Trying for a baby (12+ M/not straightforward)

MadMac_2

:j wow Toniq, great news! Didn't want to just read and run x

nichart20

Hello I am back to join you if thats ok, I found the board on 22/01/09 after trying for a baby for 4 years found out I was pregnant 26/01/09 (this board gave me good luck) but misscarried 28/01/09 have not been trying since but I am back and will be trying after this AF got my chlomid ready and my clearblue ovulation monitor ready. its been hard 2 ladies at worked found out they were pregnant around the same time and have little bumps now cant help feeling that would have been me but im sure it will be soon, got my fingers crossed for everyone else too x x x

becs

Great news Toniq, fingers crossed for you! How about Nottslass, what's the latest with you? Hope everything is ok.

Welcome back Nichart20, Hopefully you'll get another BFP soon and hopefully some of us others will be joining you.

epsilondraconis

Hi all, thought I'd post in the hope that the thread gives us some good luck. Wife and I have been trying for 7 years and finally did IVF (ICSI) last year. 9 eggs, none fertilised. Went for another consultation recently as we're thinking of trying IVF again. Suffice to say that the consultants don't hold out much hope for us.

When I was young I never thought life would be this difficult.

We'll just have to keep our fingers crossed I guess. Sigh...

nichart20

epsilondraconis wrote: »

Hi all, thought I'd post in the hope that the thread gives us some good luck. Wife and I have been trying for 7 years and finally did IVF (ICSI) last year. 9 eggs, none fertilised. Went for another consultation recently as we're thinking of trying IVF again. Suffice to say that the consultants don't hold out much hope for us.

When I was young I never thought life would be this difficult.

We'll just have to keep our fingers crossed I guess. Sigh...

I dont really know alot about IVF but I am sure there will be advice from others on here that know more, just wanted to offer support I hope if you do decide to try IVF again that it works out for you and your wife, a friend of a friend was told she would never have children no possibility at all not even through IVF she decided to try for adoption on her own while the process was going through think it was about year later she started seeing someone she was worried this would effect the adoption as she put in for it on her own but is now 6 months pregnant and all is well, she has put the adoption on hold for now, so I belive they dont always get it right. I dont even know her and I cried I had gone though my friend telling me about all the tests and the setbacks she went though with adoption

epsilondraconis

Hi nichart20, thanks for the good wishes. Yes, we've also heard stories of people starting the adoption process and then fall pregnant. We looked into adoption a couple of years ago; however it just doesn't seem quite right to me. We'll probably look into it again at some point as the wife would be more than happy to adopt.

It's just quite hard when lots of couples around you are getting married and falling pregnant.

MadMac_2

Have to agree that everybody seems to be falling pregnant at the drop of a hat around me at the moment, it can be really hard to take at times!

But watching the Channel 4 shows this week on adoption just made me realise how much love and support I could give to any child, as really there are so many young souls out there who need safe and loving homes - not that it will stop us TTC but we will now consider it as a future option.

becs

Have to agree MadMac, I want to be a mum more than anything else in the world. And if it has to be to somebody elses child then so be it, I'm sure it's no less rewarding.
Hi epsilondraconis, welcome to the forum. I have to say it is nice to hear a man's perspective on this. Sometimes it's all too easy for us women to forget about out other half's feelings. Good luck.

nichart20

I agree its very hard all my close friends have children I started trying around the same time and a few friends have 2 kids now I try my best to be happy for them but its bloomin hard, especially my best friend since forever she has 3 now every time she decided she wanted to try she fell pregnant that month with all 3 ggggrrrrrrr I dont think im asking for too much

epsilondraconis

Many of our close friends also struggled to have children and so at the time it was good to be able to give each other support. Suffice to say that they've all gone on to have children, in one case they've had two children with the eldest at school. Somehow we got left behind.

Does anyone else on here think that adoption doesn't sit quite right with them? We'd both love to have a family; however I would just like it to be 'our' family rather than a donated family. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure we'd make good parents, and I'd like to think the children would be very happy / loved etc.

You never know, a little miracle could be just around the corner for each of us on this thread. It would be nice to think that is the case anyway - fingers crossed.