Boyfriend dumped me

MrsTinks

Any items you bought would I guess be yours like the table - the bath you had equal use off I guess
Paying his speeding fine was silly - but I guess you could ask him to pay you back for that on moral grounds - doubt legally you could though...
You'd ONLY be entitled to anything if the house gained in value and even then you're talking very very complex situation - you'd need solicitors and chances are you'd actually still not be entitled to anything... but it would cost you potentially thousands.

Just walk away... Consider it rent - if you'd rented somewhere together you'd not be entitled to anything either - he just happened to own his property.
If you don't want the table you could ask him to pay you back for it i guess?

abby1234519

I guess it will be okay I am just really annoyed!!!! I bought this table two days before he did the deed....what a waste of £200..grrrr men

pinkshoes

abby1234519 wrote: »

I'm not after anything I just wanted to know where I stood as I have contributed to the house equally. I paid for half of the bath when it broke, I bought the dining room table, I have bought a few things for the house.

Even though you have contributed to the house equally, because houses have dropped in value so much in the last 6 to 12 months, then you might want to count yourself lucky he's not chasing you for half the loss i.e. you having to pay him!!!

Can't you just take the table? Or sell it on ebay? Or ask him to buy it off you?

MrsTinks

Then take the table...

abby1234519

Oh I can feel the support and sympathy leaking through the pages

Tojo_Ralph

abby1234519 wrote: »

Oh I can feel the support and sympathy leaking through the pages

If you are looking for sympathy, it's in the dictionary, somewhere between !!!!!! and syphilis.

grey_lady

Look it's crap splitting up, but your 19 - you'll have a great time in a shared house with people of the same age - it's eaiser to walk away than to try and stake a claim on the place.

Take the stuff you bought if you like, if it's truly your stuff and you dont want to leave it then freecycle it - once i binned everything in the cupboard that i had bought - rather energetically binned the flour in the cupboards :-)

PasturesNew

I'd ask him for money for: half the bath, the whole table, the speeding fine and walk away with your dignity intact, using that cash as a deposit on a house share.

You're 19. Too young to be moving in with lads when there's life to explore out there. Now you don't even need to shave your legs if you don't want to!! Think of the savings in Bic razors!

SootSoot

abby1234519 wrote: »

Oh I can feel the support and sympathy leaking through the pages

All replies here are in support of you. Just because they do not say that you are entitled to anything, doesn't mean they aren't offering sound advice.

Personally, I would walk away. My ex owed me loads of money when we split. I paid his rent on numerous occasions when he owed the council. 6months after we split he bought his flat under RTB. Was I bitter...hell yeah...I've only just finished off paying the debts 'we' accumulated during our 7 year relationship (5 years after we split!!)

Walk away and be grateful you don't have thousands of pounds worth of debt from the relationship (I presume). Sell the table, break the bath in half and take all the items YOU purchased with you when you leave if it makes you feel better. Otherwise be happy that you're still young and don't need to be tied down in a relationship anymore.

Whatever you decide, good luck.

BridgetJones_2

Sorry you've broken up it's a crappy situation but you must stop dwelling on any money you think you are owed (unfortunately you're not) and look to the future. Not sure why you'd think the council would house you.... I think you're better off looking into some houseshares and move on.

We've all been through it and believe me you'll feel better the sooner you leave (& in a dignified way). If you think the table it yours or anything else discuss it with him and if he agrees put it into storage until you have set yourself up somewhere else.