The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

eselt

Hi Sclyates, welcome aboard- I went bankrupt a couple of years ago and the build up to it was so stressful I'm sure I just hit the bottle to try and get away from it. Hugs to you. I suppose there are 2 things I now know, the capital of france is paris, and drinking doesn't help anything. Its not an answer, it never could be and it never will be. Took me a long time to realise that, too long really. It might be an idea to tackle this while you still have the choice- I've never regretted a minute I've spent sober, but I can't quite shift the dreadful feelings I have about being a drunk.

Take care.

noynoy

1/31 i did it yay! such a positive feeling this morning ..i feel really good..can i just say although i dont know any of you im so proud that your all making a big postivie step to make your life better! xx well done and big hug x

fluffyb

Noy noy it was day 1 AF for me too yesterday so I know how good you are feeling today :T

jo1972

Hi all, been busy at work today so will have to catch up later.

Had some great news just now though, just found out that the tax office are issuing me a cheque for £587.87 for back dated tax credits from 2002-2003, that is a fantastic weight off of my shoulders for the rest of the month as I got paid last Friday and don't have ANY of it left bar a tenner in my purse :D:D :money:

Pippilongstocking

Well done jo - xx

And the rest of you xxx

stroppy

Hi Sclyates,
Understand totally where your coming from,we went through Bankruptcy in September....Its actually how I ended up on this forum,was a horrendously stressful time for us and yes the alcohol certainly played a big part in getting through it....In the long run it was a good decision for us and we have started afresh with careers/home etc.
My aim is now to tackle my health and turn that around....although think that might be easier said than done
Day 2 of no cigarettes and i am now climbing the walls....so had glass of wine with lunch out to make it better....It didnt.
Wished I was one of those healthy sporty types who gets a buzz from running or something, how come I got lumbered with the whole fags/alcohol addictions instead?:huh:
I feel a tantrum coming on.....
Stroppy xx

graemecarter

sclyates wrote: »

i dont know where to start or even know if i have come to the right place. can you help? december last year we were having one bottle of wine between us,(hubby and i) on fri and sat night only then nothing rest of week as he had to get up early then drive 60 miles to his job. come christmas i had lost half a stone in just 4 weeks which was great but then the holiday spirit kicked in and hey we are back to being alcs again drinknig a bottle sometimes 2 of red wine every night, i have had 2 alc free days this year, i have put on all the weight i lost plus more, clothes dont fit and i feel terrible in the morning. then theresthe cost, we estimated on it costing us about 200 quid a month on drink, i have recently gone bankrupt but there is still the mortgage to be paid, child to clothe and so on but its when it gets to 8 o clock in the evening i look forward to that lovely warm feeling i get from that first sip:eek: help

Some positives- you realise there is a problem, you are honest that alcohol is costing you more than money, you are reaching out for help.

If you had the time or inclination to read this thread all the way through, you would come to the conclusion that

1. Giving up/cutting down the booze is hard
2. However, it is not impossible
3. People are much happier when not drinking
4. Different things work for different people

So advice is difficult to give. All I know is what worked for me. I went to AA, and that has turned my life around. I enjoy it.
I haven't had a drink in a long long time, and unlike many of the people here, I have no desire to drink. Thus I am not fighting cravings, and my life is great.
I wasn't drinking everyday, I was a binge drinker, but alcoholism is in the head in my opinion. It is similar character traits, as opposed to units drunk. Good luck whatever you do - nobody posts for the first time on this forum when they are having a good day, so you have taken a big, brave step. :T

beachbeth

beachbeth wrote: »

A cautionary tale for you - a couple of weeks ago someone I know got drunk, went into his place of work (there were only 3 members of staff there at the time) and generally made a nuisance of himself. He sexually harrassed my daughter who was one of the 3 and now faces losing his job. Can't put any more detail really just in case but the lady in charge reported him (my daughter just wanted to forget it and not get anyone into trouble).

We found out today that the chap in question hasn't lost his job. Luckily for my daughter he actually works at a different branch of the company to her and so she shouldn't see him anyway. However, he has been told he is allowed to still go to the branch where she works (he lives quite near to this shop).

She is absolutely distraught and worried that he may come in when she is there working. Ive had to collect her from college this afternoon because she is in such a state about it.

It seems that it is ok for men to behave in this inappropriate manner at work and harrass whomever they like because there will be no comeback.:rolleyes:

Im so angry and upset. We thought he would at least be told to stay away from that branch. Its no good hoping that he will be too embarrassed to show his face in there. They should have told him he's not allowed on the premises!:mad:

After being so good and only drinking at the weekend I have now opened a bottle of red that I was saving for the weekend. I badly need something to calm me down.

Needstochange

(((beachbeth))) sorry you are so upset and I dont blame you. Maybe your daughter needs to look for a job where he isnt, I know it wasnt her fault but no job is worth getting so stressed about.

Now I could say that the wine wont change the situation and of course it wont .........but you know that dont you;) Do whatever you need to do tonight and climb back on the wagon when youre ready, we will all still be here. Take care xx

beachbeth

Needstochange wrote: »

(((beachbeth))) sorry you are so upset and I dont blame you. Maybe your daughter needs to look for a job where he isnt, I know it wasnt her fault but no job is worth getting so stressed about.

Now I could say that the wine wont change the situation and of course it wont .........but you know that dont you;) Do whatever you need to do tonight and climb back on the wagon when youre ready, we will all still be here. Take care xx

My daughter only works at this place at weekends and when she leaves college in the summer she will be finding a different full time job. She really loves this job and everyone that works there is absolutely lovely and I think she will be quite upset when it comes time to leave. I personally don't think she should let a barstool like this make her leave a job she likes.

I will climb back on the wagon - you are right. But I need to rebel tonight as Im so angry.:mad: