Boyfriend dumped me

Pssst

abby1234519 wrote: »

Sorry I did actually pay half of the rent half of the energy bills etc, I just meant the things on top such as car insurance I didn't contribute to.

I also sorted out the default on his credit card, I paid his speeding fine and I sorted all financial matters out. I did also tax the car which was given to "us" for free yes it is in his name but I wasn't sure with that.

I'm not after anything I just wanted to know where I stood as I have contributed to the house equally. I paid for half of the bath when it broke, I bought the dining room table, I have bought a few things for the house.

A word of advice to all. just because you are luvdup with someone its important to keep a reign on financial matters. Do not under any circumstances,get into the business of paying off other peoples bills or debts. In addition,dont get into the business of signing up for something for someone who,for one reason or another ,cant sign her/himself.

It seems that whilst you thought you were nest building,he has had second thoughts. Jus take with you that which you have paid for in full,move on,look forward,not back.

Curv

BridgetJones wrote: »

Sorry you've broken up it's a crappy situation but you must stop dwelling on any money you think you are owed (unfortunately you're not)

It's a symptom of the compensation culture we live in:
'Ouch, that hurts... how can I get some money from it?'

abbey - it's a lousy thing to happen but it's just part of life... at your age lovers come and go (no pun intended :rolleyes: ) - my best advice would be to work hard to earn your financial independence and then you can live where you want and have relationships with whoever you want - all on your terms.

Good luck to you, chick :beer:

becs

Abbey,

Can I just ask how you would feel if you had worked hard presumably as your ex has done for the past 10 years which has enabled him to buy his own house, then met someone who moved in for a year and paid £350 a month and then wanted financial compensation when you split up? It's life I'm afraid, treat others as you would expect to be treated because what goes around comes around. You may find yourself in the same position as he is in later in life only your house may have gone up in value. How would you feel if someone then tried to get that profit from you, most people in that situation have to sell as they can't afford to pay up.

Becs

abby1234519

Lol I have sounded like a moneypinching lady?
When I asked what financial position I was in I wasn't intending it to come across as I want my money back! I put my heart into the relationship and I do feel slighty peeved. Lovely him asking for a squash bag for christmas, me buying it and then a day later, oh by the way I don't love you enough anymore.
Cheers
MEN pah.

I'm going to go sit in my rocking chair and never move again.
Unfortunately I am going to have to say bye to my best friend Molly the Jack Russell, I have found her a suitable home. Not sure what breaks my heart most, him or the dog. Probably the dog....

brownbake

For Jacks sake - you are 19 - not really an age to be moving in with someone a decade older. Live your life and move on and don't fall into any kind of temptation of going back to him.

Strapped

abby1234519 wrote: »

I'vel ived with OH for a year in his house that he owns.
Hes asked me to leave and we've split up

Do I have any rights financially or otherwise?

Yes, you have the right to leave with dignity (no looking back) and have a much better life with someone who will appreciate you and make you wonder what you ever saw in the low life in the first place

Sod the "things" - leave 'em.

abby1234519

I don't think he is a low life, he just is a stubborn git.

And yes he is a few years older however its never appeared so.
But having said that looking back, I've never been able to imagine marrying/having kids blahblah.

And with regards to my age, yes 19 is young but when you're 14 years older than your siblings it makes you feel 30!

Ah well. I'm packing up at the moment and looking forward to having a bed to myself

foreign_correspondent

you could drill a hole in the bath before you leave!:rotfl:

sorry to hear about your dog, I hope her new owners are nice.

blackcoffee

best of luck to you, i think everyone has covered what needs to be said, tho i personally would chop the tableup ather than leave it behind. can your parents not store it for you ? And put the bag down to experience ! He doesnt sound paticulary worth grieving for, can you not also take the bag bck ? having only bought it the day before?

mudgekin

While it is a horrible time of the year to break up you can count your blessings that there are no children involved. It is a shame that you already bought Xmas presents but can't you take it back to the shop and ask for a refund, or sell on ebay.

Pack up, move on and look to the future, your "investment" really amounted to no more than rent. If you had been living in a shared flat with a group of people would you expect a payout if you all went your separate ways?

Take this as a fresh start and learn a valuable lesson. If someone else has financial problems, they are NOT your problems nor should you deal with them especially after living with someone for only a year.