SAHM's getting organised in 2009!

2boysmum

Hi guys, was just wondering if I could join in, bit late I know but thats just typical of me! I technically am not a SAHM as I work 4 days a week p/t, but am hoping to stop working at the end of June as childcare for the school holidays for me is a nightmare and OH has agreed its easier if I just don't work. I have 2 boys 12 and 5, hubby was made redundant a week befor xmas but started another job last thursday so hopefully we will be back on our feet before I stop working!
My house is an absolute tip, because I work 7 days in a row then have 4 days off together then work for 1 then off for another 2 days then back in for 7 days. Today is the start of my 4 days off, everywhere is a mess, it seems to take me all my days off to get the place back to normal then I'm back at work and then its a mess again. Today I haven't done anything as I'm off to meet my friend as she is buying me lunch as it was my birthday a few weeks ago and we haven't seen each other since before xmas. Sorry for the big long rant, but I feel better now

Girl_least_likely_to

Lalaladybird wrote: »

Today's task is to wipe over the telephone with a damp cloth and antibacterial spray (or similar)

I have done this and all the door handles. Very appropriate task today as DH, who is never sick, was throwing up last night . We had a slightly different tea last night so can only put it down to that. I feel a bit iffy this morning, was crying in front of DD b4 nursery, she's had an accident whilst I was chatting to one of the teachers, she hasn't done this for months. I just feel so horrible and hormonal atm and it's obviously rubbing off on DD . I've called the garage to rearrange the car's service for next week so that's one less thing to do. Think we'll snuggle up on the sofa this afternoon and watch dvd's.

Hugs to those that need them :grouphug:

newmum2007

Haven't read through the whole thread but would like to join please!!
I have a DD who is 21 months and DS who is a whole 2 weeks old!!! OH goes back to work on saturday after paternity leave and cos he works nights I really need to get into a routine of some sort!

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Well yesterday I had a complete meltdown! I think it had been kind of brewing for weeks but finally I got upset about my finances, upset about my parents (I felt tension and they're visiting this weekend), I thought there was an outside chance I might be pregnant which scared me, my fiance wasn' very helpful over it and I hate my job (still). Not to mention my huge list of things to do, feeling [EMAIL="!!!!"]!!!![/EMAIL] and the house needs a lot of tidying.

I actually wanted to post on here last night but couldnt' remember my user name etc at work so couldn't. I've now written it in my diary (step 1 of organisationg ).

Anyway, my house still isn't great and my to do list is still long but my lovely fiance has pointed out that instead of driving him nuts ringing him every morning whilst he's at work and I'm at home, perhaps I should actually do stuff and I thought 'gawd yeah, how rubbish am I that I feel rubbish at home but hte house is a mess' lol! So, I'm determined that from today onwards, I will sort things out!

Hope it's all going well for everyone else! I'm blaming it all on my hormones!

mummy2mygirls

hello everyone and welcome to the newbies. I havent read all the thread as i have just popped on to give a little update (for me so i know what i need to get done and might get my bum in gear!!)
Dinner is sorted and ready to be turned on as soon as i get back from the school run, dd has had a nap today so we are going to walk to school (dd as well) so she is a little tired by the time bedtime comes (fingers crossed!!)

* Got to empty washing machine,
* cook a banana loaf i saw on here somewhere to use up the bananas that are soon to go funny!
* Do the washing up
* do some home work with dd1 (in reception but they have been given a project on the artic where they need to write a sentence or two and do some drawings etc! so should keep me busy while things cook!!)
* Do all the other things on my nightly routine!!!!!

congratulations on the new arrival newmum2007. I hope you find this useful when dh is back at work.
x

morganb

Lalaladybird wrote: »

You are a great mum.... bad mum's wouldn't even worry about devoting fun time to their LOs and you are feeling way too much guilt. As a teacher I imagine you get all the holidays that your children do? I think that if you are spending quality time with your children during the holidays...walks at the beach and picnics in the summer, making decorations and visiting santa at Christmas etc then you are creating memories. During term time if you manage to read them a bedtime story/watch a movie/just sit and talk round the dinner table then you are doing plenty IMHO. My mum worked full time and was a great mum too, I remember that at a weekend we might go to feed the ducks but we also had to go to the supermarket and I helped her fold laundry, she walked me to school so we chatted on the way. I don't remember her sitting down and playing with me much but I remember her giving me dressing up clothes and off I went to play. You are worrying too much about trying to make each day special/perfect. That is impossible. I believe that if each year has a handful of great memories and the rest is just day to day normal life then that is fine. Your sons will enjoy just walking with you on the way to school, seeing their grandparents and visiting a plumbing shop! If everyday is so exciting for them, grown up life will seem like a real drag

I hope you enjoyed your lunch out with your mates, it helps us to remember that we are still people not just there to facilitate our families. I really hope what I have said doesn't sound sanctimonious (sp?), I'm not in your shoes and I get mega stressed about meeting up with friends and leaving a messy house too and feel the motherly guilt about washing up instead of playing with my dd, so I do sympathise.

Hi LaLa, thanks for your post. I am feeling slightly less stressed today but that could be because finished work till Monday now :j and I had a really nice lunch out; took DS2 with me and he did me really proud, eating spicy chilli spring rolls and a thai red curry ... not bad for a four year old.

I don't resent doing the housework, but I do resent doing it and still not having any quality time with the kids. having said that, we do sit down and eat together every night, so I suppose that is a starting point. Had to leave the kids with the tele when the plumber came round earlier but we've all had a good chat this evening and we're going to snuggle up under the duvet and watch a dvd now.

My two children are so gorgeous and clever and beautiful that I want every minute with them to be special and I just worry that I am short-changing them every day!! I also am finding it very hard to connect with DS1 about his interests at the moment as he's really got into football (can't stand the game!!) and pokemon (which I don't understand!!!) I didn't take them swimming today, which I think was over-ambitious, but we did play hide-and-seek in the school playground and then visited a neighbour and ate all her quality street!!! But I am going to take them bowling on Sunday morning and we are going to go swimming in the afternoon; parents have got them Saturday morning so that OH and I can go round the plumbers merchants ... but it's better for the kids than us dragging them round with us. Hopefully by the end of Saturday we will have decided on what we want for the bathroom and we won't have to spend any more time traipsing round!!

Anyway, we have all officially declared Thursday evening a NO HOUSEWORK OR HOMEWORK EVENING so we are off to enjoy.

Thanks for letting me have a good old moan. I wish my friends would let me have a good old moan, they just answer with 'I wish I was as organised as you!' or 'I don't play with my kids either', which don't make me feel better.

Off to IKEA tomorrow with DS2, which he will enjoy as it's quite a visual place, they've got the play area and I've promised him a hot-dog, plus my mate is driving so I get to sit in the back of the car with him.

Anyway, hope we are all staying organised! Will go wipe down my phone before snuggling down!!

Teapartymum

Been work all day so all ive done is sort the washing out and put a load in the machine.

Huge hugs for all those who need them.

fernliebee

Hi everyone, welcome newbies, and congrats new mum!

Today I have done my dailies but still need to empty washing machine and hang it.

I need to get all my things for the morning laid out as we are off to 'singing' in the morning. My DD (7 m) just loves watching the older children doing the actions. She giggles like mad!

I did my phone this morning and also did all the doorhandles (coincidently- GLLT) This is the first challenge to apply to me (don't have a microwave, don't iron, had done windows already, and my spices have been organised for a while now.) and I loved it, felt very productive, keep 'em coming la la.

Lalaladybird

Today's task is to organise our make up. Keep the make up used on a daily basis in one bag/box/container and other make up used occasionally eg. nights out (what are they?:rotfl:) in another. Throw away any that hasn't been used in 6 months. Give the bag a wipe out, sharpen any eye/lip pencils and wash sponges/brushes (baby shampoo/washing up liquid work well).

toochoosey

hello, is it too late to join?
I am a sort of a SAHM, i work as a dinner lady at the same school as my 6yo DD, and i go to welsh class 2 mornings aweek.
I need to get organized, i usually start off well, but then slip into theCBA mode(before Christmas I filled 2 black bags with stiff for the charity shop and they are still in the spare room!!!)
would like the support and motivation to keep at it.....