the movies (I love doing this), or take a walk in the sunshine or whatever - just a simple pleasure that gives you a bit of space and time.
Maybe Nirelandguy you need to find a 'treat' to replace alcohol to look forward to at the weekend? Something that takes your fancy and would be a good reward for all your hard work. I know how you mean about life not seeming fun with no drink - I think it takes time to get used to the rythm of a teetotal life.

Myabe Bismark, Eselt or GC has some insight here?

you'll like this one:

when I gave up smoking, I resolved that it was OK because I promised my self I could drink as much as I liked as long as I didn't smoke....

quitting smoking was easy.

drinking was deeply ingrained and took a lot of looking at myself and finding my own balance and peace.

still working on that part but I think I'm a better person.

the key thing to my stopping was understanding what I wanted out of my life.....then I started to try and do the right thing more often...even when it seemed difficult.

take care everyone.

pariskate

winebox wrote: »

how's the hairdo?:D

Stunning! Well, neat and tidy at least. How about you BB - had a make over?

I've had many an occasion when people have spoken about drunk conversations and I haven't the faintest what they are talking about - they must think I'm simple! And it would be funny if really it wasn't actually kind of sad. Our poor OHs living with these kind of semi-senile alcohol sodden wrecks!

I know a few folks have mentioned taking Antidepressants with alcohol and my GP told me that it wasn't recommended because it made the alcohol affect you more and exacerbated the memory loss:eek:

Anyway AF for me, was going to have a glass but knocked it flying before I got to have some.

Will not be able to post over the weekend so have a good time if I don't pop in tomorrow.

lillibet_dripping

A very good evening to all! Lillibet dripping is pleased to anounce that ....

(cue: drum roll) she has had HER FIRST AF DAY for many moons:j:j:j:j.

Couldn't tell you why, or how it happened - simply a lovely day with the kids messing about in the garden, leisurely dinner, watched Coast, and suddenly realised I hadn't drunk anything!!!

Am looking forward to a good night's sleep and waking refreshed tomorrow to do it all over again.

x