In desperate need of help, this is a mess?!?!

caroline2675

After the last text from him I can safely say I think he has got the message. He has begged this morning for me to take him back and I thought I would nip it in the bud now with one word to him.

"please its over Paul, stop texting because I wont reply nor to the emails, thank you!"

He said, ok will do, I just wanted to know for sure, good luck, thank you, good bye xx

I think we might have succeeded....this is the only way for me to get on with my life, there is nothing worse then texts flying in, He just needs to replace me soon..... thats all!!

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caroline2675 wrote: »

I dont think he will ever change, if he did and I saw it, there in front of me, then that would be wonderful but part of me doesnt quite see it like that.......

He's 41 - coming up for 42. Middle aged and probably set in his ways !

I am keeping my head down at work, and the exercise helps tremendously. Anyone thinking of taking it up to relieve stress and emotions, its a hit with me!! :j

xx

Work doesn't keep you warm at night or give you a back rub, but it's always there for you and it doesn't lie and cheat, and it looks like th gym is building up your emotional muscles as well Way to go! Good luck !

trancebabe

Caroline, I've just read your entire thread and I wont bore everyone with all the details of my tale but...

I was married to a man who racked up a load of debt (gambling), lied (constantly) and didn't think twice when he had a few affairs and emptied our savings account to play cards when there were bills to pay, steal my cashpoint card from my bag after I went to bed and played guess the PIN number at the ATM machines... you get the picture

When I left him, I got the begging letters, texts, mails and all the sorry's till he was blue in the face but in reality, the only thing he missed about me was access to my salary from the full time job I had to do when my DD was tiny to keep the roof over our heads.

A happy ending for me ??? You bet! I'm now married to a wonderful man, we have a son to complete the family and he treats me the way I deserve to be treated (and I will accept nothing less than this.. ever)

I don't care if that sounds cold and hard! I treat my hubby the way I want to be treated and in return, I get the same. A true partnership!

Never look back & stay strong Caroline! You deserve better and you will only get one shot at life so make it count. You don't owe this man any more chances.

Wish him well in his journey to Debt Freedom and remember what you already know! He's been a fool, but he made his bed and now... it's up to him!

Trust me and all the other great peeps here... You wont ever let anyone treat you like that again!

caroline2675

Well its been 2 weeks and I can safely say for me I am fine, for him well here's the story. He has been going to the gym during the day, what happened to work? He isnt at work as we speak, instead he is online on a dating site, searching for that one and only....and been on there since last week or more like weekend.
At the same time, this will make you laugh...he has been sending me emails, 1 per day wanting me back, and even go as far as saying no strings but just as friends, he still loves me, anything to get any contact from me, but unfortunately I dont reply to any, none whatsoever, even when he says I have left things at his house, to pick them up, I dont reply if he says he wants things from me, I dont reply but leave them at the reception at the gym so he has to hand, but no way am I contacting him ever.
Emails, texts, he is missing me are doing my head in and I can see just by being on the website daily, hourly and minutes he is in desperate need now to fill in my space.
During all this he isnt working, he is also sitting at home, and should be paying off his debts but that isnt my problem. What will make you laugh even more is that he goes on to say that he knows I know he is on that site and says i know the reasons why...what a complete mind game! lol

The most annoying and gets under my skin is that fact that he says life is this and that without me, he wants to change things, but all I can see is desperation now, anything, anyone to help him feel sane....please!!!

so so so glad I am out of this one, and can only thank you again xx

will keep you posted on his other movements until he finds someone else he will always be in contact...xx

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So - he's sitting at home playing with toys and having fantasies !
You've had a very lucky escape my girl - and you know it. Good luck.