Ideas for ADHD Children?

nikki.paul

cathy1969 wrote: »

Hi, My son is 13 this year and was diagnosed with ADHD just as he started secondary school. His Senco has been brilliant but with limited money and people help in lessons has been few & far between.

His primary school thought he was dyslexic but he isnt however they found out he has auditory & visual sequential memory problems. He has a passport which he shows teachers so they know he has problems. They only have to put a ta in english maths & science but he struggles in others too. He wont ask for help from the teachers so if he doenst understand he wont do much in that lesson. He thinks he is stupid & really has low self esteem & not much confidence.

At his last appointment with ADHD doctor she advised he be seen by a school phycologist which I have asked for but dont like to keep asking as I know how busy they are.

I have seen on other threds people mentioned cognative tests, what are they and where are they done?

I really want to help him get the best out of his education but feel im always running into a brick wall, can anyone offer any advice. Im sure school just think im a nurotic mother and humour me.

get in touch with your local parent partnership. They will come with you to school meeting explain your rights and the school and council roles in keep and educating you child in main stream school. Your rights to have your child give a statment of education if needed. just type parent partnership and you local coucil area and yoou should find a link. See below

[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]What are parent partnership services[/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Parent partnership services are statutory services that offer information, advice and support for parents of children and young people with special educational needs (SEN) they will also be able to put parents in touch with other local organisations. PPS's also have a role in making sure that parent’s views are heard and understood and that these views inform local policy and practice. [/FONT]
[FONT=Verdana, Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif]Some parent partnerships are based in the voluntary sector although the majority remain based in their LEA (Local Education Authority) or Children’s Trust. All parent partnerships, wherever they are based, are at ‘arm’s length’ from the LEA, that is, they are able to provide impartial advice and support to parents.[/FONT]

Nikki

cathy1969

Thanks Nikki, I will do that today and see what I can find out. I just wanted to let everyone know (if you dont already) I saw another thred about people who cliamed DLA can apply for a CEA Card for cinema's they have to pay but the person with them gets in free. If you google cea card it will take you to their website.

taurus1

Try phoning the Family Fund. It is for familys on low incomes, and they will do their best to provide you with what you feel you need in order to aid you. eg. beds,holiday,games,washing machines etc. you do have to show evidence of the disability you would be claiming for, but they are always very kind, and if they can, they will help you. just google family fund. good luck.

kazzadred

My local authority gives out small grants a few times a year - up to £200 for people on means tested benefits, might be worth asking your Social Services. It has to be something for you, but you could say it was for you to play with your other children and let him be distracted and give you a break from trying to entertain him. It's enough for a Wii - give it a go x

blue_monkey_2

Is there any way of getting your kids to stay in bed? I've been up since 4.45 this morning so I am hoping this is not the start of another early morning pattern as come the time for them to go to school I've had enough. Once one is up the other is up too so I have really had enough.

I should add that my son is ASD as well as ADHD and so does not really understand me telling him that he should stay in bed until his clock says 6.00 - once he is awake he is awake. My DD has a ? over High functioning ASD and trying to explain that it is not time for them to get up usually results in them (DD especially) screaming and slamming doors so I just have to try and keep the peace.

Anyone had to deal with the same thing. He is running around squealing at 6am because he is hungry and it is just such a job to keep him quiet. Anyone got any ideas? They have noth got digital clocks so they can tell the time but they just cannot lay in bed, I cannot let them go downstairs on their own because of DS habit of banging things and they just fight and hurt each other so I do have to get up with them. Even them sitting on the sofa together ends up with them kicking each other in the face. DS is almost 5 and DD 6.

JUst waiting now to see if they are off to school today. Ho hum. I need them to go because I am exhausted being ill I've not had much sleep over the last week, but on the other side I'd love to go sledging again as it was so much fun and I do not think the snow will be here on Saturday.

shazrobo

hi blue monkey, i'd love to know the answer to that question too, and my two are 13, solon to be 14, and they still get up early especially twin 2, and it gets worse once the lighter mornings get here.
i know how you feel re the exhaustion, my two went to school yesterday after having monday and tues off, rang school this mon=rning, and they closed again.
wish mine liked the snow, would love to try sledgeing, unfortunatly, too cold, too hard, too wet for my two, so keeping them entertained is hard work
hugs
shaz x

blue_monkey_2

Oh, I am not even thinking about lighter morning but I know what you mean.

It has been a nightmare getting out the door, getting all the clothes on for them to chuck them off. I got DD dressed and it took 10 minutes only for her to decide she did not 'feel comfortable' and then took all the clothes off and had half an hour screaming fit in her vest and pants but I went in the garden anyway and left her to get on with it. By the time she wanted to get the clothes back on we had finished playing and so she had to go out there on her own for 10 minutes so missed all the fun.

Well, school is closed again today, just going to make some toast and have a hot drink and then 'hitting the slopes' again (dragging them from the door half dressed). LOL. The great thing about the snow is that a) it is too slippery for the kids to run away from me and b) if they do there are no cars going anywhere to worry about them getting hit by something. Plus they are so wrapped up that on the floor tantrums do not make any difference as the mud and snow is kept out!!

shazrobo

have fun in the snow blue monkey.
looks like we are going to get our fun on the wii fit, keeps us all entertained, and kids get to burn off some of their excess energy.

the tantrums get easier to deal with when they are older, as teenagers, they just answer back, then just go off to sulk somewhere, usually their bedroom

blue_monkey_2

Hmmm, get organised and now it is raining. Might wait til it stops to see if there is anything left. Love the snow as I might it is not the same when it is raining as well. Boo!!!!!

bizywizy

mmmmmmmmmm no cant answer that either - have to say now mine are older it is a little more reasonable. Although they do wake up during the night and wake me other times they are able to amuse themselves without disturbing the whole house or insisting the other must wake up too.

They are 14 and 11

My eldest is into reading a certain range of books - however this means he is waking up even earlier and reading during the night but isnt wanting to wake up in the morning. shouldnt really complain as at least he is reading but not always a good thing.

YS is the worst but its more settling at night rather than the mornings - he is a bad waker upper and needs time. The Eldest can be up and bouncing on the ceilings very quickly.

I find things that are worst when ES decides that perhaps he will run a bath at 4 am when he is well aware that this is not appropriate so that does need that reinforcing and reminding of whats ok for our house.

With most kids including ASD and ADHD you need to be firm with consistant rules. If you weaken and allow something once they use that against you next time so you never benefit from it in my experience.

Alot of 5-6 year olds are still learning about bedtimes and morning times so carry on and I am sure you will get some kind of better timing.

Also one thing that the clinics said to me was dont put them to bed too early (which I was doing because I needed the space). Just a thought