The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

eselt

graemecarter wrote: »

barshamhillbilly - keep going mate. We are all behind you. Let us take some of the strain and the load. If we each take a little bit, it means A LOT of weight off your shoulders.

Yep, second that. Just noticed BHB you've done over a week AF? Thats brilliant- when I first gave up I was like a bear with a sore head and very stressy it was like having PMT for a couple of weeks and I thought my head was going to burst, particularly as I was going through bankruptcy at the same time, but then I started to feel calm and confident again, and I stopped worrying about the money worries and started to think positively about bankruptsy, starting over etc rather than sob into a glass that I couldn't afford! You'll get through this, you'll always have your lovely family, things will turn out for the best and at the end of the day whatever happens as long as you have your health and family your world will never stop. Take care BHB and wideload, sounds like you are being severely tested at the moment, well done you for not thinking the answer lies in a bottle, thats a huge positive step. I've got loads of spare eggs from yesterday if more chocolate would help!?

Take care everyone today, welcome to new people, keep on keeping on strugglers old and new, by hook or by crook we can do this, and things will be OK, just hold your nerve.

Bismarck

and here we are, before 9am on a Bank Holiday morning when half the world seems asleep...

Eric Clapton was on the radio yesterday and I thought what was the use of fame and wealth if you've lost something so dear?

So I thought about what I had and resolved even more to keep holding on to it...take care everyone.

barshamhillbilly

Thank you for the support peeps.

I'm feeling really positive again this morning, as I didn't cave last night

I AM GOING TO DO IT THIS TIME !!!!!!!!!!!

'Nicelyshapedload' brought me a cup of tea in bed this morning ...... must be a peace offering after eating my chocolate :rotfl:

Another stressful day today though as we have another home educating family coming over for a social with the kids. The kids and mum are VERY VERY load :eek:

Our little one with Aspergers doesn't like noise, but needs the social contact. Lights blue touch paper and stands back .........

Best wishes and thanks again for ll the support

BHB

noynoy

morning all hope you had a fab easter!!

we went to blackpool 7 hour drive with 1 toddler and 3 babys 2 teenagers 2 men and 3 woman all on a mini bus (thankfully no ciff richards summer holiday on the radio)
basically i belong to a private forum with 50 other woman who all had babys due in may and we met up in the middle of the country which happened to be blackpool ..ben had his first donkey ride which he loved and it was lovely to put faces to names and fab to see how different each 1 year old is in development! plus loads of lovely food ..i was good i had 2 small yes proper small 125ml glasses of white wine and sunday when we finally got back i had 2 small glasses of red so from good friday to sunday i have had 4 small glasses of wine

good friday was af so thats

5 days af now please HAPPYSHOPPER XXX

Miss_Piggy_2

Morning all!

BHB - thankyou so much for giving me a laugh on a Bank Holiday monday morning. Hope you got the new frying pan! Seriously though, everything can seem so hard sometimes and its natural to take it out on the closest person. Just ask MR Piggy!!!! Glad you are feeling more positive now...

Budgie - hope you are ok?? Perhaps you're body is starting to regulate its blood pressure ok on its own so the tablets may need reducing. My Mum had a major heart attack and too quite a high dose of tablets to control blood pressure afterwards - but then they had to reduce them as it was coming under control. Am sure after a month the doctor will have a good idea of what to do. ((hugs))

I was SO tempted to have a glass of wine last night. But Mr Piggy refused to go and buy me any :rotfl:. So I was well behaved.

Happyshopper 11 for me please!

Hope everyone has a good Bank Holiday monday

Miss P
xx

happyshopper

April scores after Day 12

Name Target/30 Actual/12
115k 15 2
40somethingmum 27 7
ad1jnl 30 ?
budget babe 30 12
eselt 30 12
fayjmck 20 4
fedupandskint 19 7
fluffybishop 10 2
glasgowgirl 12 3
happyshopper 20 5
lillibet dripping 10 0
lurkio 18 3
maman 10 2
miss piggy 25 11
needstochange 16 5
noynoy 13 5
pariskate 15 3
stroppy 10 0
**upsy daisy** 15 2
wanna bee free 10 1
winebox 10 2

Have had a 'sociable' few days and am in danger of going into 'oh sod it' mode. Am going out for lunch today and then meeting another friend later for a drink and if I am not AF today I won't hit my target (20) and then will give up. On the other hand, I'm bloody stubborn :rolleyes: so perhaps I won't fork it up. ntc, I have the sore throat too, ouch.

Take it easy everybody, see you tomorrow, HS.

jo1972

Morning all

I didn't do very well yesterday, total loss of resolve with no justification for it. At the time I decided to blame the stressful drive and visit to the outlaws, which, actually, wasn't all that stressful

Nevermind, not drinking today, have 13p to my name and need to frogmarch OH to Mr T's to get some bits so no chance for beer to be bought today, quick dinner planned of warm tuna pasta salad, fresh and healthy, then easter egg for afties We'll probably have to watch a film as it's OH's last day off and back at work in the morning and he'll moan if I go to bed too early (9.30pm last night, just couldn't stay awake any longer! )

BHB & Mrs BHB, hope you're both okay, keep relaxed during your guests visit

Budgie, are you okay? Your BP sounded very low, is there a walk-in centre near you or A&E, I'd get it checked out, keep us updated

FB, great to have you back, glad you had a good time

Eselt, I've got to go to the dentist tomorrow, first time in 4 years and I'm absolutely terrified :o:o Good for you for enjoying the time spent with the little ones this weekend, you'll be sorry you taught your LO chess though, she'll want to be playing it all the time!!

NTC, hope you're feeling better today

Miss P, good on Mr P keeping you AF!!

Hello to everyone else, hope you are all enjoying the weekend?

xx

fedupandskint

Just popping in to say had 3 glasses of white wine on Friday then AF on Sat and Sun making it 8 AFD for me now. Should be AF today also so hopefully on 9AFD by the end of the day.

Will catch up later as off do some housework and gardening now!

jo1972

God I'm so p1ssed off :mad: just rung the tax credits people to find out what's happening with my claim, don't know if you remember that they stopped paying me because THEY FORGOT (their own admission!) to ask me for my 2007-2008 income details and I had to start a whole new claim. I sent it on 23rd March and they say they've lost it and it will take 2 weeks to find it and if they can't find it I'll have to make a new claim. Now this is all very well and good but I didn't get a payment 4 weeks ago cos they stopped my claim and I would've been due to be paid again today which obviously won't happen and it's DD1's birthday on Friday and I have 13p to my name

My credit rating has always been shot and I've been looking at ways to improve it so thought I'd go for one of those higher interest credit-improving credit cards with a low limit and use it frequently but on small things and pay off in full everytime to improve me credit and THEY'VE TURNED ME DOWN!!!! :(:(

Dunno what I'm going to do about DD1's birthday

Sorry for the rant but I don't know what I'm going to do.

ad1jnl

Oh dear - where do I start since I last posted. Bit of a nightmare - I've had 4/5 days drinking in total and therefore 8/9 AFD. However due to depression/anxiety these have tended to be v big binges - this has left me having suicidal thoughts and feeling like it isn't worth being here. I've had an occupational health meeting and been to the doctors so I'm back on anti-depressants and signed off work (thankfully fully paid) Problem is the mortgage payment got refused this month and after going on a binge there is little left - I'm now petrified of losing the flat and stewing on the idea.
I'm seeing a CBT counsellor tomorrow and will see the doctor again next week. Just can't believe I've put myself in a position like this after i'm trying to turn things round - sorting out a DMP and trying to sort the depression. It just makes me feel like a failure - although I kind of know its the depression/alcohol.
Going to phone the mortgage company and see if I can sort something out re the arrears tomorrow. Haven't had a drink since Saturday/Sunday morning

Tried AA meetings but just can't get my head round it. Although I do identify with what people are saying.

Jon