Enquiry about benefits and housing?

Oldernotwiser

zoezoe wrote: »

1. pregnant at 15 and chose to bring home the baby
2. Single mum on benefits

I'd think that you'd want people to learn from your mistakes, not repeat them!

For every person that's made a go of things as you have, there are hundreds who've stayed on benefits for years, producing more and more children who are going to grow up and repeat the pattern.

TOBRUK

The OP and girlfriend don't even contribute to their parents (he is working) for any bills while living at home. He may be able to save a bit towards the baby (as he said) while living at home but he won't be able to save like this otherwise. I expect they haven't any idea of the cost of living let alone be thinking of bringing a baby into the picture. It would be even harder if he was to go to college - pressure of college work, trying to hold a job having a young family and living costs! This would be extremely hard on a sixteen year old with a baby.

Fran

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zoezoe_3

Oldernotwiser wrote: »

I'd think that you'd want people to learn from your mistakes, not repeat them!

For every person that's made a go of things as you have, there are hundreds who've stayed on benefits for years, producing more and more children who are going to grow up and repeat the pattern.

It was not a mistake - thank you very much.

Oldernotwiser

zoezoe wrote: »

It was not a mistake - thank you very much.

Even less excuse then!

Bitsy_Beans

sorry to be blunt but it's a stupid idea. I would suggest you spend a little more time as a couple getting to know each other as you mature than having a demanding baby which can put immense strain on your relationship.
As a mother of 2 kids myself trying to fit in any sort of study whilst having young children is extremely hard work.
Show that you are mature young people by NOT going down this route.

alison999

zoezoe wrote: »

I have been

1. pregnant at 15 and chose to bring home the baby

how big of you :rolleyes:

zoezoe_3

alison999 wrote: »

how big of you :rolleyes:

good grief. What do you think that you brought to this debate with that comment? The OP has moved on and so shall I.

parisjordana

dont get me wrong but if you did have a baby at 15 zoezoe surely out of all these posters on here giving helpful advice you are the one that should be saying dont do it because you were still a child and had a child and by your posts its obviously been hard not easy so why say let them be...would you want your 15 yr old daughter to have a baby and say its fine because I certainly wouldnt,neither at 16 ,17,18 .....I want mine to do her time at college and do teacher training and experience life then maybe settle down...in an ideal world it doesnt always happen like this ...and mistakes happen but this couple are planning it at their age, thats the problem i have.

alison999

zoezoe wrote: »

good grief. What do you think that you brought to this debate with that comment? The OP has moved on and so shall I.

what do you expect anyone to say? you "chose" to bring your baby home? words. fail. me.