council house overcrowding/medical, HelpPlease, im in a mess and need good advice!!!

kadiekaismummi

shellnapier wrote: »

have u thought about a loft conversion??
or taking the largest room turning into too rooms, and give each room to teh two yougest childern, put the 19 yr old in the room with all the noise, teh 16 ur old int eh 19 yr olds room

or have you thought about setting up a sofa bed int eh living room, people i know have that beside me aswaiting for a bigger house.

i know its hard, but if there are no 5 bedroom house you just wnt get one

Yes we have, our houdsing sent someone out to measure up for this, and because the apex is very shallow we were turned down..... maybe i will put in for the extension, cos the social woker at the hospital things we may be entitled to one, I find this the only option..... unless I find somewhere with a bigger 4 bed, and an extra room, or a bigger 4 bed , that can have a room partitioned..........Sorry if anyone things im ignoring you, but i may not be able to answer anymore for a while as my duaghter has to go back to hospital tomorrow, had phone call from GOSH, and they want her back in tomorrow, just thought id mention it, didnt want people thinking ive written this post and now ignoring it!

redcar_2

JodyBPM wrote: »

There are loads of options open to you to re-organise the space. Off the top of my head they are:

1. Use living room as bedroom for yourself and DH and LO gets your old room. (could use pull out sofabed and reconvert to living space during the day if necessary)
2. 19 yr old moves out.
3. Fill in the forms for extension.
4. 16yr old moves into 19yr old's current small b/room and 19yro and 4yro share her larger room. Maybe quieter that side of the house too?
5. Look into options in the garden for your 19yro eg Caravan, garden lodge etc. He'd prob love the bit of independence, but could still have family meals, washing done etc. (You'd need to check planning permission first)

Honestly, there are so many options, and you seem to be rejecting them all, so my guess is that the accom itself isn't really the issue. You've got a lot on your plate, and I think that you're focussing on a bigger house solving all your problems, but as someone else already mentioned I think, if you do move house, all your problems will come with you!

Good Luck, and try to rejig things so that yourself, ds and dh all get some sleep. All the other problems will seem easier to deal with if you have a good night's sleep.

I was wondering about option 4 too.

Good luck.

MrsE_2

kadiekaismummi wrote: »

Hi, dont know where to start really, I have a lovely 4 bed house on the edge of a housing estate in surrey, consists of myself and D/H and 4 year old son (bedroom 1), my 19yr old son (bedroom 2) my two daughters (bedroom3) and my 16 year old daughter (bedroom 4)...... Firstly, my 16 year old daughter, since birth has had medical problems, she has a massive cyst on her brain and has had surgery for this, and about 6 weeks ago had to have further surgery for her condition, (actually another 4 ops) and things are still not right ......Shes has to have her own bedroom due to her condition, she needs her own peace and quite as most of the time she feels unwell, and suffers bad headaches and other problems sociated with her condition........ x

If you can fit a single bed in a room you can fit a bunk bed.

Bed 1. You & Hubby
Bed 2. 2 girls that already share
Bed 3. Your 2 sons
Bed 4. Your daughter with medical problems.

2 sets of bunk beds & problem solved.

MrsE_2

kadiekaismummi wrote: »

thanks, for your replies......my 19 year old room, is only small, he hasnt even got a wardrobe in it due to space, and my two daughters, are 12 and 7, and they have bunkbeds so, I still havnt room,

You could put your daughter (who has her own room) in the smallest room.
And give the sharers the larger rooms.
And TWO sets of bunks, so get another set.

squinty

Two suggestions

Firstly, you may be able to get a Disabled Facilities Grant (DFG) from the council to adapt the property for your needs. Given them a ring and see if they offer these for Housing Association Tenants. (Of course you cannot do any work without the permission of the HA). Alternatively look on the website for the HA who may offer their own service.

Secondly, have you considered a mutual exchange? You know the council has at least one property that meets your needs, they may have more. You have a nice property in a nice area, so you may find someone who wishes to swap. Most councils run thier own mutual exchange register - contact them to see how this works in your area.

Good luck

mummytofour

Are you on all the council house exchange sites?

If your that desperate then rent privately x

hethmar

Is a loft conversion possible? A sofa bed in the living area could sort one of the boys.

Oldernotwiser

If your son has been offered a 1 bed flat in Surrey he ought to bite their hands off. This could be a never to be repeated opportunity for him to have his own, reasonably priced home. When he wants to leave home in a couple of years, on his own or with a partner, where will he live? He'll have to pay expensive private rental rates or move away from his family. You're both being very short sighted about this.

Tiger_greeneyes

I might be missing something but if there are houses being built near you and this is disturbing your daughter, won't building an extension on your house be even more stressful for her than switching rooms?

I honestly don't understand why the only option you find acceptable means a major upheaval when you've got such a sick daughter, depressed husband, another child with asthma and a 4 year old?

Further constraints are that it must be council, not private - although the council have told you they've no suitable houses. Although you have a separate large kitchen/diner and living room (which could be used as a bedroom if it's imperative your two sons must have their own bedrooms), you'd rather move to a house with a spare living room - maybe like the one you already have, unless I'm missing something there too - for use as a bedroom.

I'm sure I must have missed something because you're desperately overcrowded yet you've had at least a dozen great and sensible ideas that'll solve the overcrowding - but nothing suits you unless it's a bigger house - which the council don't have - and we're back at square one again.

I'm not having a go by any means, but why make everything so difficult when you could simply move your 4 year old out of the cot into a bunk bed with his brother? I really really don't get it???

lil_me

Friends of mine have 7 children in a 2 bedroom house, as they own their own home it's a case of make do. They have a sofa bed in the living room using that for themselves and the littlest is in a cot in there, when she's old enough she'll join the girls in the shared room with the others, all have bunks in.

An option is to privately rent, the council can't magic what they don't have so being on a waiting list for a 5 bedroom sounds pointless if they don't have any.