Enquiry about benefits and housing?

churchrat

Shadow919 wrote: »

"why is it legal to have sex at the age of 16 with the risk of getting pregnant, why not make it so you can't have a baby until you are what, say 24 when your past uni etc?"


this is SUCH a good idea!!!! :T:T:T:T

(wish I had thought about it!!)

Bogof_Babe

The OP would do well to bear in mind the expression beggars can't be choosers.

He can either beg for benefits, free housing etc., or get himself sorted and choose to have a life.

Mips

Well I would love to be 16 again - I knew it all.... now I'm not so sure !

Kimberley

I really do hope this young girl has a change of heart and changes her mind about wanting a baby. I so wish she would confide in her parents so that her parents can talk her out of it with all the pros and cons.

I was 24 when I had my first child and suffered from Depression, it was really hard work, my BF chucked me out of my own house when he found out I was pregnant (we were buying it jointly) and didn't want anything to do with the baby or me and I ended up a single mum.

You may think that having a baby will cement your relationship or make it better or ensure you get a council house to live together, but when reality strikes and once that baby is born then I will guess that a few months after living with a newborn baby will break you up. Some do make it, but most relationships go through very hard times and thats when your older.

You are both still very much too young for a commitment of this type and I urge you to use contraception until you both know your relationship is strong enough to raise a baby and you are in a position to support both mother and child financially and emotionally.

I fear you will both regret this if you do go ahead, which you probably will do anyway despite peoples advise on here, but I really do feel sorry for any future child you may have if you do this without thinking very hard about this life changing decision because it will be the child that will suffer in the long run.

bestpud

vik6525 wrote: »

I cant believe Im the first to point this out, but anyway....

Assuming the OP is real, I 100% believe, from reading between the lines, that he and his girlfriend have unhappy home lives at present, and are looking to have a baby as a 'get out of jail free' card...

Hmm, that's my thoughts too.

We kind of went into it back on page 2, but yes, it looks to me as though they want to get out of their homes but can't afford to at present. A baby gets them a house and an income (because if they want to go to college, it is going to be a while before they can afford to move in together otherwise - they just don't see that they won't have any freedom with a baby in tow), so they possibly see the baby as offering the best of all worlds.

Little do they know... :rolleyes:

I don't know what their home life is like but, assuming they are not being abused in any way, they will find a new baby twice as demanding and restrictive as the strictest parent!!

alison999

bestpud wrote: »

I don't know what their home life is like but, assuming they are not being abused in any way, they will find a new baby twice as demanding and restrictive as the strictest parent!!

Completely agree:beer: