Weekly Flylady Thread 17th November 2008

angelnikki

Justamum wrote: »

Don't want to spook you, but do you think you might have a ghost :eek:

:eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: *runs and hides behind the sofa*

carol22_2

Hi everyone

I haven't been on here in a while, and I think i've missed you all because I just feel so carpy at the moment. I feel like bursting into tears half of the time and I don't have much idea why. I don't seem able to find time to do anything, everything I try to do for OH doesn't go right, and I haven't really made many friends at uni, i failed my driving test, have just found out we have heriditary bowel cancer in the family, I can't keep up at uni, I feel stressed all the time. The flat is a mess because I just can't find the energy to do anything so haven't done any flying in about 2 weeks.

Sorry about moaning, I feel awful for offloading all this onto you lovely people, but I just need a chance to get it off my chest. Oh dear. The waterworks have begun.

Hope everyone is having a better time than I am, love and hugs to those that need them xxx

OrkneyStar

((((((((((((((((((((((carol))))))))))))))))))))))))
Just do a thing at a time, even if its something small or something that might make you feel good (bake a choccy cake or something ?).
As for driving tests, I failed my first one, and know lots of people who have failed more than that too. You will still have learned from this one, and better luck next time. Sorry about the cancer, I am not sure what to advise- are there certain foods you can avoid/eat, certain things you can do to help yourself ?
Sorry to not be much help, but just wanted to answer the post.
Take care
x

Flylady_Flower

OddjobKIA wrote: »

congrats flylady-flower. (dont forget to tithe it):D

Anyway got get back to flying now..bye

Thanks OJK - I won't be titheing this one, we need it too much to be able to afford to, but that is one thing we are doing next year - been thinking about it for ages, but with hubbys new job, we can make a start - at the moment, not enough coming in to pay the bills let alone tithe - this will get us back on track :j (still excited.... hehe)

Lady-Liberty

carol22 wrote: »

Hi everyone

I haven't been on here in a while, and I think i've missed you all because I just feel so carpy at the moment. I feel like bursting into tears half of the time and I don't have much idea why. I don't seem able to find time to do anything, everything I try to do for OH doesn't go right, and I haven't really made many friends at uni, i failed my driving test, have just found out we have heriditary bowel cancer in the family, I can't keep up at uni, I feel stressed all the time. The flat is a mess because I just can't find the energy to do anything so haven't done any flying in about 2 weeks.

Sorry about moaning, I feel awful for offloading all this onto you lovely people, but I just need a chance to get it off my chest. Oh dear. The waterworks have begun.

Hope everyone is having a better time than I am, love and hugs to those that need them xxx

Oh Carol huge hugs... it's no wonder you feel tearful, can you break things down into manageable chunks. Speak to somebody at uni, see if you can get a bit of extra help until you are back on track.
Next time you do your driving test you will know a little better what to expect, so it may steady the nerves.
Have you spoken to your OH, let him know you are feeling under pressure.
And most importantly take care of yourself, make time for a bath, read a book, eat chocolate, just something to treat you xx

Flylady_Flower

johanne wrote: »

Me too.........:rotfl:




Flower - YOUR A STAR!!! Thank you so much.. you just made me realise its in the corner of the house where there is now a hole in masonary thanks to a wasps nest we had in the loft few weeks ago!!

OOOOOOhh i bought myself a new coat last night!! ExOH couldnt believe it... i bought clothes NEW from a shop and not second hand off ebay!:o :rolleyes: He asked what was up...... :rotfl: I didnt dare tell him i'd got 20% off in a sale event, plus free delivery using a discount code and 5% back via quidco! Making the cost £19 as apposed to the £29 it should have been

Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhwwwwwwwww.... how cute is that? (although she'll hate you when she's older and you are showing her boyfriends...:rotfl: )

Glad to help, even if indirectly...

Had to laugh at the last bit.... you are the only person I know who HID the fact that you had saved money to your OH (even ex)....:rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl: :rotfl:

embb

Hi guys :wave:

((((((((((Carol))))))))) take care of yourself can't advise on much but the driving test will be better next time cause you'll know what to expect, I didn't pass first time but flew through it the second. Hope you manage to find some peace xx

Is titheing when you squirrel away so much of everything you earn?? I do a 10% thing of everything I earn is mine to keep and it doesn't get touched, only used for something that will make you money....is it the same thing?

Back in from work - obviously lol.. just waiting for littley to come in now then we're heading off into town to M&S and probs McDonalds for a treat for tea, then I'll be doing the bathroom when I get in....teenies just finished the kitchen :j

It's getting dark :eek: best bring the washing in.

Ciao :hello:

angelnikki

Big hugs ((((carol)))) Sorry you're feeling stressed.

I used to work for BSM and most people fail before they pass you can always do another. Have you done any mock tests with your instructor?

Maybe instead of thinking there's not enough time to do anything you could break it down into one or two things that you know you could do today and forget about the rest until you've finished the first things?

And make sure you treat yourself and do something nice for you each day. Even if its just having a relaxing bath or something?

Hope you feel better soon xx

OMG it's 3:40 and I've still not had my breakfast yet! Better go... my tummy's rumbling now lol

OrkneyStar

angelnikki wrote: »

OMG it's 3:40 and I've still not had my breakfast yet! Better go... my tummy's rumbling now lol

I am not surprised you are hungry angelnikki!
Still if you have been feeling lousy you are excused, just make sure you eat something half decent though .
I am off to do my back exercises so I can tick off my list before tea (should just about manage as DS happy playing with his toy steering wheel/flashy lights thing!).
PS if anyone has not tried the weetabix brownies I recommend them!- NOT for brekkie though!
x

Pink_Fairy_2

carol22 wrote: »

Hi everyone

I haven't been on here in a while, and I think i've missed you all because I just feel so carpy at the moment. I feel like bursting into tears half of the time and I don't have much idea why. I don't seem able to find time to do anything, everything I try to do for OH doesn't go right, and I haven't really made many friends at uni, i failed my driving test, have just found out we have hereditary bowel cancer in the family, I can't keep up at uni, I feel stressed all the time. The flat is a mess because I just can't find the energy to do anything so haven't done any flying in about 2 weeks.

Sorry about moaning, I feel awful for offloading all this onto you lovely people, but I just need a chance to get it off my chest. Oh dear. The waterworks have begun.

Hope everyone is having a better time than I am, love and hugs to those that need them xxx

• First things first - have a :grouphug:. We all need them now and again and this is your time!

• Second - you need to speak to someone at uni re- not keeping up, to see what support you can get

• Third - re: bowel cancer - go speak with your GP and tell them your concerns and ask them to help you put it in perspective, and whether there is anything you should or should not do i.e diet etc

• Fourth - see if there are any "special interest" clubs at uni which might help you to make some friends

• Fifth - driving tests can be re-taken - get yourself booked in and have another go. If at first.................etc etc.

• Sixth - the flat - flying starts with teeny weeny steps. As several have said on here, it didn't get in a mess in one day, so it won't take one day to fix. Make yourself a list of what you need to do every day ie making bed, SS bathroom/kitchen etc and try sticking to that. You don't have to follow Pigpen's list (she won't mind ) but decide which room or area is the most important for you to feel happier. If you are feeling really tired that might be your bedroom, so just changing the bed, or cleaning the window might be a good start. Or perhaps the bathroom - turn it into a little haven by making a start on a deep clean and put yourself a couple of candles in there so that you can treat yourself to a nice bubble bath in a lovely atmosphere.

I'm no expert, but it might help, but above all don't be hard on yourself and come back on here lots for moral support. You can do this and it will get better. x

And - give yourself a pat on the back for the weight loss!