Leaving my husband

rosysparkle

Good luck for today Rolo.

When my husband and I first separated I thought my life was over and I'd never be happy again. How wrong I was, it was the start of proper happiness for me. There were days and nights when I thought I'd never cope, and times when the police had to be called because my ex was kicking off, but my kids and I got through and so will you and your kids.

Blackpool_Saver

Keep checking this post for an update, hope all going OK ((HUGS))

consultant31

rolo-polo1965 wrote: »

Thanks everyone for your best wishes.

It is good to know there are people outthere who think i am doing the right thing, as i am begining to wonder.

I have booked a van to hire tomorrow to move the kids bedroom furniture and colect some longe furniture from the kind people on free-cycle.

I have been and brought a freezer from asda tonight, £99 which i thought was good, tried to get a fridge that they sell for £89 but they are out of stock, they are going to let me know when they have them in over the weekend.

I will use hubbys beer fridge till then.

Well this time tomorrow i will be shattered but should be in my new home.

Thanks every one again

The very best of luck to you and your children. I'm sure if you could fast-forward 6 months, you'd be able to see how much happier and more peaceful you'll be.

A very Happy Christmas to you and the children :santa2:

Mely

Rolo...i hope its all gone well for you today. Please let us know how you are etc. xxxxxx

inamess200

Rolo - i hope you are sitting in your new home safe with your children to night and things went ok. Thinking of you xxx

McKneff

hope you sleep well and with a smile on your face.

clou19750

Wow u are so brave to do it.. good on u!!

All the best in your new home x

ohcrap

You need to see a solicitor. You could get an occupation order, you and your children do not have to put up with a bully, they will make him leave and you and the kids will stay in the house. My advice to you is collect as much evidence as possible about what he has been doing and make a record dates. I have been through a similar situation, but I am free of it now and I am very happy. Good luck!

purple_82

I hope everything went smoothly for you!

I'm 26 now but when growing up, my mum promised us she would leave my dad. He would drink and cause arguments, we would be awake all night with him slamming doors, shouting etc. When he got violent, sometimes mum would come into our room, sit with her back against the bed and her feet up the door so he couldn't get in. Our room was the only place she could do this to stop him getting at her.

She never did leave him. He would be as sweet as pie the next day and all would be forgiven, till the next time.

He died of an alcoholic related disease when I was 16.

I am so glad you are doing this, not just for your children but for you! You may have hard times in the coming months but it will be worth it in the end. When they are old enough, your children will understand properly the depths you have gone to make their life a happier place. Plus, you will have shown them that nobody deserves to be treated the way you are, and it will be a fantastic example to them when they form their own relationships in the future.

I wish you all the best hun xxx

vyvyan_2

I've been following this and would like to offer my support. Well done to you. Takes a lot or clear-thinking and organising when your mind's in turmoil. It takes a hell of a lot of courage too and your kids will respect you for it, whatever their future relationship with him is. I did it myself 15 years ago and never looked back. The advice on here is good, so I won't repeat. If you've got an problems or need advice, come to mse! I had most of the worst scenarios too, like coming after me and turning up at my parents house (as he, wrongly, thought I had gone there). Btw good point, notify trusted friends and family.