Is it me?

notlongnow_2

He needs to get a job. The longer he leaves it the harder it will be. I live in Rotherham and I know that Asda are taking christmas shelf stackers 10pm til 6am. When you have children and want one parent to care for the child then one carer will have to work nights if you arent going to pay for childcare.

Its not as bad as it seems.
Good luck.

notlongnow_2

What does he say when you mention it? Does he not realise you are skint?? Is he happy for you to work and support him and any children for all his life?? Does he want to struggle financially forever? What a waste of a fit able person. What about voluntary whilst DD is at school, just to get *something* on his CV.

fernliebee

searching_me wrote: »

i wouldnt say lazy id say comfy x

:rotfl:

Too true! Well I wish you luck with it all. Hope he find's something soon, and hope you get a rest soon. Take care of yourself and that little bump of yours.

searching_me

he says he dont want me do to it all and as i say i know hes tried its just well nothings happened i keep waiting but well here we are x

notlongnow_2

There are always jobs out there for people willing to do them.

searching_me

thank you fernliebee i will try x

kittiej

TBH I would be reticent about trying to argue with your OH into finding work.

my lasting impressions of S Yorks were no jobs and pretty grim to be truthful.

i would say that if one of you are working then take it as a blessing in disguise, it might not be ideal biut at least it's money.

Do your time, take your maternity leave and see what the future holds would be my advice.

You can get through your current job by thinking that you only have so many weeks left to work, unless you feel ill of course

searching_me

he has handed out alot of cv and on job centre website but its like he'll have a months break then try again i think i may get him to wonder up to tescos with me and hand out cvs in all the shop we pass on the way back lol x

searching_me

yer s yorks is terrible for jobs i mean if the job advisior is even saying do you wanna go on job seeker you know its bad x

notlongnow_2

I live in S yorks and ive not noticed a decline in jobs. Most town centre stores are taking christmas staff. Macdonalds ALWAYS needs staff. As do care homes, and not just care staff, they need handy men too.

If this recession takes hold then after businesses do go bust and people are laid off work then your OH will find it much harder because most people applying for jobs will have skills.

My sis recruits adults and children for local free paper rounds. She says there are more adults then kids take a few rounds on to get some money.

You're going to ware yourself out and if I was in your position then id start to resent OH for me being so knackered all the time.