Calling Old Stylers; what are your views on the Daily Thread?

Jabberwock

Hi,
since the original post asked for opinions from all, I've decided to come out of "Lurkdom" and put my two pennies worth in. I have never posted on the Daily thread,
for starters I'm quite shy and at times I would feel as though I would be intruding on a long-term group of friends and also I only tend to post on MSE if I feel I have something worthwhile to contribute.
Having said the above please don't feel that I'm having a go.
I fully understand that the Daily thread is at times a lifeline to those who need a bit of support, and at other times perhaps just a bit of interaction with other like-minded folk, so I do strongly feel that it should still be acommodated somewhere on the board.
However I personally would just like to see a little less of the endless "Thanks" being given for chatty posts as this in my opinion makes me feel as though I'm intruding on a well established group of friends and I might then find it a little less intimidating to post there.
I hope I haven't offended anyone with my opinions but felt it was important that a long-term lurker give an "outsiders" view.

Jabberwock

LameWolf

Just my twopennyworth, but I enjoy the Daily Thread and look forward to reading it.

I'm one of those saddoes who doesn't get to meet real people - due to circumstances beyond my control, I don't see or speak to anyone from the time my husband goes to work to the time he comes home.

I've felt up to now that the daily thread was somewhere I could interact with others without feeling threatened, even though I don't have anything "useful" to contribute. I'm sorry if people have found my posts too chatty and irrelevant.

I have stuck my head in the MSArms a couple of times but have felt waaayyyy too intimidated to post in there.

Anyway, as I say, that's just my feelings, hope I haven't upset anyone.

Pippa.S

All I wanted to say has already been said....but I hope the Daily is'nt moved, the friends I have made on there have helped me so much in the short time I have been posting.
It was through the "Knit Your Square" thread that I first heard about the OSDaily, and lurked for a while before I posted in there, and have been posting and collecting tips and recipes ever since. Must say I have never felt left out or an outsider, it just takes time to get to know the ins and outs of things.
I have read lots of other threads on different boards, and have posted on some but not on a regular basis like this one. I do post regularly on one of the boards in MSA (Murphys no more pies),and the one I mentioned earlier.
I must admit to getting carried away chatting sometimes,but that does'nt mean I am not a dedicated OS'r.

I think the board is big enough for all of us whatever our views.

Take care

tired_mum

I have to say why cant we have a wold(wannabe old stylers )stylers daily chat like they do in the debt forum
I am a bit surprised at some of the people who have posted that there is too much chat as they themselves have been as guilty as the rest of us me included I am not having a go at anyone in particular its perfectly natural to want to share all our ups and downs holidays,new jobs, uncooperative partners and kids so maybe we could give it a go where people know the daily chat is just that and the old style living thread was more tips and less chat

Zazen999

wannabe_sybil wrote: »

Rather reluctantly entering the fray...

Actually, I think what redruby was trying to say was, if you don't want to look you don't have to look, nothing more. There is no reason why you should not post their now. I found them really welcoming and I am sure you would too. It's just not compulsory to read it if you don't want to.

Saying that you do not have to read it is not the same as saying you are not allowed to read it.

Personally I would wait a little while before posting now, as feelings are running a little high, but I am confident you would be welcome. Strangers struggling with OS like myself have been made welcome, though it does take a little getting used to :rolleyes:

My translation would be, if you say you don't like eating Mars bars, then you don't have to eat Mars bars, but that doesn't mean that in the future you can never eat a Mars bar.

Little bear has been poorly so perhaps sleep deprivation is responsible for the analogy.

I think that your posts are more like the sort of posts that you see on the Arms, and that is not a wrong thing, but the posts on the OS board are a bit more forgiving. I suppose (sleep deprived analogy again) the Arms is like drinking a latte, but the OS board is more like a cup of tea and some knitting. I think that is why I think it would be unhelpful to move any chat thread there.

I think I had better give up. I am desperately upset that I will not be able to 'chat' but I do understand that it is perhaps not the place.

Hi

I appreciate your post...but I'm a seasoned OS-er. I work full time, run 2 allotments, we grow ALL our own veg, the fridge is full of preserves I've made and I've been cooking from scratch for as long as I can remember - I had a blip in the 90s, but even before then I would cook all my own meals. When I first left home, my landlady told me off for cooking a curry from scratch and asked why I didn't just eat ready meals since it was 'just me'.

I was making my own clothes when I was in school. I owned a sewing machine when I was 14.

I've never said move the chat anywhere, my initial comment was that I always thought it was a old style over the fence chit chat thread - not an OS thread about recipes and tips etc.

Sorry to have gotten annoyed about the 'if you don't like it' issue, but it seemed to me the OS-ers were closing ranks on anyone with opinions but those that agreed with theirs.

I've got books choc full of recipes from parents/grandparents/ across continents - and have prided myself on being able to knock together a meal no matter what is in the fridge - if anything. I lived hard frugal for several years when I was putting myself through my degree.

I only ever post on OS threads when someone expresses a need for something. I'm not here to collect 'thanks', in fact I think I'd be better off far far away from here to be honest...it's just the Mac is in the Dining Room and I flit in and out inbetween work and cooking. I do think measuring popularity by the amount of thanks you get is slightly off kilter but each to their own.

phizzimum

I never look at the daily thread as it seems to be a catching up and chatting thread for people who know each other - but I think it's a good idea to keep it. the chatting will still go on (and why not?), and clutter up other threads. it's only one thread so I don't think there's any harm in it.

Pink.

Perhaps I have read some of the posts wrongly. Forgive me if I have, but I think that this point needs to be made. There seem to be a number of people who believe the Daily is under threat of being moved to the Arms or that no chat will be allowed on the thread.

At no point has that been even considered, let alone suggested by the board guides. My personal opinion is that the daily definitely wouldn’t fit in the Arms and if we all posted a list of the Old Style things we were doing with no chat whatsoever, the huge and very valuable support network would be lost and it would be an extremely boring thread.

Penny and I have been receiving pms over a period of time asking if we can ‘do something’ about the daily thread. It isn’t our thread and therefore not for us to decide the way forward but for everyone who posts on the board to try to come to some sort of ‘happy medium’ that goes some way to being acceptable to most members. That is why we began this thread to seek other opinions. We thought we were doing the right thing for everyone. Clearly we weren’t.

Having read some of the comments posted earlier today I feel dismayed and upset and I think I need to step away from the board for a while. Please believe me when I say, our intention was never to cause dissent amongst everyone.

Pink

rosieben

Pink-winged wrote: »

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Having read some of the comments posted earlier today I feel dismayed and upset and I think I need to step away from the board for a while. Please believe me when I say, our intention was never to cause dissent amongst everyone.

Pink

Pink, sorry this has upset you, please dont take it to heart. You and PP put in so much hard work to keep these boards flowing and we all know its impossible to please everyone. I felt the same dismay to see such posts appearing on OS and I hope this is not going to be a regular occurrence here like it is on other forums.

wannabe_sybil

Zazen999 wrote: »

Hi

I appreciate your post...but I'm a seasoned OS-er. I work full time, run 2 allotments, we grow ALL our own veg, the fridge is full of preserves I've made and I've been cooking from scratch for as long as I can remember - I had a blip in the 90s, but even before then I would cook all my own meals. When I first left home, my landlady told me off for cooking a curry from scratch and asked why I didn't just eat ready meals since it was 'just me'.

I was making my own clothes when I was in school. I owned a sewing machine when I was 14.

I've never said move the chat anywhere, my initial comment was that I always thought it was a old style over the fence chit chat thread - not an OS thread about recipes and tips etc.

Sorry to have gotten annoyed about the 'if you don't like it' issue, but it seemed to me the OS-ers were closing ranks on anyone with opinions but those that agreed with theirs.

I've got books choc full of recipes from parents/grandparents/ across continents - and have prided myself on being able to knock together a meal no matter what is in the fridge - if anything. I lived hard frugal for several years when I was putting myself through my degree.

I only ever post on OS threads when someone expresses a need for something. I'm not here to collect 'thanks', in fact I think I'd be better off far far away from here to be honest...it's just the Mac is in the Dining Room and I flit in and out inbetween work and cooking. I do think measuring popularity by the amount of thanks you get is slightly off kilter but each to their own.

I thought the thanks thing was just to see where you were. I never really check it. Why are you raising that issue?

You do OS, but I don't, I'm just trying to learn. So I don't belong there, and you do. I never said that you did not do all those things. I just said that it was perhaps the style that was different. I never said you shouldn't post there, or that you couldn't, I just said that the tone was very different.

In fact I think your post is just what I mean. I could (before all this blew up like a swamp dragon) go on there and ask and chat and be low key. You seem from the posts on this thread to be quite goal orientated and happy to have perhaps a more robust attitude to chat than I do. You are looking for criticism where it isn't, for points to push against. I never said you were not OS - and after all, the Pope is probably more OS than me. I just was on there to learn. I'm trying not to be confrontational. You seem to be thinking that I was scoring points.

I just really appreciated all the support I was getting.

scuzz

I don't know whether I'm a regular, lurker or what...guess those who see me on here would know.

Personally I like the thread as it is. You take from it what you want, and leave the rest. I don't post every day

I don't get mentioned all the time on the thread, but that doesn't bother me. Nor do I thank every post. I thank those who've replied to a question I've asked, and what I've found helpful or particularly funny.

I too have strayed to other boards and received a very nasty comment when I tried to offer help and support to a mother who's child was being bullied. So I ran straight back home to OS.

Anyway, I've never felt an outcast, or that it's cliquey. The only time I stopped posting was when there was a similar fall out a few years ago