Leaving my husband

twinklie

Well done Rolo! You're an inspiration. x

smileykylie_2

Rolo - i haven't posted on this thread before but have been following it. You have come sooo far and should be so proud.

rose28454

Well done from me too! My husband left last last April after a 27 year marriage dominated by alcohol. He has been off the booze since then and is living on his own in a lovely little cottage. We are now the best of friends. However I cant forgive him for the times he ruined Xmas and even our son's graduation. But my DD and I finally have a family life and she is not ashamed to invite her friends around. After Xmas I am going to have to sell up and move into a rented house as there are about £50k's wprth of debt to be cleared.
Still I now realise that piece of mine and a quiet life are worth mor than all the money in the world and I am looking forward to a new home. Best of luck to you and your family.
:j

hollykate

Rolo, i've jsut read your entire thread, and i cannot believe what a strong and brave person you are. It is so nice to have someone put thier kids first. I hope you and your family have a lovely life together in your "new" house. it has all been worth it.

new_day_2

Rolo I wish you well. I know how hard it is to leave a marriage, I went through similar to you a couple of years ago, and just wanted to say life can a bit scary on your own at times, but the sense of freedom and relief that you get from being independent and in control of your own life is fantastic, I'm sure you are discovering that.

Sod the fact you have nothing, I upped and left with 2 conservatory chairs, my child's bed and a few personal items I could fit in my car. 'Things' can be replaced as and when, possessions are not important, people are.

Yes, life can get a bit wobbly at times, I have my own dilemma to work through at the moment, but I have been so much happier and only wish I had found the courage to leave 6 or 7 years before when I realised he wouldn't change. Sadly he had knocked my self confidence to such a low degree that I was too scared to go. To anyone else in an unhappy marriage, I would urge them to be brave and leave, life truly is too short to be unhappy.

Best of luck for your future and that of your children

rolo-polo1965

We moved at the weekend. We are now living amongst boxes and bags.

We need to slowley sort these out.

Also have the rented house to clean as i am handing the keys back on Monday.

We are all happy apart from the boxes but we will get there.

Once we are straight i will poast some pictures.

rolo-polo1965

We have been in our house for about 10 days. Weare still living in boxes but are slowley getting there.

Loads of junk has gone to the charity shops and the tip. Not as many boxes to unnpack.

At least me and the kids are on half term so still have a few more days to spend sorting stuff out.

dizzybuff

well done rolo .. Power to the bird most high....

yoni_one

16-11-2008, 8:38 PM

rolo-polo1965 wrote: »

I could do with some advice. I have 3 children living at home, none of us are happy, my husband has become more and more verbally abusive. He belittles the children all the time calling them names. When my son failed his AS exams \(his best friend died of cancer) he went belistic calling him names. When my eldest daughter lived at home he told her he wished she had died instead of his mother.
I have found a house that the children and i could rent but not sure if i am doing the right thing.
We have a mortgage in both names, joint bank accounts, joint credit cards etc.
I am after some advise, he says that there is no way he is leaving the family home, as he has put so much money and effort into it, but then so have i

My priority is my childen, i want them to be safe and happy, at the moment i feel that they are not.

20-10-2009, 10:47 AM

rolo-polo1965 wrote: »

We moved at the weekend. We are now living amongst boxes and bags.

We need to slowley sort these out.

Also have the rented house to clean as i am handing the keys back on Monday.

We are all happy apart from the boxes but we will get there.

Once we are straight i will poast some pictures.

I LOVE a successful outcome!!! You are one smart, brave and resourceful woman Rolo. :T

I really wish you and your children a very happy abuse-free future.

rolo-polo1965

Wee i can not believe how long it is since i last posted on here.

I want to thank you all for your suppoert over the last 15 months.

I can't believe how much has changed.

We are all happy in our new house, we were straight for Christmas, all the boxes were emptied and put away. We all had a great time.

So thanks to everyone for your advise