Getting OH to propose - and think it's his idea!

kr15snw

Im in a similar situation...

Been with OH for over 3 years and living together for a year. We dont share any of the household bills as hes very traditional and doesnt want to until were either married / buy a house together (its his house) as he got completely done over by an ex so is being careful (basically if we split up he doesnt want me to run off with all his stuff that he bought, seeing as i moved from parents into his place ive not brought anything other than personal items with me.) Which I think is fair enough.

Im DESPERATE to get married, Im just at the time of my life were Im with the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with and think its just right. We even spoke over the summer and I told him by christmas would be the right time for me, and if not by then I would be seriously wondering whats wrong with us? He agreed with this. But NOTHING!!!

He also says that every time I mention anything to do with weddings / engagments then it gets put back a month. By his calculations we have about 50 years to go. Lol. I pray hes joking........

When I first got with him I told him I wouldnt want it in front of a group of people, or christmas / birthday as I would want the day we got engaged to be a seperate special day. Now I dont care!!! Just DO IT!!

So yeah, hints definately dont work with my OH so I get to play the waiting game.... Yay

Tigerlee_2

Beccam - You have the same situation as my Dh and I. We got married 7 years to the date we first met. We were together 5 1/2 years before OH proposed! seems a long time but I was only 17 nearly 18 when we met. Probably been sooner if we didn't live together first though! DH thought things were going well so why change things?!:D

beccam

Tigerlee wrote: »

Beccam - You have the same situation as my Dh and I. We got married 7 years to the date we first met. We were together 5 1/2 years before OH proposed! seems a long time but I was only 17 nearly 18 when we met. Probably been sooner if we didn't live together first though! DH thought things were going well so why change things?!:D

Scary!! I was 17 when we met, just a few months off being 18!! He was older though.. 23yrs old and still a mummy's boy, think thats what took him so long to propose and even longer til he finally moved out...he knew I'd never be ironing his boxers for him like mummy did!!!!:rolleyes: :rotfl:

rchddap1

My OH just handed me a bag in a shopping centre and said there you go. I had to ask what the ring was for! Men can be real chickens sometimes.

merlinormartin

I hope my other half reads this thread! ,,, we've been together 10 years..living together for 8..still no ring!! :rolleyes:

Skint_Catt

I can't wait 7 years! We're not getting any younger and I'm SOOOO broody but want to do things in the 'right' order (even though we've been living together just over a year :rolleyes:). I keep saying by the time he proposes, we get married, get a mortgage (will there ever be a right time for that!) then I'll be easily 35 and I always wanted my first long before then

I wish I knew the secret. Been hinting loads for Xmas (leaving jewellers magazines open/forwarding email offers from jewellers that I've recieved/telling him he only needs to get me the one small pressie for xmas ) but I know he's bought me lots of different things, so I'm guessing he won't have got the ring too He just doesn't get the age thing because men can have children into their 70's

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If they don't know the answer to this one, who will? :rotfl:

Spendless

The day after I told my (now) husband I was pregnant he asked me 'so do you want to get married before or after the baby is born':rolleyes:

I've just said to him 'how do you get a man to propose' and he answered 'get pregnant',:rolleyes: so presumably I'd also be still waiting if I hadn't. He didn't have an answer when I said you were already expecting.

I admire skinty's stance though. Years ago I watched a chat show where some woman of an older generation said same thing, that if you are already living with them, having sex with them and children with them then there was no 'incentive' for the men to want to marry too. (though I realise this will not apply to all cases).

Try telling him for a limited time only you are prepared to change your surname to his but that offer will become unavailable if he hasn't 'applied' (proposed) by a certain date- you'd have to keep to this though.:rotfl:
This is a jokey answer btw.

I have heard of the man proposing when their child is born. The majority of men I know have been overcome by emotion when their see their first-born, so I think that might be a possibility that he asks around this time.

foxxymynx

Go shopping and stop by a jewellers, point out how pretty and sparkly the engagemnt rings are rofl

talk about your future together, with him...tell his best mates gf...watch all the wedding shows on tv or get a dvd of some cheesy wedding rom com

or just blurt it out!

I know alot of men who don't get hints and would rather they just be told (nicely of course) what their woman wants.

Jo_R_2

Spendless wrote: »

The day after I told my (now) husband I was pregnant he asked me 'so do you want to get married before or after the baby is born':rolleyes:

I've just said to him 'how do you get a man to propose' and he answered 'get pregnant',:rolleyes: so presumably I'd also be still waiting if I hadn't. He didn't have an answer when I said you were already expecting.

I admire skinty's stance though. Years ago I watched a chat show where some woman of an older generation said same thing, that if you are already living with them, having sex with them and children with them then there was no 'incentive' for the men to want to marry too. (though I realise this will not apply to all cases).

Try telling him for a limited time only you are prepared to change your surname to his but that offer will become unavailable if he hasn't 'applied' (proposed) by a certain date- you'd have to keep to this though.:rotfl:
This is a jokey answer btw.

I have heard of the man proposing when their child is born. The majority of men I know have been overcome by emotion when their see their first-born, so I think that might be a possibility that he asks around this time.

I quite like the idea of asking that question you know! Completely curious as to what he'd say... Might try that one out later on...