The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

jo1972

Jon, wished I could help, just want to send a hug (((())))

I will say though, the longer off alcohol the fog does disperse and positive thoughts filter back in.

Good luck tomorrow, let us know how you get on

winebox

Hi bhb & jo you're all having carp time..sorry. & Jon. I so wish I could help out with it all!

Jo how old is DD1 going to be? - think she's a teenager? so not to be fobbed off then. Got a tent? - let her & some mates camp out overnight in the garden....tho it's still pretty cold at night so far.

Jon I don't know what to say this is way outside my experience (apart from the binge, obviously), but good luck & keep us posted.

bhb...I couldn't keep animals for this very reason much as I love them (when I win the lotto will have biggest animal sanctuary in UK); when OH & I took the dogs out yesterday we thought it odd that there was a 4x4 going up the track, never seen a car up there before, when we got to where they'd turned round I suddenly saw a huge black rabbit ie obv not wild, then another one that was dark brown, OH's dog went for them & for once I was thankful he's old & slow or they would've both been goners instantly, but it was awful cos despite the fact there's a huge dog intent on killing them they kept coming towards the sound of our voices, & there they were in a huge field totally bewildered cos these complete barstewards had obviouly just let their 2 pet rabbits go in the wild. It's really preying on my mind; so much for the Easter Bunny. I can't believe how cruel people can be ........which has actually got naff all to do with having to have your old billy put down! Sorry!

I'm gonna start over tomorrow...it'll be 3 months since dad's funeral & i can't keep on burying "stuff" (or, rather, drowning it)...as budgie quite rightly points out I'm responsible for others, & have been self indulgent for too long. That's what getting drunk is, selfish.

This is a totally disjointed rubbish post - apologies. Lovely weather today!

ad1jnl

Thanks Jo,

I'm trying not to get too concerned with the mortgage - I'm going to give them a repayment plan for the arrears and its only one month. I shouldn't get any problems in future months if I manage the budget better. Fingers crossed.

I feel better than I did yesterday. Alcohol certainly doesn't help clear things up - I've just got to the point where I need more help - time off,therapy, anti-depressants.

Jon

jo1972

winebox wrote: »

Jo how old is DD1 going to be?

17 :eek::eek::eek::eek:

stroppy

Hi everyone.
Im finally out the starting blocks...:j
1 for me please Happyshopper.
Am hoping for today too......my resolve is strong at the moment but who knows what will happen when it gets to 7.30
Tomorrow is my DD 4th birthday party so need to make party bags tonight and be very organised for tomorrow.Her birthday is wednesday so know both mornings she will be up at the crack of dawn
Stroppy xx

winebox

jo1972 wrote: »

17 :eek::eek::eek::eek:

tent in garden carp idea then!!

Wanna_Bee_Free

Hi everyone, Sunday was another AFD so 3/10 for me please Happy Shopper. Had only a large glass of wine on Saturday so I am feeling pleased because my last two drinking days have been low as well.

Will report back tomorrow about today as the wine bells are ringing and the sun is shining.

budget_babe

Hi everyone,

Just a quick post tonight as I am feeling not very well at all, but thankyou Bsntc, Eselt, Jo and Miss P for you kind words.

Bhb Hope you and Mrs Bhb are having a nice bank holiday and that you are both ok. Well done on not drinking and please both of you DO TAKE CARE. Hugs xxxxx

Eselt sorry you have had a nightmare of a day yesterday it sound awful. I hope you are feeling better today and please do take care. Hugs xxxxx

Bsntc hugs and I have pmd you but sorry its a little late, I have been feeling very unwell. So a poorly Budgie B is me. Hope you are better and you have had a nice day with friends? Hugs xxxxx

Bis thankyou I am pleased to have gone over the 100 mark and to be honest how I am feeling at the moment I am glad I am af as I am a tad worried over my health. So thankyou as ever for your posts. I hope you have had a nice bank holiday? Hugs xxxxx

Jo hugs and I do hope things get better for you? Good luck at the dentist tomorrow :eek: As you know I am petrified. I am not sure what 17 year old girls like I am afraid, what kind of things is she into? I hope you manage to work something out though? Sending you a big hug and please take care. Hugs xxxxxx

Adj1nl hugs to you life certainly sound horrible at the moment, I am particularly concerned that you have had suicidal thoughts, please don't keep these to yourself, I don't know if you have anyone that you can talk to? Have you tried the Samaritains they are open 24 hrs a day. There is always someone on the other end of the phone and they are non judgemental. (I did think of volunteering myself once but my DH and DS discouraged me as I tend to get quite emotionally involved). Well done though on taking time off work and for getting help with the depression. I hope life gets better for you soon, please do keep posting. Hugs xxxxx

Winebox hugs and I hope in my previous post that I did not come over too harsh? It is so hard sometimes wording things in the right way? But I really hope that you can get back on track and I wish you good luck. You can do this just stay positive and keep busy. We all want you to succeed. Love and hugs my friend and take care xxxxxx

Happy I am on 13 af days now please, hope you are ok? Lots of love. xxxxxx

Hugs to everyone else either here or missing? Just one note though Molly Polly I can see you about but you are quiet at the moment, are you ok? Hugs xxxxxx

God Bless everyone and take care
Budgie xxxxxxxxxxxxx

Pippilongstocking

Catch up in a bit just home, car unpacked.

will catch up and ssay hi properly later x

graemecarter

ad1jnl wrote: »

Tried AA meetings but just can't get my head round it. Although I do identify with what people are saying.

Jon

Sounds familiar, I had that initially, and I think everyone does.
The main thing is that you just turn up and listen to the similarities. You start to get it after a while.
If you identify with others, they have very probably been through what you are going through, so you may want to listen to them.
No-one is asking you to do any more than turn up and listen.
You sound distressed, and have nothing to lose and everything to gain.