The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

polaroid

HI jo and BB - jo - cant believe you cant get your mate to spill! god, i could give her a few story lines with my "eventful" life at the mo. i also sometimes (ahem every night) watch the soaps. but i get really cross with corrie, sometimes there is barely a scene when someone is not drinking something.

been af since fri night but still feeling bit low - cant wait to see the end of jan and the light nights creeping in

nite nite everyone

ps loved your post Miss p, made me think i should put my reasons down on paper xxx
pps hi newbies

polaroid

Your so kind BB

nite nite xx

budget_babe

Thanks Polaroid and nite nite too. Chin up lighter nights will be here soon, take care Angel, lots of love and a big hug xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

jo1972

Shes not allowed to tell ANYONE ANYTHING since some stories were leaked a while ago....her job is so precious and I would not expect her to spill....plus I secretly love not knowing!

I would obviously lurk whether logged on or not, got lots of great mates on this thread particularly that mean a lot to me so I will always read everyday, even if I don't get a chance to post

I'm so very pleased for all of you that have achieved their goals and I think that most of you that didn't quite succeed at what you wanted to suceed at are actually happy (and probably surprised!) at how well you've done. Whether the goal is cutting down or stopping at least we are all thinking about going down that road which is better than ignoring the issue or should I say the potential issue

Night for now, see you all tomorrow

the_rugby_coach

:j Sign me up for February Winebox :j


:think: It's a tricky one to decide what to do, as I now want to reintroduce alcohol.

:idea:

I'm gonna go for 12 AF days. That's three per week, which means I can drink at the weekend (fri/sat) and at two other times in the week. The thing is I am often in company (and therefore it is easy for me to have even just a few drinks) on Mon/Wed/Thurs/Sun so I still have to be good on half of those days.

I am also gonna try and do a bit of lardloss with GP. I was 15st10 before xmas and was delighted to remain the same by new year, but I have only lost 2 pounds this month Bit disappointed by that...

Anyway target is to head south of 15st. Don't worry winebox you don't have to track that as well :rotfl:

TRC

jo1972

TRC, I am interested to watch your progress, you sound very strong at the moment! Good luck

fedupandskint

Night to you all,

I've read through today's posts and it's made me think about how I need to be stronger for next month in Feb. Therefore I have made a challenge for 20/28 AFDs in Feb. I have told myself I will only have a drink on Fri and Sat nights at the most and I have made an allowance of 2 nights per week on these nights. Plus if I don't have a drink I will be in credit to my allowance (for a change).

Even though I have not made my target this month it has made me think about when I do have drink, whether my no weight loss is connected to drinking and how I feel the next morning when I have had a drink the night before.

I'm surprised at how difficult it has been for me over this month for me to not reach my target when I thought at the start I would. This means I need to make more changes in my thinking and behaviour than I thought I would.

I want to be able to jump out of bed in the mornings to exercise before I go to work instead of feeling tired and no energy after a nights sleep. This means getting up beofre 6am to do this but I have done it before and I can do it again (I hope!)

My total AFDs for Jan is likely to be 15/21 or 16/21. Even tho I did not reach my target I think it is still many more AFDs than I would have achieved without this thread.

Think I need to take on board the meaning of WOMO as that is when I have a few glasses. At least this thread has made me stop after 2 or 3 glasses instead of 3/4 or 1 bottle which I was doing before without much of a thought. No longer drinking on work nights or Sunday nights which had crept in over the last 2 years or so more frequently.

I'm not going to beat myself up about not reaching the target because I have made some important foundation changes which I will build on throughout Feb.

Good luck to everyone else who seems ok and stable and thoughts with those finding it a bit more difficult like I have

maman

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I think it is still many more AFDs than I would have achieved without this thread.
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I think this quote from fedup is what should keep us all going upwards and onwards. As all regulars will know I'm one of the 'cutters-down' on here and although my life is easy compared with many I still have many obstacles in my way.
My main motivations are cutting calories and saving money. I have a house full of booze so could drink e.g. gin and diet tonic all month and still achieve those goals. OH drinks every night but mainly beer so that doesn't bother me. No one knows about my target on here. OH knows I'm cutting down and is pleased and supportive but no one else suspects. My goal is to stop drinking at home other than weekends i.e. kick the habit of just opening a bottle (the first) every night at 6 o'clock.

winebox, I'm going to go for a very pathetic target of 10 AFDs for February. There are only 16 weekdays in the month for me and I'm keeping the rest in reserve for lunches/dinners out. If I'm really good I might exceed my target.

Well done everyone. I'm drinking tonight (been to a funeral and then home to drown sorrows). Hence the rambling post and huge amount of typos I've had to edit along the way. Sleepwell. M x

Patchoulli

Hi all!

I am so peed off with myself! For no reason at all (oh I could make an excuse about having a rough day at work - cos I did, but so what, we all have those) I walked home last night and had a little stop off at the shop and came home with a bottle of Pinot Grigio. Not the end of the world, but I just don't know why. Hubby away with work, so I though "right, watch Holby, have a nice glass of wine". So I did, then I had another and another, and two thirds of the bottle slipped down really easily. Now a few weeks ago this would be the norm for me - even finishing the bottle and having a Baileys as a night cap would have been the norm. But then I slipped into having half a bottle of a Friday, and the rest on a Saturday....and last night - back to my old habits.

Its not the end of the world - I've still drunk shedloads less than usual this month. And that's what I must focus on. But I'm awake in the early hours, thirsty and headachy. So I've just poured the rest of the bottle down the sink, and am going to try to quit completely.

Because I think that controlling the vile stuff is impossible for me right now. This is such a learning curve for me. I thought I had it under control and would manage a glass at weekends (this is still what I want to do). I will not slip back into the bottle a night girl of last year - half cut whilst watching Emmerdale! I just won't.

Kicking myself right now - but must learn from this and move on.

Take care all
X

jo1972

Morning all,

I think congratulations are in order for quite a few people on this thread and thanks to Lurky for coming up with the idea in the first place (it was you lurky wasn't it??). I went along quite happily for years and years drinking away everynight without it even occurring to me that I might find it difficult to have an AFD. Then after the many many years of drinking I decided to have an AFD how hard it was and boy was I shocked!! Since then I feel like I've been chasing that wagon, sometimes clinging on by my fingernails, occassionally getting on and promptly falling off again and yet again chasing, it's tiring, very tiring, just want it all to end and wished to God that I realised so very much sooner how difficult it was going to be cos then I might not find it as difficult as I do.

Gotta go work, speak to you all later

xx