**Daily Chat Thread Mon 21 Dec 08**

Buffythedebtslayer

Prepares to be shot

but I think we all feel insecure and worried about our relationships/choices/lives because the "rules " have changed, once upon a time you met a bloke, liked him and got married, there wasn't much on telly nor volumes of information around on how to dress how to have sex and what to do to in any given situation. Although obviously not everyone followed that road it was there laid out in front of you if you see what I mean. it was easy.

once you were married that was it you just got on with it, of course everyone wasn't happy not by a long long but there were boundaries and expectations of how people behaved.

Now we have long term relationships,short term dating, one night stands friends we are extra friendly with, girlfriends/boyfriends we hook up with when in town.

All these come with their own rules or no rules, instead of having the relative security of marriage (and anything else was "dodgey") now we have to find our way and work out what we want. Society expectations are far more open which is a great thing we have far more freedom and information and of course Choices but some times it can all get a bit overwhelming. Especially when all most people (certainly in my experience) want the "traditional marriage and kids"

hence most women (and maybe men I just don't know any!!) I know wondering through their life in kind of fog "is this right? am I right? should I work ? are my kids ok? why don't men like me? what's wrong with me"

hope that makes sense to some one and I don't sound like a loon.

(Land_of)_Maz

lennymfo wrote: »

Oh nothing, Im good thanks. I agree with your last post about you being touched btw

cheeky!!

i meant emotionally moved kinda touched.

not touched in the head, like you!

bookseller1980

I've been busy!!!! Yay. :j :j :j
It must be Christmas.
:xmastree:
:xmassign: Break out the wine - it's never too early.

System

Well said Buffs, i think we all think these things dont we.

System

(Land_of)_Maz wrote: »

cheeky!!

i meant emotionally moved kinda touched.

not touched in the head, like you!

Lol, thats more like it What you got planned for Xmas, anything good?

(Land_of)_Maz

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Prepares to be shot

but I think we all feel insecure and worried about our relationships/choices/lives because the "rules " have changed, once upon a time you met a bloke, liked him and got married, there wasn't much on telly nor volumes of information around on how to dress how to have sex and what to do to in any given situation. Although obviously not everyone followed that road it was there laid out in front of you if you see what I mean. it was easy.

once you were married that was it you just got on with it, of course everyone wasn't happy not by a long long but there were boundaries and expectations of how people behaved.

Now we have long term relationships,short term dating, one night stands friends we are extra friendly with, girlfriends/boyfriends we hook up with when in town.

All these come with their own rules or no rules, instead of having the relative security of marriage (and anything else was "dodgey") now we have to find our way and work out what we want. Society expectations are far more open which is a great thing we have far more freedom and information and of course Choices but some times it can all get a bit overwhelming. Especially when all most people (certainly in my experience) want the "traditional marriage and kids"

hence most women (and maybe men I just don't know any!!) I know wondering through their life in kind of fog "is this right? am I right? should I work ? are my kids ok? why don't men like me? what's wrong with me"

hope that makes sense to some one and I don't sound like a loon.

so we are spoilt by too many choices and percieved freedoms and that makes us less grateful for what we have...?

That's how i interpret that?

(Land_of)_Maz

bookseller1980 wrote: »

I've been busy!!!! Yay. :j :j :j
It must be Christmas.
:xmastree:
:xmassign: Break out the wine - it's never too early.

Good to hear Bookie!

Lucifa73

Well that's the first time in a long time that I've wrapped Xmas presents without the aid of alcohol. It's just not the same (sigh). Not even any chocolate

Bunny the first step to improving self esteem is recognising it is low. I used to be the same. Then I realised none of the people who complimented me had any reason to tell me lies and started accepting them in the spirit they were given and I've never felt better about myself. Sure I still have off days but I've learned to recognise the signs and run myself a nice bath, by myself a nice dinner and/or book and spoil myself for the day and take time to think about my strengths and the people who love me for myself.

System

I agree that sites like FB are great but I have so many ex's trying to get back in my pants its quite unsettling really..............NOT! (I mean the exs bit )

System

Bunny, come on whats up love?