Weekly Flylady Thread 13th October 2008

rach

morning all

Not been on the new thread yet - long day yesterday and not in til 9.30pm. looking forward to Thurs aft & Fri off work though!

Will try and catch up with flying. DH had tidied round last night whilst I was out (how does it get messy so easily?!) but the hall/landing & lounge need a hoover at the very least!

pigpen

denisefowler wrote: »

Right, apologies for this rant, but can anyone help - He's 15yrs old, yr 11, so exams this year - does 3 days school, 2 days college studying plastering and knows nothing, nada, zilch... He is one of the nicest kids you'll meet, polite, kind, helpful, but you put him in school or college and he is a nightmare, plays up, answers back, sits and does nothing, throws stuff, swears... and it's not as if he can't, he was soooo intelligent as a kid, started reading road signs as we went along at 3, top of his class in infants and into juniors, now nothing, not even basics... I'm at my wits end... We brought him up 'proppa' make him do homework (never has any) speak to the school to see if we can help, tell him off if he's bad, help where we can, we're pretty tough when we have to be, but none of it is making any difference and he is turning into one of the little b*std kids on my estate, which I hate and they have a LOT of influence over him. And yes, we have kept him in, barred him from seeing people, etc, but I can't lock him up forever and they are the only people he knows around here (we've moved 7 times in 8 years mainly due to money & bankruptcy) and it feels mean when everyone is out enjoying themselves and he is kept in just because of them. He was on Ritalin for ADHD but we took him off at the end of last term because he could be a zombie on them, and to be honest, it's not made that much of a difference now to his behaviour... Apart from batter him into submission, I'm at a loss.... all ideas considered, no matter how silly sounding...:o

Mine is 17.. and the only thing I can hope is that he will outgrow this behaviour when he becomes an adult.

At 2 mine would name cars from a great distance.. make and model.. every single car he knew it. by 10 he was a little git and now he is just a total a***hole.. I do not like the person he has become... but I think by this age they are that person because that is who they are not because that is what you have made them.

We tried everything but I don't think there is anything you can actually do to change them I really don't. Whatever you do they just push harder next time.. I found the only way I could deal with it was to let him get on and make his own mistakes. If he will not listen to the experiences of others then he will have to learn for himself and we must be there to pick up the pieces when they fall apart because as a parent that is our job.

Mine has a really high IQ.. absolutely zero common sense and hashed his GCSE's is faffing about at college and when they kick him out it is not my fault.. it is his.

I do feel some of it is that thet cannot cope with the immaturity of 'school' moreso when they have days at college and experience life in 'the grown up world' DS1 has been slightly better since starting college behaviour in school wise but out of college he behaves like a [EMAIL="tw@t"]!!!!!![/EMAIL].

I look forward to the day when he sees that he has been a git and that it wasn't that we don't care (oh I've had that one thrown at me on more than ne occasion) or that we don't want the best for him it is that he has no self control and no common sense and behaves like a moron and hangs around with morons. In many ways he is very immature.

Look forward to him moving out.. it does improve the situation!

Flylady_Flower

pigpen wrote: »

HHC plan..10:15-10:45am &

11-11:30am..

Who is in??

Going for a bath then going out to meet mumofjusttwo, been good tho and done most of my list... this is all that's left:
Monday Misery - Kitchen and Dining Room
Level Two
Clean the mouldy fridge... fling out the manky things before they leave themselves… and make a note of what needs using NOW
Level Three
Empty all the drawers... shake out the crumbs and put back only the nice things
[STRIKE]Tuesday Terrors- Living Room, Hall and Stairs[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Extra Mission: Pick one or more of the following tasks [/STRIKE]–
[strike] Clean windows & any other glass like mirrors, pictures etc[/strike]
[STRIKE]Wipe down any paintwork that needs it[/STRIKE]. Did this all last week, so have just done mirrors and pictures today
My M.A.C.A.W challenge this week is..............Do 10 mins exercise on my treadmill at least 3 times a week… have changed this to 3 times a week as couldn’t manage more – Mon / Tues / Wed / Thur / Fri / Sat / Sun Also adding Toots good idea about making sure I do at least 1 thing a day off my list that I don't want to – marked 1-7 below (can be in any order) – Please nag me if I’m not doing them!!!
My Dailies
[strike]DW[/strike] x 1
[strike]WM[/strike] x 2
[strike]Vacuum Hall, Kitchen, Stairs & Lounge [/strike]x 1
[strike]S&S Kitchen[/strike]
S&S Bathroom Will do after bath
Personal Extras
1. Fill in Life Insurance stuff
2. Sort out internet for DS’s computer
3. Clean out and groom and smelly pets!!
Paint woodwork in DS’s room
Make blinds for kitchen
Sort out all DVD’s/Videos and put away/eBay/freecycle
Plane down table, Sand down chairs, Paint chairs and table legs, Stain/wax top of table (These 4 things will be ongoing for a while)
Business Extras
4. Work out a business plan
5. Work out costings for Jarvis
Phone 3 Developers every day - Mon / Tues / Wed / Thur / Fri
Sort out Business Contact Manager for all my business contacts
Do AML spreadsheet
Measure for new loo and office
Do plans for new office & Disabled Loo
Enter invoices/receipts onto QuickBooks
Update bank accounts on QuickBooks
see you all later...

pigpen

HHC 1 .. GO!!!!!!!!

toottifrootti

I'm in even if a few mins late....

mOZzy_2

Denise it's always a difficult time when the little ones are teenagers - they know best and nobody loves them!!
how about getting him to do a course like sports or a hobby he likes?!
he'll meet new kids that way too
or get him to volunteer doing something - work with pets or elderly people or in a hospital

just an idea

Gryfon

WM
DW
Kitchen rescue!
Sweep kitchen floor

Tuesday Terrors- Living Room, Hall and Stairs
Level 1
Vacuum floors and sofas
Level 2
Dusting, even if around everything
Remove clutter making sure stairs especially are safe
Clean TV, other electricals and cabinets
HHI
Level 3
Wipe and water plants
Put all your hotspots in one pile and work your way through it..
Vacuum under furniture you can manage to move without hurting yourself
Extra Mission: Pick one or more of the following tasks –

1. Clean windows & any other glass like mirrors, pictures etc
2. Wipe down any paintwork that needs it.
3. Binbag dance.. Get a binbag.. fill it and bin it!!!
   
4. Wash any cushions, throws or curtains that need it

Christmasshopper

denisefowler wrote: »

Right, apologies for this rant, but can anyone help - He's 15yrs old, yr 11, so exams this year - does 3 days school, 2 days college studying plastering and knows nothing, nada, zilch... He is one of the nicest kids you'll meet, polite, kind, helpful, but you put him in school or college and he is a nightmare, plays up, answers back, sits and does nothing, throws stuff, swears... and it's not as if he can't, he was soooo intelligent as a kid, started reading road signs as we went along at 3, top of his class in infants and into juniors, now nothing, not even basics... I'm at my wits end... We brought him up 'proppa' make him do homework (never has any) speak to the school to see if we can help, tell him off if he's bad, help where we can, we're pretty tough when we have to be, but none of it is making any difference and he is turning into one of the little b*std kids on my estate, which I hate and they have a LOT of influence over him. And yes, we have kept him in, barred him from seeing people, etc, but I can't lock him up forever and they are the only people he knows around here (we've moved 7 times in 8 years mainly due to money & bankruptcy) and it feels mean when everyone is out enjoying themselves and he is kept in just because of them. He was on Ritalin for ADHD but we took him off at the end of last term because he could be a zombie on them, and to be honest, it's not made that much of a difference now to his behaviour... Apart from batter him into submission, I'm at a loss.... all ideas considered, no matter how silly sounding...:o

I wish I knew the answer. My son was a nice, bright, intellegent, polite little boy who turned into a horrible, lazy teenager. But what I can say is that he grew out of it. We had laid down the basics when he was younger, and even thought he didn't behave when he was a teenager, he has turned ino a very pleasant, hard working young man. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Flylady_Flower

mOZzy wrote: »

Denise it's always a difficult time when the little ones are teenagers - they know best and nobody loves them!!
how about getting him to do a course like sports or a hobby he likes?!
he'll meet new kids that way too
or get him to volunteer doing something - work with pets or elderly people or in a hospital
just an idea

Christmasshopper wrote: »

I wish I knew the answer. My son was a nice, bright, intellegent, polite little boy who turned into a horrible, lazy teenager. But what I can say is that he grew out of it. We had laid down the basics when he was younger, and even thought he didn't behave when he was a teenager, he has turned ino a very pleasant, hard working young man. There is light at the end of the tunnel.

Thanks guys, I know it's just the 'boy teenager' thing I suppose, but it just feels such a waste and I can't get through, do you know what I mean?

He goes Karate and has done a few other things, and even did Karting for a while, and the other trouble is most of his outside activities and friends are in another town coz we had to move away (only about 8-10 miles away, but 'too much bother')

Good to know there's a light at the end of the tunnel though, roll on the end eh!

lil_me

10.15-10.45 I did folded 2 airers of laundry, sorted a big pile of paperwork, unpacked 3 of yesterdays shopping bags sorted through some uni books, started on sorting DSs shoes, got rid of a sack of rubbish, empited WM, filled TD and refilled WM....

Off I go again