Trying For a Baby II

MadMac_2

Becs, if you were an hour from me (standard Devon time!) I would be now knocking at your door to give you a massive hug, x

I'm ashamed to admit that I'm older than you are and have swallowed the fertility book (yup, that Toni Weschler one again), charted temps and OV and so on, swallowed the vitamins and pumped OH full of them too! But still nothing and these last few years have jumped up and bit us, with him being ill and admitted to hospital and then recuperating for ages afterwards (no possible advance on relationship then!) and once he was back in action, it was my turn to be rushed in and that knocked another 8 months out for us! He then finally came clean that he secretly wanted children and that sent me rushing down the TTC road and I'm still on it

So I would say I'm not obsessive to any degree, but am very pleased to now understand how my body works and why at the very least.

I know we see people on here appearing and disappearing in a flash to then move to the Pregnancy board - and that still gives me a wry and defeatist smile when it happens, but I soon give myself a kick out of it and carry on as before. I would try and support everybody if I could! But ultimately it isn't our age (or health) that singles us out, just that life seems rougher at times when at every turn there is another baby!

I wonder if that is part of the reason my OH is so low at the moment, but life still goes on for us and we've now talked about the alternatives, which bizarrely made me feel much better about things!

Sorry for the long essay yet again - but I'm with you in spirit all the way, if not in body :grouphug:

Have made myself cry AGAIN!!!

MadMac_2

Hi Scotsgirl, welcome! Always room for one more.... so get BDing and enjoy the ride!

scotsgirl_3

Already bd'ing like crazy - depends if cycle is regular or not but i should probably OV on Sunday, so my OH is getting no choice, in spite of his man flu!!!

becs

Ah MadMac :grouphug:dodgy hug reciprocated! I actually feel ok about things at the mo. I'm getting better at handling it all. I tend to only have 1 "down" day and that is usually day before af bizarrely. Once AF arrives I kick myself into touch and get on with the next cycle. It really is heartbreaking to see so many of us going through so much to try to have a much longed for child and like you I do try to be happy for everyone but it is so much harder with newbies. I can honestly say when I read Nottslass post about her BFP it made me the happiest I've ever been to read a BFP and it still makes me cry! I think when you know someone has gone through so much to get to that stage you can only imagine the sheer joy they must be feeling and I think sometimes when newbies haven't had to wait very long there just can't be that level of appreciation as someone like nottslass.
I think what frustrates me most is that I had to wait a long time to meet my "Mr Right" and then thought everything would fall into place, but is has been a battle. I think life is very unfair at times when we're in a very stable loving marriage, financially secure and can offer a child so much love,stability and security and then you see others that get PG by accident, don't have a loving relationship with 2 parents or any financial security and they have a child so easily. A child is the most precious thing in the world and sadly there are many women out there who just don't realise that.

MadMac_2

Becs, I couldn't have said it better myself! I know we both pop on to the 12+ board as well to keep up with news and I still get a real high when a bean finally sticks - just hope so very very much that luck visits you (and Kencokenco....and Leopardlady... and so on!) soon, x

I can't say I had a long wait to meet my OH - just that it took us a bloody long time to realise we were the ones for each other! Had that moment happened years before, we might be a family of five - or ten! - by now. If only...

becs

Well keep at it MadMac,
I have a friend who was with her hubby for years and she had a very succesful career and they had never thought about children then at 38 she woke up one morning and realised she really wanted children. They started trying immediately but because of the long hours and stresses of the job they found it difficult to conceive. She eventually gave up her job for the sake of her sanity and became a mum at 43. Her only regret is that they didn't have another child but she thought with her age and the difficulty they had in having the one it was best to settle for what she had and appreciate it. She has the most beautiful little boy now. I've always known I wanted a family because family is the most important thing to me, it just took me longer than most to meet the man I knew I would spend the rest of my life with.

emmzy

ello again i thought id tell you all about a woman i met the other day to give you all some hope.

My sister has a 2 year old, my godson, and she put his old buggy on gumtree a few weeks ago for sale and this lovely woman showed up to buy it on tuesday night. She then proceded to tell us her story about how she started trying 22 years ago and had no viable reason not being able to conceive but still struggled for all these years. She had 3 rounds of IVF all of which failed and she gave up hope. At the ripe age of 53 she found out she had fallen naturally without even really trying anymore and has a gorgeous boy now at 7 months lovely big blue eyes hes a stunner. Hearing her story made me realise that even as we have been trying for 18months now with no sucess that I shouldnt give up hope as if it is meant to be for us it will happen

~annie~_2

My temp is down a little again, took a test anyway which was a stupid thing to do as it was blaringly negative

Feels like AF is on her way, feel pretty depressed about this.

On the plus side, it means I can get drunk on holiday next week (yay) and also ride the rollercoasters at a theme park we;re going to. Maybe both at once. This should make me feel better but it doesn't. This stuff is getting old!

nickynoo08

Welcome Scotsgirl

AAaaarrrgghhh. I hate the 2ww! It's so hard not to ss. Currently 8/9dpo, had cramps and a tiny amount of spotting this morn. I know this could be implantation bleeding but i dont wanna get my hopes up again:o.
I've got 1pg test left and it's driving me insane now. I must keep myself busy for at least a week.
I've been temping but my temps seem to be all over the place. It shot up a week a go and yesterday it plummeted. Not quite sure what this means if anyone can explain. It's probably normal but i've never temped before.

Enjoy your hol annie - it's not over till af shows her ugly head. Fi9ngers crossed for you hun

B2B-2008

Morning Girls,

Lots of chatting, it took me ages to catch up.

I just wanted to add that I don't think charting is a bad thing. Even though we have only officially been TTC for two months I think its good to know what your body is doing. I have been off the pill since january and my cycles are all over the place.

I'm 29 and OH 33, we have both wanted a family for a long time but it took ages to find each other. We have come to a joint decision to chart and use OV sticks as we feel we have been wanting this for such a long time anything we can do to help we will do.

My friend on the other hand thinks we are mad and she is just going to see what happens.

I do get upset when I see young girls whole only have sex once and are pregnant when there I am feeling if its this hard to get pregnant why was I on the pill for so many years mucking up my system!

Sending lots of baby dust to everyone.

x