are normal blokes romantic?

suckmaster.burstingfoam

mambury wrote: »

My other problem is that I have nowhere to go to, no family and I can;t get friends invloved as its not fair on them to be stuck in the middle.

Oh, bloody hell why can't life be like in the films...............

There is always something you can do. Big decisions can seem overpoweringly difficult to take - but sometimes you need to grab the bull by the horns.

Sounds like you need to.

yoni_one

maggirl wrote: »

Thanks everyone, I was having another think about it last night. I spoke to him about it Christmas, and asked him why he didnt make an effort last year. He said he didnt feel he had done anything wrong last year, he said he just felt like a lie in, he was tired...... So I said "Didnt you want to see XX open her presents then" and his answer was, well you could have videod it, and anyway I saw her playing with her presents when I got up, whats the big deal....................So there you have it in a nutshell. he thinks I'm making too big a deal out of it.

I think the above says a lot about his perspective. It seems that in his world everything and everyone is in his orbit and he does not see beyond that.

We don't do things simply for our own pleasure but to give pleasure to others too. It would seem that no where in his thinking did he factor in that his daughter or you might enjoy the present opening ceremony as a family which, lets face it, is not an unreasonable expectation on Christmas day.

Only he has the power to change this view in himself, but you have the power to choose to accept it or not. It sounds like you have woken up to the world of choices and now looking to make some that are right for you, not him.

Best wishes to you, I hope you have a much happier Christmas this year.