Leaving my husband

rolo-polo1965

missbargain wrote: »

You are very courageous, Rollo, I do think that you are doing the right thing, however difficult it is.
I am so glad to hear that you have found a nice place, that is so, so important. I think that, once you move out and in and have your peace and quiet, you will be so much happier and won't regret your decision.
And, perhaps your husband will get to his senses, as, I can see his, point: you don't have a problem, it is HIM ho has it!
I hope good luck follows you from now on, it won't be easy, but, one step at the time, it will get better. All the best, MB.

Thanks MB

I dont feel very courageous, but i do feel i am doing the right thing.

I have mixed feelings this morning but deep down i know i am doing the right thing for the kids sake if nothing else.

Thanks for your support

consultant31

What a sad story! I really do think moving out is the best thing you could do. If it has ground you down so badly, imagine what it's like for the children! Being made to feel useless, unloved and worthless by a parent must be one of the worst feelings in the world.

Good luck to you all. Please keep us updated on how you're doing when you move x

Kavanne

Rolo have you got your own bank account? You'll need it to have your wages paid in, because if it goes into the joint account he could just drain it. Not a very useful post in other aspects but I wish you the best of luck and hope you sort this out ASAP.

rolo-polo1965

consultant31 wrote: »

What a sad story! I really do think moving out is the best thing you could do. If it has ground you down so badly, imagine what it's like for the children! Being made to feel useless, unloved and worthless by a parent must be one of the worst feelings in the world.

Good luck to you all. Please keep us updated on how you're doing when you move x

Thanks

As things happen i will update my post.

Thanks

rolo-polo1965

Kavanne wrote: »

Rolo have you got your own bank account? You'll need it to have your wages paid in, because if it goes into the joint account he could just drain it. Not a very useful post in other aspects but I wish you the best of luck and hope you sort this out ASAP.

Thanks

Yes i have opened my own bank account, i will ring up my pay role department at work and get my wages changed over.

I am finding all this quite over whelming at times

Thanks

calverley38

Rolo, I don't know if you get Martin's weekly emails but in the email from last week was a free finance guide: "You CAN afford to leave".

http://www.refuge.org.uk/page_l1-7_l2-573_l3-3177_.htm

I hope there is some info in there of use to you.
Good luck,
Lx

piglet74

i have just read this now, how sad, i have tears in my eyes, you are really brave, best of luck with the move, (you moved in already now i think, tuesday) everyone deserves to be happy, rich, poor, broke, waiting on pay day, no matter what,

dont be beating yourself up by saying "the kids dont deserve this" they will be happier in a more harmonious enviorment, and so will you,

i will be thinking about you, you might start to sleep better now,
take care xoxoxo

rolo-polo1965

piglet74 wrote: »

i have just read this now, how sad, i have tears in my eyes, you are really brave, best of luck with the move, (you moved in already now i think, tuesday) everyone deserves to be happy, rich, poor, broke, waiting on pay day, no matter what,

dont be beating yourself up by saying "the kids dont deserve this" they will be happier in a more harmonious enviorment, and so will you,

i will be thinking about you, you might start to sleep better now,
take care xoxoxo

Thanks

I get the keys to the new house on Tuesday 25th, an dthen we will be moving.

rolo-polo1965

calverley38 wrote: »

Rolo, I don't know if you get Martin's weekly emails but in the email from last week was a free finance guide: "You CAN afford to leave".

http://www.refuge.org.uk/page_l1-7_l2-573_l3-3177_.htm

I hope there is some info in there of use to you.
Good luck,
Lx

Thanks

I have downloaded this and printed it off at work, it contains some usefull information

piglet74

rolo-polo1965 wrote: »

Thanks

I get the keys to the new house on Tuesday 25th, an dthen we will be moving.

good luck with that, will be thinkng of you, just keep thinking "this is the last thurs. i have to do this" then "this is the last friday.." etc and each day u will wake up feeling stronger, that will carry you through until next tuesday,

it seems unfair u have to leave, but do u think ur hubbie really dones think theres a problem, or does he think, "she wont leave me", and thats why he wont go,

ur doing the right thing, good luck, and take care of u,