The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

fluffyb

I know what you mean winebox - I HATE exercise with a passion but have had to do it to see any weight loss alongside counting calories and have lost quite a bit now, but still have a way to go

Am going away for a week on 5th of April and trying to lose as much as I can by then. Having AF days should help Have done 1 hours aerobic dancing so far today already :j :j :j I don't mind dancing, and I am lucky I work part time from home so can fit it in, but now about to do a session on the exercise bike :rolleyes: Have a really big family 'do' in July and want to have lost another 1.5 stones by then :rolleyes:

fedupandskint

winebox wrote: »

I think I've struggled up to 3 days now woop di woo but still way OTT on the other days except for one.

Am in pain from top to toe.....after nearly 20 years of resolutely refusing to do any exercise I had an hour of "tums bums & legs" yesterday. OMG!:eek: :eek:
Far too many bits wobbling about - parts of me were still moving for minutes after I'd stopped.....must get rid of my wine tum before the summer!

Hey there WB, nice to hear from you again, hang in there and afterall 3 AFD are better than 0

Tell me about it - I am wobbling more than ever due to my low movements following the car accidents and eating lots of crisps and bargain priced easter eggs to cheer myself up a bit. I gave up chocolate for Lent and from tomorrow (or today as have none!) I am giving up crisps for the next 100 days alongside chocolate :eek:

As I'm breaking my skincare and cosmetic addictions thanks to the 100 day challenge thread I'm adding in these 2 things to try and lose a bit of weight alongside drinking way less alcohol :rotfl:

No temptation for alcohol today I think, it will be the weekend that is more difficult and I'm going to try for an AF Fri and Sun this week and, no not try, be successful

noynoy

hi lads and ladys had some bad news at the weekend ..and fell of the wagon big time..but im getting my head together now and feel ready to start af days again..thank you for your patience x 2/31

beachbeth

I hate that poo advert too!:mad:

Also, although I know its trying to provide information I really can't stand the ads showing people having strokes - awful! My MIL's face went like this a few years ago (she is no longer with us) and she hadn't had a stroke. It was Bells Palsy, which isn't so serious, so I think this advert could frighten people unecessarily too!

I either turn the channel over or turn the tv off when the ads come on - they seem to go on forever and drive me mad!!!

fluffyb

I agree - I HATE HATE HATE the 'I want to do a poo at Pauls' advert :mad: :mad: :mad: :rotfl:

jo1972

Ok, me and self-sabotage

I already said this morning about me going into the shop whilst screaming wildly (to myself ) that I don’t want anything in the shop, anything, least of all alcohol. But then make an immediate beeline to the stella fridge and skip joyfully to the counter with armfuls of beer whilst telling myself I don’t want it but I’m going to buy it anyway. I sometimes feel like the Jim Carey character out of Liar Liar when he’s trying to write ‘blue’ with a black pen but he can’t physically do it and throws himself all over the room wrestling with himself trying to do something different, whilst I’m handing the money over for my purchase and still screaming inside ‘I DON’T WANT IT!!!!!’

I then got to thinking about other things in my life that I do even though I don’t want to. I used to smoke until a couple of years ago, smoked since the age of 13. At the worst was on 40 a day for some time. I always wanted the first one of the day as obviously that relieved the 'wanting a fag' tension, but then 5 or 10 minutes later I would light another but I obviously didn't have the same craving like the first one, but I'd have it anyway...cos I could...and cos I usually do.

I then started thinking about how I always make everything so difficult for myself...my OH often says that I always like to take the most difficult approach to everything in life. This is very true, if there's an easy way I won't do it. I procrastinate until I'm running around like a blue bummed fly trying to cram everything in at the last minute and I happily sit there procrastinating knowing full well that I will regret it.

There are other occasions, for example, when I know that I need to drive somewhere I don't know...I have no problem driving, in fact quite enjoy it, that is until I have to venture down a road that I've not travelled before :eek: even if I prepare by printing maps, getting AA routefinder directions and even looking on google maps at the actual birds eye view of my route, I panic. From the moment I know I am going somewhere, even if it's 2 months away I will start to panic to the point of hysteria. Why??? I don't mind driving, I'm not a nervous driver, I'm only going to be going on roads not cross country and I've got the map!!!

So, I have come to the conclusion that I do everything possible to make my life more difficult, I enjoy being in a panic and I enjoy worrying about things.

I'm sure there are lots more examples but got to do some work so might think about this further and 'list' them later :rotfl:

Can anyone 'see' themselves in the above??

xx

fedupandskint

beachbeth wrote: »

Also, although I know its trying to provide information I really can't stand the ads showing people having strokes - awful! My MIL's face went like this a few years ago (she is no longer with us) and she hadn't had a stroke. It was Bells Palsy, which isn't so serious, so I think this advert could frighten people unecessarily too!

Same here, my nan had a very serious stroke that she eventually died from and I cannot bear to watch that advert as it brings back so many memories. I had to turn over the first time I saw it

mollypolly

Morning everyone,
Very busy on here at the moment.Hope you are all ok.
Hello to newbies.

JO Your post could have been written by me (if I had your way with words:rolleyes: )
Regarding making things difficult I think I have done this with smoking, drinking and eating too.But the worst thing was with the CC before I had my LBM.I would stand in a queue waiting to pay for something,knowing my CC was nearly at its limit, knowing I didnt really need this dress/skirt/blouse/shoes ,(screaming at myself that I couldnt afford it) then smiling sweetly at the sales assistant and paying with said CC.

I think all this is to do with self-worth as Fay says.Because now I am in debt I dont feel worthy of being loved by anyone which then makes me sad and which then makes me think *** it I may as well buy something else anyway.
Dont know if any of this makes much sense...just rambling.
Take care
Love Mollypollyxxxx

eselt

Hi all- taken me 2 hrs to catch up!!!!! Molly you sound a bit flat- you OK?

Fay- thanks for the plant advice- its so obvious theres a perfectly good PhD in you, stop doubting yourself immediately!!!!!

Miss P- hope your mums mood has lifted a bit, do you think shes depressed? She sounds quite low, and when people are depressed they often get insular and forget about the feelings of others, I'm sure she didn't mean to worry you, shes just not herself at the moment.

Welcome ad1jnl- I was thinking about your post, debt is such a debilitating thing-it causes so much stress, anxiety and depression- I know you are thinking about a DMP but if its any consolation I worried myself nearly to death in 2005, drank loads, didn't sleep, got depressed etc all because of debt and I thought it was the end of the world- well guess what, the worst happened, I went bankrupt and I woke up the next morning and the world hadn't stopped, and I got through it and rebuilt my life and you will too- think of all those greedy bankers out there and all of our money and pensions they've lost, however big your debt is its still tiny compared to that. Take care, and remember drinking won't help, it doesn't help at all because you are drinking for the wrong reasons.

Good to know the Kudzu club is going well- wild oats eh?- OMG I thought all that was behind me...........................take care everyone. I am going to follow Bis's thought for yesterday and spend the rest of today in control.

jo1972

mollypolly wrote: »

I would stand in a queue waiting to pay for something,knowing my CC was nearly at its limit, knowing I didnt really need this dress/skirt/blouse/shoes ,(screaming at myself that I couldnt afford it) then smiling sweetly at the sales assistant and paying with said CC.

This is another one of my self-sabotage moments, I used to be addicted to ebay AND I had a cheque book :rolleyes: I'd buy everything willy nilly knowing that I wouldn't have ANY money in my account for a few days but sent a cheque for when I did. One day I remember writing 21 cheques :eek:

ETA: then I wondered why I had baliffs knocking on my door.....