Boyfriend dumped me

Paparika

Abbey is the debts in your signature yours or his.... if his drop em like he dropped you.

If they are yours then concentrate on getting them out of the way, as everyone has said you are young.

I was married at your age (wish i wasn't) all my friends were having fun and i wasn't.

Annoying at it seems that he gets the nice stuff then tells you to go, some men are like that. Don't worry he's get whats his one day.

As for you dust yourself down and get back on that dance floor, lots of loose men this time of year wanting a snog.


As suggested you'd be better off in a house share and a chance to get yourself financially stable.

Men can be weird creatures at the best of times, my ex dumped his gf Christmas eve and got back with her after the new year..why... so he didn't have to buy her a pressie, he used to go out Christmas eve and buy me any old tat ...so thoughtful yes i know.

skintchick

brownbake wrote: »

For Jacks sake - you are 19 - not really an age to be moving in with someone a decade older. Live your life and move on and don't fall into any kind of temptation of going back to him.

Why not? that's ridiculous. I have friends who married at 21 and 25 years later are still very happy together. 19 is a perfectly good age to live with someone if you want to - she isn;t a child.

However, Op, you're not entitled to anything, sell the table, get a houseshare and move on.

Curv

Paparika wrote: »

... my ex dumped his gf Christmas eve and got back with her after the new year..why... so he didn't have to buy her a pressie, he used to go out Christmas eve and buy me any old tat ...so thoughtful yes i know.

And he's your ex.... why?

LilMissEmmylou

if u only got the table - return it? Tell him if he wants it he can pay for it himself to save u the hassle of the return. Everything else, take it on the chin and think of it as a lesson learned for next time

lowis

sorry you have got to rehome your dog will you still be able to see him? that's the saddest bit for me...obviously i also feel sad that your life has turned upside down too.

some mementos for him, if you wish...
inject some milk in to the sofa and hide a fresh prawn somewhere

Paparika

Curv wrote: »

And he's your ex.... why?

Not because of that... i was his human punch bag. WAS

leviathan

Paparika wrote: »

Abbey is the debts in your signature yours or his.... if his drop em like he dropped you.

Honestly, I would have to question myself being in a long term relationship with someone who had so much debt. It strikes me as irresponsible and immature to owe people so much at a young age.
My OH is a fairly low wage earn but has the ethos of buying what you can afford. In fact all my previous partners have a no/low debt outlook.

I have friends whose OH's have caused them so much trouble through their spending.

Of course the sea contains many fish. Whilst I'm not suggesting asking people for financial records when you meet them in a bar, I'd say that your debt has a correlation to your general attitude to life.

kaya

1) get drunk
2) get laid
3) get over him
Thats the order it will probably happen in anyway so why waste any more time, remember, the world is your lobster Rodney

abby1234519

leviathan wrote: »

Honestly, I would have to question myself being in a long term relationship with someone who had so much debt. It strikes me as irresponsible and immature to owe people so much at a young age.
My OH is a fairly low wage earn but has the ethos of buying what you can afford. In fact all my previous partners have a no/low debt outlook.

I have friends whose OH's have caused them so much trouble through their spending.

Of course the sea contains many fish. Whilst I'm not suggesting asking people for financial records when you meet them in a bar, I'd say that your debt has a correlation to your general attitude to life.

Aw thank you! Just as I couldnt feel any more depressed having just given my dog away which has really broken my heart I now really feel even lower.

MORPH3US

kaya wrote: »

1) get drunk
2) get laid
3) get over him
Thats the order it will probably happen in anyway so why waste any more time, remember, the world is your lobster Rodney

I can help with 2, 1 and 3 in that order