The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

stroppy

Hi everyone,
Feeling very fed up with myself tonight
I dont seem to be very good at giving stuff up
Managed 2 weeks of not smoking and am now back on about 6-7 a day rather than the 20 I was on before but annoyed I didnt just stick it out! My AFD target of 10 has no hope now of being reached...limping in at 5 maybe 6 if I can manage tomorrow.Some days I have managed to have just the one glass of wine rather than two and saturday night only had 2/3 of a bottle rather than a full one but still struggling with actually having complete days off. I have also managed to break my AFD sunday rule twice this month :mad:
Come 7.30 every night I just go onto auto pilot and open the wine and break out the ciggies!
I have managed to put on a stone(6lbs in the 2 weeks I gave up smoking) in the last few months , have never been one to eat much but suddenly I am picking all the time
Thing is now instead of enjoying all this drinking,smoking,eating I am cross at myself each time I do them.
Sorry for the miserable rant
stroppy xx

fluffyb

I can really understand where you are coming from Stroppy

Last year I cut down but still drank every night albeit 2/3 bottle of wine instead of a whole bottle, but struggled with having AF days.

I only joined in the challenge this month and can't believe I am managing 4 AFD in a row each week :eek: I think it is the kudzu mkng it so much easier this time :j
I allow myself drinking days Fri/Sat/Sun which compared to 7 nights a week previously is bloody marvellous, but I tell you what, I actually enjoy the drink more - for all the right reasons I mean! I sip it instead of knocking the first couple back as quickly as pos and am enjoying the taste rather than the effects IYSWIM. Best of all - I am not worrying myself silly that I am damaging my health which just made me drink more!!!!!! am drinking less on the nights I drink too :j
If you can just get 2 or 3 nights in a row under your belt to start with it makes you feel so pleased with yourself and when you do allow yourself that drink it is better because the guilt is not there and the worry you are drinking more units than is good for you.

I know it is hard, but the feeling it gives you is worth it. I hope that makes sense!!!!! Good luck stroppy xx

stroppy

Thank you fluffybishop.
I think I will try the kudzo maybe it will help.
I noticed you said before you used to drink whilst cooking the dinner...thats exactly what I do. Manage to knock my first glass back very quickly at 7.30 when I begin cooking and then have another whilst eating and clearing up....:rolleyes:
I find when I have AFD i miss having 'a treat' to look forward to that night IYKWIM
Stroppy xx

fluffyb

Yes, cooking the dinner was my q to start to relax, so the wine got opened as I cooked and then more with dinner..........and so on

The first week I did it at the beg. March I tried a bottle of AF wine which was horrid and a complete waste of money as it was just like normal grape juice in a glass bottle :rolleyes:
If I didn't drink wine, every now and then I might have a vodka and slimline tonic. So, if I am having a bit of a wobble when cooking dinner I have a large glass of slimline tonic and I think it fools my brain into thinking it's an alcoholic drink :rotfl: :rotfl: I am easily fooled though! :rotfl:

Last year I was climbing the walls just doing 1 or 2 nights AF and probably only managed the same all year as I have managed just in March :j I do credit the kudzu with making it easier and already I can have nights when I don't think about drinking at all and the wobbly moments don't last as long. It also helps you to cut down on the nights you do drink, though I think my tolerance levels are changing a lot so I just don't need as much :j
I think it is worth trying anything to make it easier and do whatever works for you
Stroppy, if I can do it then anyone can I reckon xx

graemecarter

jo1972 wrote: »

I am struggling big time at the moment

Getting fed up with this vicious circle, want to break the chain but constantly stopping myself, it's as if I'm on auto-pilot. It's easier to drink and be miserable than to not drink and be happy....work that one out..

Sounds normal. You are not alone

I feel with myself, that the bottle is not the problem. I am the problem, and I use alcohol to run away/escape from myself. Thus if I put the alcohol down, the problem still remains (i.e. me)
Thus I need to change me to get relief from the debating society in my head. Then I don't want to drink.
Sure, I have bad days like everyone else, but I never feel like picking up a drink.

I hope not drinking works for you, as it cannot work for me. I needed a big change, and since I have had it, I have stopped volunteering to be the victim in life.

maman

Stroppy and Fluffy, I'm another 'I like to cook with wine' person but agree with you Fluffy if you hang on in there past the danger time it gets easier. And Stroppy I think the fact that you are getting cross with yourself is a good sign as it means you care and hopefully soon you'll care enough to just go that little bit further. I find it easier to either drink what I want or not drink at all. I can't just have one or two glasses. Today I've got a small amount in a bottle left from yesterday (probably a large glass) but I would be really mad with myself if I spoiled an AF day for just one glass.

Budgie, I love your posts and thanks for the May scoring offer. And Happy Shopper I'm delighted you're doing April for us. My target will be low due to holidays etc but I'm determined to keep going.

Jo, do come on and post, I've been worrying about you ever since you told us about the tax credits fiasco.

This wasn't meant to be such a long post, really came on just to say exceeded my target, 13AF for me please ntc and a big thank you for scoring this month :T

lillibet_dripping

Hi peeps
Another morning when I've woken up feeling nowhere near 100%. Have been reading back on this thread and realised that I have to give up for the sake of my children. I am divorced and doing the single parent bit. If I am not here for them, who will be?
I would like to join in with this challenge. At the moment, I am drinking a bottle of wine a night in the week, then getting through a box on Sat/Sun. Often start drinking at lunchtime at the weekend, having a snooze and starting all over again when I start cooking. I can relate to so many of the comments I have read on here.
So, today, I will try to have ONE AFD.....
And can I ask, what is kudzo?
x

mollypolly

Welcome Lillibet and good luck for your AFD today.

Hope everyone's ok today.

Lovely and sunny here this morning and I have loads to do.....packing my bags for my short break which starts tomorrow.Wooohooooo:D
See you later
Love Mollypollyxxxx

jo1972

Morning all, just took me 15 minutes to catch up...loads of thought provoking posts! I'm now very late for work and don't have time to post properly, got a few hello's and questions I want to post, so this shall have to wait till I get into 'work'

AF last night by the way, feel like I've been hit by a bus this morning, but I now realise this is normal

Thanks for caring

xx

mollypolly

jo1972 wrote: »

AF last night by the way, feel like I've been hit by a bus this morning, but I now realise this is normal

Thanks for caring

:T :T :T :T :T :T :T :T

Well done JO.