The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

eselt

Hi all- happy easter veryone.

Well I've spent the day at the emergency dentist- had nagging toothache for weeks, woke up this morning with a rather attractive footballesque face- went to dentist thinking I had an abcess or something, but two of my teeth are just knackered according to the dentist and had one out and a root canal in the other which should be OK for a cap later- had aneasthetic and my son was freaked out completely, said I looked like the joker from batman, and my face is still frozen now- how do those women have botox? So that was my afternoon, but at least it wasn't down the pub, which I passed and everyone was outside in the sun and having a great time...huge pangs of regret that I can't do that anymore, used to love it on a bank holiday.

Hope everyone is OK tonight, BHB, sorry rural life is

Needstochange

eselt wrote: »

pangs of regret that I can't do that anymore, used to love it on a bank holiday.

Hey Eselt I know I felt a bit the same today too and a bottle of water does not really seem to hack it .................but .................how many "days after" bank holidays have you "lost" to excruciating hangovers? Quite a few for me I know:o That tooth sounds really sore and not the nicest place to spend Easter sunday. poor you :sad:

Budgie I have replied and dont worry my lips are properly sealed;)
Sorry to hear this thread is spreading bugs down the line and that BP really does sound scarily low missus:eek: at what point would you call the doc again?

BHB. Have you tried a bit of chocolate bribery? it could end up saving your life:rotfl:

Going to head to bed soon still pondering why a rather large combine harvester decided to shred my throat :sad: :sad:

Good night all and get well soon to all us sickies:o

graemecarter

wideload64 wrote: »

Quote "One of the lambs dropped down dead for no apparent reason in the night and our old billy goat is having to be shot on Thursday because he can hardly walk no due to arthritis.

Whilst I am not really the sentimental type when it comes to the animals, Mrs BHB is really attached to the old goat and she also doesn't want the other lamb to be on its own. (we had two lambs to bottle feed from the farm down the road just to fatten up). She has now gone out to get another one to keep it company ...... which has now arrived as I can hear it calling in the barn!!

My point is this is one of my 'triggers' as the 'deal' is Mrs BHB is supposed to organise her finances to cover things like this. Bet yet again it falls on me to borrow some money from the mortgage account to pay for the slaughter man to come out from the goat. (I pay the household bills and she does the kids clothes food and animals - supposedly to save arguments over who's spending what). The slaughter man was out before Christmas for something else and it would have cost nothing at all for him to take the old goat at the time which was my advice to Mrs BHB at the time.

So now, as Mrs BHB hasn't got the money to cover it, we have to fall behind with the mortgage AGAIN (after finally getting on top of it this month), as not to see the old boy suffer any more. :mad::mad::mad::mad:"

This is called kicking someone when they are down. Is it any wonder I drink and suffer from depression.

You make the choice to drink. No-one pours it down your throat.
Part of stopping drinking is stopping yourself volunteering to be the victim
I know people that have buried their children and still have not picked up over it.
While it sounds like you are going through a tough time, you don't have to drink on it. I hope things get better, it sounds torrid, but I am sure it will be ok in the end.

Perhaps see a doctor about depression??

Bismarck

eselt wrote: »

everyone was outside in the sun and having a great time...huge pangs of regret that I can't do that anymore, used to love it on a bank holiday.

the perfect place to start....

drove home from being out and went past countless pubs of folks sat outside in the sun, drinking away and I felt no regrets at all....

I really wouldn't want to, even if I could with no strings attached, at all.

my life is so different now and yeah, sometimes I get frustrated but the pub life is so different from the one I have and the one I aspire to that I don't want to go there.

I really did not belong in that group. In some ways now, I'm not sure I really did anyway.

Had been wanting to start my post with a "them" and "us" thing about long weekends and the odd feeling that I had in the kitchen this evening that I could, in some way, be missing out on some ficticious "great time".....

MY sane counterpart came to the rescue..."missing out on what, exactly?"

It wasn't a long discussion...

When I went past the pubs I saw various groups holding court over a few beers, and I wondered what they would be like at the end of the day, and was it all really worth it?

And later, as I write, the police sirens start wailing and no doubt the A & E wards will be filling up with victims of one sort or another and I thought how happy I was to be just me, in my world with my folks, thank you very much.

No, I don't want to go back, thank you.

take care everyone, well done BB on the hundred...keep it up - if you want to, of course!

Bismarck

barshamhillbilly wrote: »

That'll be a yes;)

She is a bit busy right now trying to get the frying pan off my head , so please excuse me if I spoll tinks wong . I can't sea the treebord :rotfl:und der hundel is oop mi dose !

On a brighter note - I've just done 7 AF days on the trot :j

Best wishes
Andy
(still alive)

hope you've got a tent pitched, it will be cold outside.

though probably still warmer than being inside methinks....

eselt

Hi all- GC and Bis you are so right (as always!)- I have spent the last few sunny days with my kids (apart from dentists) and I have taught my little daughter to play chess (and yes she loves it and wants to play all the time!!)and these are the memories I should cherish, not lost days in the pub spending their child benefit on rounds for half strangers. Just a bit of wistfulness today, but in the cold light of day I've not missed anything, if these people wanted to spend time with me they'd come round to my house, and since hardly any of my ex drinking buddies do that I have to assume they can't be bothered.

Tooth has a heartbeat all of its own now anaesthetic wearing off- hope its OK tommorrow, I'm hoping for a nice picnic.

BB- hope the blood pressure is OK- I was always told bottom reading should be 50 plus your age, top reading not much over 130. I have high blood pressure so can't give much advice but GP should help? Hugs to you.

Hope everyone is OK tonight- take care- specially BHB and the animals, sounds really stressful to lose them when you've spent so much time nurturing them and looking after them- hugs to Mrs BHB, she must be upset.

barshamhillbilly

Bismarck wrote: »

hope you've got a tent pitched, it will be cold outside.

though probably still warmer than being inside methinks....

:o Just my way of coping, and not drinking. :o

What's best is not always easiest, I know. But if we don't toughen up regarding the smallholding we will lose the lot as we are hanging on by our fingertips already. £100 spent in any month unplanned is enough for us to go over the edge, so I hope you can see where I was coming from.

We already have CCJ's and other debts, don't want to lose the house as well.

On the other hand, Mrs BHB (who ,by the way, is nowhere near a wide load .... unless she has hogged all my chocolate ??) is rather fond of the beasties, so I can see why she was upset. She is especially fond of the billy goat as he was the first one we had.

Its all a bit stressful this weekend, not only with the little one having Asbergers, but with visits from all and sundry, extra sugar in the kids diet, both of us trying to stay off the grog, and no money ! We are both a little 'tense', you might say :eek:

We are OK really ...... though the kids have got a tent up in the garden if I need it

Still - 7 days an 4 hours since the last drink !

BHBx

Bismarck

thanks for letting us know you're OK...I can't afford to drink for many, many reasons!

I'd be stuffed if they made coffee expensive though!.

barshamhillbilly

Bismarck wrote: »

bhb and mrs bhb, hope you're OK...not much fun this, sometimes.....

We're OK. She has chocolate - I have fizzy orange &
We both have each other ............




But we do need a new frying pan :rotfl:

graemecarter

barshamhillbilly - keep going mate. We are all behind you. Let us take some of the strain and the load. If we each take a little bit, it means A LOT of weight off your shoulders.