Getting OH to propose - and think it's his idea!

Jo_R_2

Okay, I can't believe I am going to say this but here goes...

Me and OH have been together about a year and a half. I am pregnant, and we are living together with my two DDs from my previous relationship.

I wouldn't say things have gone smoothly from the start:o We've certainly had our "discussions" and differences of opinions, that's for sure!
Things have been magic since he moved in. I can't believe how great things are :j He's amazing with the girls, looks after us all - I'm sure those who have kids will know how attractive it is to see a man who is good with kids - well I feel it even more so because he's taken them on part and parcel and they just adore him.

I can't believe I'm finding myself saying this now because I was certain I'd never want to get married... but I do! We have spoken about it before, he's quite traditional and whilst I'd have no problem asking him myself, for him it would have to be him that did the asking:rolleyes:

Any tips on how I can get the idea in his head and make him think it was his idea?

elona

Maybe look into what rights he would not have if you needed someone to sign consent stuff for you or the children or child you are about to have together.

If married he could get the birth certificate sorted while you were in hospital etc - that kind of thing.

skintchick

Could you just tell him you'd quite like to get married, but that obviously it is the man's role to ask if he wants to so you won;t talk about it again unless he proposes.

Then see what happens.

I told my OH on our first date that I was looking for a husband, so he knew I was just waiting for a proposal! I got one after four months.

gymfiend

I love this thread
No idea how you can do it...been with my OH for about 3 years & still haven't managed to twist his arm despite mentioning it oh...at least once a week!!x

skintchick

gymfiend wrote: »

I love this thread
No idea how you can do it...been with my OH for about 3 years & still haven't managed to twist his arm despite mentioning it oh...at least once a week!!x

Well, my advice usually would be don;t move in with them until you have a proposal AND a wedding date!

I refused to live with my OH before we we married, which meant it focussed his mind. Oh, and I also wouldn;t have sex with him beforehand! so he knew that if he wanted me he had to marry me - and that DOES work!

I have afriends living with guys and they cannot get a proposal cos the guy has everything he wants already, and one of those girls is engaged - but has been for ten years so it's not really an engagement. They will never get married and she is gutted.

newcook

Leave bridal magazines about the house…

Say 'did you know so and so are getting married?'…

Tell his best friend (or his best friends wife/gf knowing she will tell him)…

Practice your signature in his surname and when he sees just say 'I wanted to see how it would look' and then smile into the distance...

jinky67

skintchick wrote: »

Could you just tell him you'd quite like to get married, but that obviously it is the man's role to ask if he wants to so you won;t talk about it again unless he proposes.

Then see what happens.

sounds like the best idea to me,but i would also point out that you have never felt like you wanted to get married but this time it feels right:D

MiM

My gf gave me an ultimatum after six years together and followed it up by leaving - for a year!

I begged her back and we got married last month.

skintchick

MiM wrote: »

My gf gave me an ultimatum after six years together and followed it up by leaving - for a year!

I begged her back and we got married last month.

Why didn;t you do it before? Why don;t men propose? I'm interested.

yoni_one

You say that previously you did not want to marry but you have both discussed it before? Why not just talk as though it is all his idea anyway? ie

Honey, I know when we last talked you were all for getting married and I wasn't, well I am not too proud to admit when I am wrong .... blah blah blah

It's great to hear things are going so well now you are living together, good luck for a long and happy future together.

shellsuit

Jo_R wrote: »

Okay, I can't believe I am going to say this but here goes...

Me and OH have been together about a year and a half. I am pregnant, and we are living together with my two DDs from my previous relationship.

I wouldn't say things have gone smoothly from the start:o We've certainly had our "discussions" and differences of opinions, that's for sure!
Things have been magic since he moved in. I can't believe how great things are :j He's amazing with the girls, looks after us all - I'm sure those who have kids will know how attractive it is to see a man who is good with kids - well I feel it even more so because he's taken them on part and parcel and they just adore him.

I can't believe I'm finding myself saying this now because I was certain I'd never want to get married... but I do! We have spoken about it before, he's quite traditional and whilst I'd have no problem asking him myself, for him it would have to be him that did the asking:rolleyes:

Any tips on how I can get the idea in his head and make him think it was his idea?

Eeek, my God women, give the guy a chance! :rotfl: :rotfl:

I'm sure he will propose when he's good and ready to. If I were you I'd want him to propose because he wants to propose, not because I'd put ideas in his head.

There's nothing stopping you asking him, even if he is traditional and don't forget the huge discussions you would have because you won't take his surname