help i'm in bits

1012donna

I feel awful saying this but that's forces life. They tell you they will be home one day day and then it gets cancelled until a later date. I've known my husband be a week after the original date. I'm afraid it's one of these things you're going to have to get used to. When they're deployed they don't usually know when r&r will be (if at all) or coming home dates until the last minute. Sorry!!

Ivrytwr3

agree with Donna. This is only training, what are you going to be like when he has to go to Iraq for 6 months?!

little-lou-pink

Cat695 wrote: »

you need to point out to them that he is a minor and they have a duty of care.....he CANNOT be left alone in camp!!! FACT ok.......remember i was based there....i can even get you phone numbers of more important people....PM me if you need them ok

The thing is they are not leaving him alone they are sending all his troop home and putting him in with another but letting him wander around doing nothing much he has been told he willl be in the wrvs most of the time. I have spoken tio him this mornign and yes I do feel better but I am still mad they cant book a flights home when it is so easy to do and still isnt booked up.

I will pm you for the numbers thanks

Cat695

Ivrytwr3 wrote: »

agree with Donna. This is only training, what are you going to be like when he has to go to Iraq for 6 months?!

I understand what you and Donna are saying but this is basic training and he is only 16 (Army have a Duty of care especially while he is in training).....all mums worry (mine still does and i've been in 17 years) unless you've actually sent your son/daughter into the forces you really shouldn't judge someone on how they are feeling.

He won't be going to Iraq/Afghan till he's at least 18! and by then I'm sure Lou will realise she won't be able to have much control over his life.

Ivrytwr3

I'm not judging; just making an observation.

And btw:

I joined the army at 16.5 and was on Op Granby (Gulf War round 1) at age 17. I had my 18th birthday out there!!!

If you feel strongly about your son getting time off, then by all means give the welfare office a call. But he is in training and the training is intense, schedules get changed, instructors have lives, he may be behind on something and needs remedial. I would personally not interfere, he will be home when he can.

Let him stand on his own 2 feet.

frugallass

little-lou-pink wrote: »

I have spoken tio him this mornign and yes I do feel better

He's your baby and you have missed him - it just goes to show the importance of the Army Welfare Service - give them a call and ask for websites / contact details of support networks, it sounds to me like you just need to share your feelings with like-minded mums/wives/families and maybe get advice, information and support on how to deal with the difficulties.

Space_Cowby

try this place http://www.yellowribbon.org.uk/index.php they are a suport group for familes of our heroes.

genieuk

I can undersstand how much you and your daughter miss him and it seems thoughtless when plans are changed, but as said previously he is making it back home.

When I was in basic I fell ill over our leave weekend, sometimes they give extra duties.

When my hubby is deployed I haven't told our kids when he is coming back because we have seen others delayed by days or a week or diverted elsewhere. Once you know they are on their way home then tell people. Or just take them out, I have told mine little white lies to get to the airport but the surprise on their faces is worth it and his sometimes I have given the impression we can't meet him also.

He is in the army now, things change even when you think they are set in stone, and yes we can search the internet for things but they have procedures to follow and possibly only a few selected companies they can make travel arrangements through.

And as far as family support goes I am an army wife and it differs for us from unit to unit some good and some not so. It maybe easier when he gets to his first working unit, they won't have so much of a big turn over of people and will get to know your son over a longer period of time.

Try not to worry and enjoy it when he comes home
all the best

gt568

A couple of points...

If it ever got out that his mother was ringing up about him coming home, he would be in for an extreme amount of "banter"...leave him alone...he is an adult now...

Get used to disappointment..it is part of forces life, sadly...

I'm sorry if this comes across as harsh, but it's only my 0.02p

And please take note of the first point!!!!!!!!!

Krach

At least he will be coming home. A lot of our boys and girls will never get to do that again.