Leaving my husband

rachel6188

rolo - iam sooo proud of you for walking away - my auntie had 28 years of dv until he battered her then left her for dead then he commited suicide. she survived but had 2 punctured lungs, every rib and pretty much every bone in her body broke...and has 30 metal plates in her face.
she was actually divorced from him but was still helping him with bills etc. this is extreme but i want people to know it can and does happen.
you have probably inspired woman to walk away from abuse no matter what kind.
you and your family have come soo far in the last 6 months and will continue to have a better and settled life.
congratulations to your son and daughter on their results aswell they should be extremely proud of themselves.
take care of yourself
rach xx

k2tog

So glad things are going well for you Rolo.
Hope to see you again on the knit your square thread when you get some time again.
Congrats to both of your kids on their great results

rolo-polo1965

Heard from solicitor this morning. Hubby has signed all his paperwork and returned them to her. I am going in next Wednesday to sign my absolute and financial paperwork, this will then be sent to the courts.

I am, slowly getting there.

I keep collecting boxes ready for us to pack from various shops, they are pilling up in the garage.

As soon as i have the keys i will give notice on our rented house but i am not prepared to do it before just in case anything goes wrong.

moneysavermum_2

To Rolo-Polo,

Nevr forget why you left him in the first place no matter how nice he is in the future. Us women have to endure alot before we leave our home, never forget how you felt and never ever go back...look only forward now. You are doing what I did 2 1/2 years ago except my ex went for custody...and didnt get it!!!

It has its difficulties being on your own but ultimately its peace and living your own life.:A

rolo-polo1965

Been to solicitors this evening and signed forms for decree absolute, they will be sent off to the courts tomorrow.

I can not believe that next Friday the house will be mine. Did get an email from hubby to say that being as he does not get the keys to his new place till 12 on the Friday he willalso need Saturday morning to move out. I am not happy. How do these things normally work do people normally move out and in on the same day? I supose i do not really have any choice i supose i will have to let him have the Saturday morning as well.

Will let you know more as it happens

yoni_one

Do you mean you will allow him to store his stuff in your house until Saturday morning or do you mean you will allow him to stay in your house until Saturday morning?

If you mean the latter I would seek advice over the possible implications should he refuse to leave or should he trash the house once it is in your ownership (I am thinking squatters rights??).

I really do hope it goes smoothly but always best to prepare yourself for every possible eventuality.

btw, why is he unable to arrange the removal van for midday on the Friday?

Jane2112

Just read this thread. Well done Roly. Like many others on here I can fully understand what you have been through and what you are feeling right now.

A word of caution, like Yoni mentined. I would not allow my ex to be in the house once it was totally mine. If he gets the keys for his place at 12 on Friday, he can be packed up and ready to go. He should be out of your house by 11am Friday
If not he had better find a friend or relavtive to put him up.

My ex threaten to burn my house down. w**ker

Thriftysaver

Hi Rolo,

Not been on for awhile. Well done. Everything will be fine for you now. I agree with others, don't let him stay in house after it is signed over to you. He should sign a form at sols saying he will leave on completion day. Make him stick to it.

Good Luck.

Thriftysaver

Marg

Hi Rolo - It looks like the end is in sight for you, well, more, the beginning really. I've followed this thread for ages and I'm so glad things worked out OK for you, you are one brave lady and an inspiration to others.

P S I wouldn't let him stay in the house after it becomes yours if I were you. Might be worth a call to your solicitor.......

rolo-polo1965

Many thanks for the advice. I am waiting to hear back from my solicitors