MMD: Would you get into debt to grant a friend’s dying wish?

SandC

Taffybiker wrote: »

I would, as other have said, keep the ashes and wait until it was more financially viable.
An alternative I may consider would be asking a trusted someone who is already going to America to do it on my behalf. Each year someone I know seems to be heading in that direction.

Lol. Would you? I can just imagine a mate saying 'ooh I'm heading to Vegas for a quick break next week'. I would be like 'can you nip the Grand Canyon for me while you are there and just throw these ashes around a bit?'. :rotfl:

I would imagine a fairly swift exit from mate.......

Stampede_2

Being pedantic the Q relates to a dying wish and doesn't say anything about specific requests and even more important about promises any-one makes.

However, if in the total scheme of things, my knowledge about why the friend might have made expressed that wish, ( say a place they got engaged, married at, etc ) I would certanly do my very best to carry out their wishes.
The timing and finances are all things that can be sorted.

Being practical, the scattering might be a legitimate expenses against the dceased's estate as funeral expenses are a priority debt .. we're still trying to sort out just such an issue, I won't say a problem, nearly 12 months on after arranging the funeral of a friend who died without a will and no next of kin ( until we traced long distant relatives via ancestry and internet on the other side of the world )
:j a money saver with mortgage paid off, always pay credit card in full,not overdrawn, more worried about my savings being safe and not impressed with the VAT reduction as if that's going to make any difference .. batten down the hatches, be sensible and wait until the squall passes

SandC

It depends upon the circumstances of the death as well. If your friend had, for example got knocked over by a car and you were holding him/her and talking to them waiting for emergency services they may say it then and have never mentioned it ever before. If they then died it would have been their poignant last words and therefore I would probably grant their wishes. There would have been no thought about finances etc. if those were the circumstances.

Countertenor

No! I don't care what the circumstances were - 1) I'm not increasing my debt for anyone 2) there's no logic to the request & 3) he'll never know anyway!

ChrisDuffield

Sprinkle them over Cheddar Gorge

Katie-Kat-Kins

Have a whip round at the funeral???

taka

If a close friend asked me to do this I think I would irrespective of whether they had left money to carry out their wish in their will or not. If I was in debt at the time then doing this would spur me on to get debt free all the quicker before carrying out their wish. I think it would be a matter of respecting my friend in death as well as life by scattering their ashes where they wished.

starbump

No, I wouldn't get (further) into debt but I would save up to fulfil the request in the future.

schoolfundraiser

No I wouldn't go into debt to do this. Unless he/she left some money in the will to do this it would have to be when I could afford to do it.

And ashes are quite heavy and the plastic container they come in is about the size of a big old fashioned sweetie jar so they would be a bit conspicuous to take on a tourist tour wouldn't they?:rotfl:

bap98189

Absolutely not. Once you are dead, you are just powder, it matter not where it goes. Why pollute the river by dumping ashes in it?