MMD: Would you get into debt to grant a friend’s dying wish?

crazymother

I would agree to anything if my freind was ontheir death bed... It dosn't mean I would go through with it.who could afford that expense?. What would happen if i didn't..nothing. The most important thing is my friend would belive I would and if that made their passing easier then that's a good thing.

deano1964

Am I the only one that would? If I was already in £10,000 debt, what's another £2,000. I would do it whenever they wanted. How would you live with the guilt if you didn't?

SandC

I wouldn't do it if I didn't have the debt. But then I'm thinking purely from the point of view of if it was me and in that case none of my friends would ever ask me to do something like that - they would ask their family if anyone.

supersmith

As others have suggested I would go once I had paid off my debts, it would give me a good incentive to get out of debt as quickly as possible, and could then save up for the trip. Any good friend wouldn't want you to get into debt on their behalf!

barri_2

hellywelly5 wrote: »

Nah! They'd never know!

What kind of nutter cares where their ashes go? When you're dear you're dead all over.

baby_fuzz

surely the friend would understand if you took some time getting the money together before embarking on the trip? It's not like ashes don't keep...

duchy

Honestly I think it's a bit of silly question as friends don't usually ask for the impossible. There would be good reasons for the wish or provision made.
Yes I'd do all I could to honour the last wishes of someone close to me
No I wouldn't take a partner with me-I am quite capable of doing this alone-why double the cost-it isn't a holiday

grade15

well, I would ask my best friend does he have any money? because he is not going to use it.. and if so.. then yes I would do it..

pollypenny

Like many contributors, I would not do this. Why the Grand Canyon? He/she is aggrandizing himself. Surely, a place with which one has been involved and knows very well is the best resting place for ashes.

My parents' ashes are together on the mountain overlooking the village in which they lived all their lives.

nundern

If your friend truly wanted you to do this, they should have left provisions for it to happen in their will.

I wouldn't do it just yet. There are a few of things I would do, the first would be to have a service and then wait until I was out of debt.

The second thing I could do is try to raise the money, I'm sure people who knew my friend would gladly put money towards a good cause such as this for a sponsered run or something similar.

I could save money by not asking my partner to go but someone who would pay for themselves i.e. another friend or family member of my friend. Or asking someone else to do it who could afford it - his real wish was probably to be scattered across the Canyon and it probably didn't have to be specifically done by me.