The giving up/cutting down alcohol support thread! Part 2

the_rugby_coach

Patchoulli wrote: »

Hi all

RugbyCoach: regarding your dilemma about whether to drink on Saturday. I, personally, would drink, and just enjoy myself, because in your shoes I would be so chuffed that I'd managed 30 out of 31 days.

Thank you for this advice, I think this is what I will do.

Patchoulli wrote: »

HOWEVER - the acid test is the following night isn't it? And only you know yourself well enough to know whether you could switch back to being alco free after Saturday. That's the problem, I think; not the drinking on the Saturday, but the climbing back on the wagon and superglueing yourself there after that night out.

Absolutely but I will aim for 30/31 and I'm sure there will be a willing band with Superglue, sticky plaster,etc at the ready, if necessary.:D

Patchoulli wrote: »

I'm managing right now to have a good run of alco free days, and then controlled drinking on a night or two. These are planned, and I only have the planned amount of drink in the house, and its never more than 5 units. It is difficult though. Luckily, I've managed to go back to my next stretch of no drinking without a problem. SO FAR. But I have to take into account that I'm in an ok place right now emotionally, and if that changes, I may well find that not drinking anything at all - and just getting used to being alco free is easier.

:T Thats what I want to do in Feb. Resume control. It can be done

Patchoulli wrote: »

Sorry, I'm waffling - at the end of the day, you have to decide whether you have the resolve to resume with the no drinking plan after Saturday.

Good luck whatever you do and enjoy yourself.

X

Thanks again. You can waffle away as far as I am concerned:rotfl:

budget_babe

Just popped in to say goodnight.
:whistle: zzzzzzzzzz

Bis rant away, it is difficult when you have children and their friends are doing things it is so hard to say no. People do not realise what pressure they put on others. Please take care, I hope tomorrow is a better day for you. Hugs xxxxx

Fay hope you start to feel better soon. Hugs xxx

Grey P, you are really cooking on gas with this fitness well done and happy birthday again. Btw you have not mentioned your age? Hugs xxx

Polaroid glad to know you are ok. Hugs xxx
Miamoo where are you? Hope you are ok, Hugs xxx

:T to everyone. xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

GreyPilgrim

budget_babe wrote: »

Grey P, you are really cooking on gas with this fitness well done and happy birthday again. Btw you have not mentioned your age? Hugs xxx

Been around the sun 35 times now. Jeeeez...think of the airmiles I've racked up.

polaroid

Nite nite BB, sleep tight

bis - know exactly what you mean...why do i BOTHER??!!!! i am laughing now but i wasnt at 5pm when i had just spent 1 hour cooking tea only for my daughter to spill her whole (untouched) plate all over the carpet...phone ringing, doorbell going, ex ranting and raving, fire broken.....ah....seems trivial now..but at the time...
at least i am drinking a cup of herbal tea now and not the litre of wine i did fancy!

GP you are doing great. to break one cycle is hard enough, but to do both, thats brilliant.

speaking of books, i mentioned this on the other thread but i read "A million little pieces" by james frey and "what did i do last night?". The first is really heavy but good and the second is heavy but also funny. both are true stories so not really self help.
i ve not read rachaels holiday, i am going to look for that. i am reading "eat, pray, Love" at the moment which i am really into, it isnt about drinking but life itself.

hope you all sleep well xxxx

maman

I don't know if anyone else is doing this on here but I haven't told anyone else I'm doing this challenge (except all of you, of course!!).

OH knows I'm cutting down and is very supportive and proud of me but even he doesn't know I have an actual target to hit. Today I'm really pleased with myself. I went out to lunch with OH and old friends I hadn't seen for a while. They are old partners in crime, we've sunk many a crate of red together. Today when they asked what I was drinking I said WATER! They looked shocked but I said I planned to drive OH home. He looked shocked too because he normally drives when we're out. However I stuck to my guns, had still water, then a fizzy water and then a coffee. Amazing! This was an extra lunch date that I hadn't planned for in my AF target so I had to do it. So that's 9/13 AF days done.

I'm not finding it easy but I'm determined. Next month I think I'm going to give myself some leeway in case any unexpected invitations come my way. My aim is not to drink on 'ordinary' evenings at home, just when I'm out and at weekends.

Read the posts about good books. Has anyone read Tony Adam's book. I think it's called 'Addicted'. I wasn't such a heavy drinker when I read it but I remember being horrified at his lack of control when he'd been drinking.

Well done all of you, good to see more new faces.

Oh and I know it's a bit late in the day but Happy Birthday GP, hope it's been a good one!

RecoveringAlcoholic

This is a fast moving thread.............................................

Congratulations all.:T

Just some thoughts:

As this is a money saving site should the February AFF list include money saved?

I also get through lots of 2 litre fizzy drinks from Tesco. Favourites are cloudy lemonade and fiery ginger beer.

For those wanting to give up/cut down I highly recommend Living Sober that can be found on Amazon.

One minute, one hour, one day at a time and..............................

Good Luck.

biscotte

good morning everyone - lovely reading everyone's posts, everyone seems so up beat at the moment about being AF, even when life is being a bit carp.

I had another AF day yesterday evening - watched an episode of Life on Mars with a cup of tea and a handful of M&Ms (and DH). I didn't see it on the TV but got given the DVDS - I'm now developing a bit of a thing for John Simm!
So mr Lurky, an extra day for me please.

Have a good day

Lurkio

*adopts mock Geordie BB announcer accent*

deay twen'y wun....an' Lorky dees anutha list......

1 - Lurkio (target 31/31) - Actual 21
2 - jo1972 (target 31/31) - Actual 11
3 - Needstochange (target 15/31) - Actual 13
4 - Miss Piggy (target 31/31) - Actual 7
5 - Mollypolly (target 31/31) - I am sure its 21
6 - winebox (target 15/31, WOMO clause) - Actual 9
7 - eselt (target 31/31) - Actual 19
8 - *Mari* (target 31/31) - Actual 9
9 - Grey Pilgrim (target 31/31) - Actual 20
10 - 115K (target 10/31) - Actual 13 target achieved on 15th :j :j
11 - jjef (target 25/31) - Actual 15
12 - the rugby coach (target 25/31) - Actual 21
13 - yellow monkey (target 30/31) - Actual 19
14 - Bismarck (target 31/31) - Actual 21
15 - beckseven (target 31/31) - Actual 6
16 - barshamhillbilly (target Reduction therapy) - Actual On Target
17 - happyshopper (target 28/31) - Actual 17
18 - Nessa56 (possible ) - Actual 3
19 - miamoo (target 31/31) - Actual 19
20 - Esther McVittie (target 27/31) - Actual 17
21 - polaroid (target 31/31) - Actual 18
22 - paybacktime2008(target 25/31) - Actual 19
23 - budget babe(target 31/31) - Actual 21
24 - lillibet dripping (target 20/31) - Actual 4
25 - biscotte (target 25/31) - Actual 14
26 - fayjmck (target 26/31) - Actual 13
27 - fedupandskint (target 21/31) - Actual 12
28 - maman (target 13/31) - Actual 9
29 - Former Spice (target 28/31) - Actual 12
30 - Andraste (target 11/31) - Actual 6



Post by Spring Watch Girl:

"Well, week 5 of no alcohol and I see a different person in the mirror. My eyes no longer look dull and vacant, they actually have a little sparkle and my skin doesn't look like uncooked pastry anymore. I feel that I have won a battle but not yet the war. Hope everyone else is at the point they want to be, I never want to be that person I was, I have been tempted but I just think back to what I had become. The sun is shining at the moment and I feel good and want to continue to have the sun in my life."

budget_babe wrote:

I saw that Mrs Lurky was on the score chart, (BB aka Hetty Wainthrop) Mysteriously she has now changed her name to: Esther Mcvittie? Draw your own conclusions?

Now that she's out of the cage BB, its only fair to use her proper username

budget_babe wrote:

On that note Mrs Lurky perhaps you could pm Mrs Bhb she does a wicked frying pan around the head, as poor Mr Bhb can tell you, that is when the ringing in his ears stops.

don't go giving her ideas, BB

winebox

Lurkio wrote: »

The WOMO clause was introduced for the AFJ challenge. It stands for When On My Own.......

I said that without moving my lips!!

Biscotte the idea behind the womo clause is to only drink socially, ie in company, cos I don't want to give up wine but the ritualistic every single night solo drinking was not even enjoyable any more as well as costly to my health & my purse!!

winebox

RecoveringAlcoholic wrote: »

As this is a money saving site should the February AFF list include money saved?

.

ooooer! is there a conspiracy to make Feb scoring hard??!! :eek: good idea mind!

Lurky love the geordie accent in writing - bet I'm not the only one who had to read it out loud....unfortunately in work.