advice please

Errata

Good for you. BIL already made you give a £50 'donation' towards his wedding reception. He's a bully you need to keep at arm's length.

SweetPea23

I am disgusted and would just have to give him a piece of my mind, ungreatful so and so!

Mutter_2

Deb, I can't believe that decent people like yourself even converse with vile creatures like him.
Does he bully his wife and kids also?



Oh, he's so classy isn't he? Hiring a castle (does he traipse round stately homes too by any chance), then asking £50 for food.

Tell him Deb that you're buying him a broom handle and advise him where to store it.
Better still, say you consider the £50 to be their present as you thought the wedding food rubbish.

Marrying in a register office common!! Hah, so he considers the future King and his wife "common". You can tell him, only a desperate social climber would even use that word.

I'm with Lowis, I'm seething too, but his wife is equally to blame. He's not spouting this rubbish without her knowledge.

Another gift could be a crowbar to remove the huge chip from his shoulder.
Here's the Ebay link, though he may think such wealth a little vulgar.
http://thelongestlistofthelongeststuffatthelongestdomainnameatlonglast.com/expensive17.html

3_cheeky_princesses

Norma_Desmond wrote: »

Not only does he deserve a lump of coal, I would THROW it at him for good measure!
There are more and more threads on this sort of emotional blackmail and it makes me furious to think of all those grasping, materialistic and downright rude relatives screaming 'I want'.
Send the prat a charity gift if you have to give something - a can of worms costs £15 from Christian Aid and goes to help fertilise the fields of a poor Bolivian farmer.

Lump of coal! Throw it at him! I would stick it up his !!!!!!

What a rude materlistic prat! I agree with other Op buy then a charity gift for the family (him, his wife and children) other than that i wouldnt bother! He is rude, thoughtless and talks utter rubbish.

You are being a fantastic parent. You are buying thoughtful presents and teaching your children values as well as spent time with your husband choosing the gifts.

Please do not allow your BIL to spoil the festive spirit for you and your family and dont buy them anything you cannot afford. If he is as high and mighty as he sounds he will appreciate a charity gift.

jellyhead

Violetta wrote: »

I think he deserves a lump of coal !

Here you go, brand new and not from ebay http://www.firebox.com/product/1249/Lump-Of-Coal

There's a thread somewhere to get a £5 code emailed to you, so that brings it to £3.90 including delivery. sorted

jellyhead

Triggles wrote: »

IEven when MIL asks what would you like for Christmas - I'm just tongue tied - I don't like to answer - I try to think of something inexpensive as they're on a fixed income.

I always tell people I love marzipan but I don't buy it because it's an extravangance, and I'd end up eating it myself because nobody else likes it. Marzipan fruits don't cost much, and a bar of marzipan in chocolate is even cheaper.

You could always tell people you love shortbread

Anniek1969 wrote: »

If there's you and DH and 3 kids then I would ask him for £100 for you and DH and £50 for each of the kids and then give him back the £175 he wants from you and it would leave you £75 up.

:rotfl:

Money_maker

Deb, what a horrible man. Dont for one minute think there is anything wrong with buying from ebay. I buy and sell on there - most of my baby dds clothes came cheap from ebay!!

I sympathise with your family and applaud you for having the sense to buy what you can afford rather than splashing out stupid amounts of money which you have borrowed on credit. The money he is asking for is absolutely ridiculous.
Wonder how he would feel if you bought him a little something from a charity shop or boot sale - both excellent sources of bargains!!

mudgekin

What an absolute a****ole of a man !! You are acting responsibly towards your family and most certainly not psychologically damaging them. What a bloody cheek also to have asked anyone to contribute to his wedding reception. I would draw a big circle on a card for him and his wife and say "there you go, especially for you, the most appropriate gift I can think of" and write underneath A hole from a polo mint

Christmas isnt about the most expensive presents. It is about being with people you love and having a wonderful time with them. I am sure your home will have much more festive cheer than the moneygrabbing BIL

tiamai_d

I'm wondering how on earth (or his hone world) he can possibly know where something was purchased from? Can he smell 'internet shopping' off an item that came from say... Debenhams online? I'd love to have that ability!!! Actually, that would be like a superpower in a comedy film. The man what can sniff out the 'net!

Hmmm..... needed a £50 donation for his big fancy wedding eh? wonder who's living beyond his means? :rolleyes:

I think a book is a wonderful idea for a gift, no doubt his darling kids won't know that they exist outside of a school.

And a mars bar for him, remind him of home.....

deb68_2

All of you on here are such decent people an i feel vey honourd to of met you if you get my meaning,thank you for your support.