MSE Pregnancy Club III

redmel1621

My_Fathers_Daughter wrote: »

How rude :mad: you would think that they would train their staff in how to treat hormonal women!

I, on the other hand, am fed up with people telling me how big I am...and even worse - how big I am going to get :mad:

I am still only 21 + 3 but people keep asking me 'when's it due?' like I am ready to pop! I have grown quickly but why do people feel the need to comment? When I sheepishly say 'not until march' their eyes practically pop out of their head and they go on to tell me that it will be a whopper or that it is definitely twins or some other completely inappropriate twaddle :mad:

I wouldn't mind so much but this is mostly by blokes with kids themselves so they will be quite aware of how senstitive and hormonal a pregnant lady feels :mad:



It would appear that I am being angry today

I know exactly how you feel, I get this all the time. Luckily I have had two kids already and just turn around and tell them I am fully aware of how big I get, and how big my babies are... I think it shocks them a bit as I am only just 5ft 2in. and I think they expect me to have little 5-6lbers.

It is rather amusing sometimes though, because I carry completely out front when looking at me directly face on or behind, it is difficult to even see I am pg (depending on the clothes I am wearing). thenI turn to the side and they nearly fall over in shock:rotfl:

Mel x

blottedcopybook

MrsTine wrote: »

No when I said she had a 24hour labour I did know that She was 6cm+ dilated for those 24 hours (fully dilated for most of it)... that is why it's shocking! But the baby just didn't want to come down. I guess baby wasn't in distress but the mother certainly was... When the MW finally fetched the doctor she was too exhausted to push any more having tried to push for quite a while on the MW's instructions...That's why she lost so much blood and they kept her in for 7 days after the birth.

BLOODY HELL! The current guidelines are 1cm per hour after 4cm and if it's not happening to put the mother on a syntocinon drip to prevent her getting exhausted. Your poor friend

BargainAholic_2

Congrats searching! Glad all is well & hope you have a great 7 - 8 months

Congrats to ems too.. I remember telling everyone & its such a great feeling. Jeez it only feels like it was a few weeks ago!

r.mac thats out of order.. I'd have smacked her lol.

MFD I've had exactly the same throughout my pregnancy, or you get the random people that feel that it is ok to call you fatty all of a sudden... "err hello! At least my belly will go away at the end but your stuck with your face like that!" It has made me sooo mad! Can you tell? lol

blottedcopybook wrote: »

And for those of you who are over your dates - would you consider postponing being induced in order to have a natural labour, or are you just at the stage of wanting the baby out?

blotted.. I have had enough but I would also wait, the only thing I worry about though is the placenta becoming too weak to delivery enough oxygen to baba during labour & delivery. Although there is a very small chance of this happening.. I would rather the babs come out without me having to worry about it.

Hope everyone is doing ok


Mel x

MrsTinks

blottedcopybook wrote: »

BLOODY HELL! The current guidelines are 1cm per hour after 4cm and if it's not happening to put the mother on a syntocinon drip to prevent her getting exhausted. Your poor friend

I know... My point exactly... Bear in mind that she had to terminate her first pregnancy because of a serious heart deformity in the baby, basically it could have made it till she delivered it but the deformity couldn't have been fixed and the baby would have died. She was so scared that anything might have gone wrong with this baby that I am furious on her behalf! I wonder if the MW just put her distress down to that? But even so! She should have called the doctor in earlier!
I'm a tiny bit worried as I am delivering in the same hospital, but I will have my own "crew" popping in to keep an eye on me Including the head nurse from the Paediatric Ward With 2 nurse friends around I have a feeling I'll be well looked after as both work in/around that hospital. If I didn't have them there I'd actually ask my MIL to come over and stay. Bossy tho she is and at times very hard work - she's had 3 kids and she was a head nurse in her time so she knows her stuff. She might put their noses out of joint but she'd NEVER allow her grandchild to be in any kind of danger and lord help anyone who didn't follow the book to the letter in her presence... she has her uses

feelinggood_2

MrsTine wrote: »

I know... My point exactly... Bear in mind that she had to terminate her first pregnancy because of a serious heart deformity in the baby, basically it could have made it till she delivered it but the deformity couldn't have been fixed and the baby would have died. She was so scared that anything might have gone wrong with this baby that I am furious on her behalf! I wonder if the MW just put her distress down to that? But even so! She should have called the doctor in earlier!
I'm a tiny bit worried as I am delivering in the same hospital, but I will have my own "crew" popping in to keep an eye on me Including the head nurse from the Paediatric Ward With 2 nurse friends around I have a feeling I'll be well looked after as both work in/around that hospital. If I didn't have them there I'd actually ask my MIL to come over and stay. Bossy tho she is and at times very hard work - she's had 3 kids and she was a head nurse in her time so she knows her stuff. She might put their noses out of joint but she'd NEVER allow her grandchild to be in any kind of danger and lord help anyone who didn't follow the book to the letter in her presence... she has her uses

I think having a bit of support is very important. My SIL had a horrendous birth with the first, so when she was booked in for a C-Section with the second, I stayed in hospital with her. The made a right fuss of me being there, trying to get me to leave, but I refused. She wasn't going through the same experiences again. Because she isn't English, the staff would direct questions at me, despite me not being a blood relative. Funny really, seeing as she is an English teacher! My friend is one of the Midwives at the hospital where I'm supposed to have the baby, so I'm hoping she'll be around. Supposedly its a very good hospital with a great reputation. Its changing to a Midwife Led Unit in the future, but won't be when I'm there. Its weird thinking about all this. Its still not 'clicked' that I'm going to have a baby. Feels like I'm talking about someone else! Only 16 days till I find out the sex!

searching_me

thank you they havent give me a due date and wont until i go back for my 8 week scan so i'll add myself then... although i know round about when i'll wait til they confirm it... i didnt ask for a pic coz i didnt really think to ask they just said here you go very happy just gotta get past 12weeks and then it'll be time for a mini boogie lol x

feelinggood_2

I'm all worried today. Morning sickness is a lot better (I didn't take any cyclizine yesterday!) but I'm so achy. Is that normal? Pelvis is really uncomfortable, I look like an 80 year old when I try and get out of bed in the middle of the night.

blottedcopybook

FG it's totally normal, while you're pregnant your body produces a hormone called lignin which allows your ligaments to stretch so that when you're in labour, your pelvis can accommodate the baby passing through. For some people the lignin has more of an effect and that's what causes hip/pelvis pain. Just be careful and make sure you're keeping your knees together when getting in/out bed and when you're standing or sitting.

CanadaBound

Hi FG

Just wanted to echo BCB's comment - I had pelvis pain at about 10 weeks and only went to the doctor once I had a weekend where I couldn't get out of bed as the slightest movement put me in awful pain. She did send me for a scan just in case but said she "would eat her own hat" if it turned to be anything other than the ligament stretching and that I was just one of the unfortunate ones to suffer with it. Luckily the pain went within a few days and, except for the occasional twinge and ache hasn't returned. My cousin's wife wasn't so lucky and spent almost 6 months only able to get round on crutches the pain was so bad. So, if it does get really bad, I would head to the doctors just to put your mind at rest but in the mean time, try not to worry and take it gently.

sparkle03

Im 15 weeks and dont have a bump yet that you can see just a ridge me and other half can feel

I know this has probably been discussed before, but how does everyone feel about people touching the bumps or tummy's? Already I have people just randomly touching me and stroking my tummy, Im not all that comfortable with it to be honest.
I was walking to my mums yesterday and my mums neighbour saw me and came over, and just stroked my tummy and said 'Hows the baby?' I really wasnt expecting it, as there really isnt anything there yet! I remember being pregnant with ds1 and had strangers in shops just thinking they can touch you! :eek: Im not looking forward to another 25 weeks or so of being petted like a dog just because Im having a baby.

So Im just wondering am I being a complete control freak, is it my hormones or do all you ladies feel that way too? Dont get me wrong I dont mind my friends and my mum having a feel when the baby starts to kick and stuff. Other than that though to me my bump is mine ( and OH's ) But Im seriouly considering slapping people on the !!! when they touch my bump and asking them how it feels to have there space invaded! Seriously though - would I be out of order and seen as a crabby hormonal bore if I just asked people not to touch?

Thanks
x x