Depression Support Thread

rosepink1984

Katie, hope the funeral goes well today, and that you have a good day. Will be thinking of you this afternoon.
Nice to hear that some new people may come and join us, that will be good to meet them.
I'm off in a mo to a course, should be fairly boring I think! It's only for the morning so I intend to sleeeeeep afterwards! A girl from the course I was on yesterday and Tues will be there today, so at least I'll know someone. I feel ok today, stomach is churning slightly and shoulders are tense, but I think I can cope with it as it's only till lunchtime. I'm away this weekend so will just think of that, it's something to look forward to.
Hope everyone has a good day xx

shazrobo

hope today goes well katie, will be thinkin of you

rosepink, hope the course goes ok, and you manage to sleep well after it

hugs shaz xxx

beachbeth

Morning everyone! Thanks for your suggestions yesterday, Rosepink. I won't need to go to the Jobcentre again because Im not eligible for Jobseekers Allowance. Im supposed to go and sign on on Tuesday and this will mean my NI will get paid but Im not going to go. Im posting the form off to say Im no longer applying for it. I shall just have to sit and wait to see how my IB appeal goes. Im reluctant to go to my doctor because all I seem to have done for the last week is cry as one of my dogs died last Friday.

The CAB have put me on to the Welfare Rights people and these are on to my Incapacity Appeal for me. They will come to the tribunal with me for support and professional help, so I won't be alone. My husband can come with me too (I won't be able to drive there as I'll be too upset)

Hope the funeral is ok, Katie.

mezer3000

Hope the funeral goes ok katie
and rosepink - i hope the course is ok today - all over with soon heh

I managed to get up and dressed this morning, but have now ended up back in bed bawling my eyes out and i don't know why - which makes me feel even worse

oh and the modelling thing, haven't done any in almost a year now, haven't felt very attractive to be honest. I got into it through a friend, well we no-longer speak now, so i guess that's why it kind of isnt happening anymore. thanks for saying you liked my picture though.

Tulip

thanks everyone I have to go now and get some lunch ready I am happy because I went to the post office to collect a package and it was my Zubo game I was waiting for,for my nintendo ds,I will play that later as I havent time at the moment to enjoy it and play.

love and light,

Katie xxx

Jo_R_2

Morning everyone

Feeling a bit down today. The midwife should have come round yesterday for a home visit about my home birth, but had to postpone so arranged it for today. However just had a call from one of the community midwives, my MW is busy again so can't make it, and they wanted to talk to me about my iron levels, which are under the level they prefer for a home birth. Before they do a home visit now, they want to redo my blood tests tomorrow, have the results back on Monday then take it from there.

I was annoyed anyway, OH took Weds afternoon off work to be here when the MW came round, so he's lost a half day for nothing. I know midwives are incredibly busy which I understand, but I've been waiting for this home visit for weeks now, especially for OH so he can ask questions of the MW about what's involved in a home birth...

The MW I spoke to was really nice and understanding, the cynic in me was fully expecting the "you can't have a home birth if your iron stays low" line but she explained I still could, as it's up to me, but they would have to document everything to say they had explained the risks. And tbh my blood iron is 9.9 and the recommended level is only 10.5 so it's not that far off anyways...

It's really got me down

beachbeth

I had a home birth, Jo_R, with my 2nd daughter. It was much nicer being at home afterwards with my baby. I hate the way you can't seem to get any sleep in hospital! I also felt more in charge at home. Sometimes in hospital the staff can boss you about (with my first daughter some of the nurses were horrible!). This doesn't happen at home.

I hope you can still go ahead with the home birth and wish you luck for a smooth delivery. I think you will find that your OH won't do anything except hold your hand or support your head, although nowadays I think the dad can cut the cord. Keep us posted.

whitevanwoman

beachbeth wrote: »

Morning everyone! Thanks for your suggestions yesterday, Rosepink. I won't need to go to the Jobcentre again because Im not eligible for Jobseekers Allowance. Im supposed to go and sign on on Tuesday and this will mean my NI will get paid but Im not going to go. Im posting the form off to say Im no longer applying for it. I shall just have to sit and wait to see how my IB appeal goes. Im reluctant to go to my doctor because all I seem to have done for the last week is cry as one of my dogs died last Friday.

The CAB have put me on to the Welfare Rights people and these are on to my Incapacity Appeal for me. They will come to the tribunal with me for support and professional help, so I won't be alone. My husband can come with me too (I won't be able to drive there as I'll be too upset)

Hope the funeral is ok, Katie.

Hi BB

I don't want to push you into something if you don't want to do it, but I do think it would be worth seeing your GP. I had a routine appt the week after my dog died & I'd been crying constantly & nearly cancelled it as I thought he would be dismissive but he was brilliant and explained that grief for a pet is just as valid as grief for a person and that grief takes different forms in everyone and that there is no normal reaction. He also explained all the different processes of grief - sense of loss, guilt, anger etc and that people who suffer depression are at risk of having a major relapse as a result of grief or a traumatic shock and that he wanted to keep monitoring me on a weekly basis for a few weeks. He may want to adjust your meds for a while to help you cope. Do remember that aswell as losing your dog, your daughter has gone off to college which might be affecting you too, and then all the stress of the IB appeal is going to be affecting you too. Please do think about making an appointment. I really do think it would be helpful to record on your medical notes that the benefits problems are affecting your mood and causing you additional anxiety.

You can PM me and tell me where to go if I'm being too pushy and I won't be offended

Look after yourself hun, it's a horrid time for you and you really do need all the support you can get at the moment. If your GP is any good, they will recognise that you are really struggling at the moment, regardless of the cause. I wish I could reach out and give you a hug (and my hairy hooligan would love to give you a slurpy lick) so I'll give you this instead

and this is from the hairy hooligan

:footie: (you're supposed to throw or kick it for him)

xx

beachbeth

whitevanwoman wrote: »

You can PM me and tell me where to go if I'm being too pushy and I won't be offended

I wouldn't dream of such a thing!:p Although I wouldn't wish feelings of depression and grief on anybody its nice when you know someone has been through the same thing and can identify with your own feelings. Thanks for your post. I will phone the doctor and make an appointment. He may suggest having a higher dose of meds or may just tell me to take things easy for a time (easy as in not going out and about doing stressful things I mean, not easy as in lying in bed all day!:D )

whitevanwoman

beachbeth wrote: »

I wouldn't dream of such a thing!:p Although I wouldn't wish feelings of depression and grief on anybody its nice when you know someone has been through the same thing and can identify with your own feelings. Thanks for your post. I will phone the doctor and make an appointment. He may suggest having a higher dose of meds or may just tell me to take things easy for a time (easy as in not going out and about doing stressful things I mean, not easy as in lying in bed all day!:D )

good lass xx

i'm getting better now, but these past few weeks have been horrendous and i've been so grateful for all the support i've had from this thread, my gp & friends and tbh I couldn't have got through it all so well without that support.

Take care. Am off now to give the hairy hooligan some exercise as he is staring at me and I know he's thinking, "c'mon, when are we going out...?"