Fathers Rights

mat2113

MrsTine wrote: »

Out of interest do you have enough savings to pay off the mortgage? Paying this off might make day to day living easier...

i am about £5000 short

MrsTinks

You'd need to do some maths but if you paid this off would reducing your hours to 20 per week then be viable? Ie only had a £5k mortgage (I can only dream of that!!! ) - you need to work out how much your take home would be. Then any child benefit etc you are entitled to would be a bonus hopefully if you see what I mean If you are not relying on them it gives you a nice cushion even if you don't have savings in the bank. You obviously know how to manage your money or you wouldn't have savings at this point in time

Debt_Free_Chick

mat2113 wrote: »

thanks for all the reply's, because she has no one to help with child care she has said that she will leave my son with me. It is really hard, because i don't want to hurt her ( i must be mad). at the moment i work for a large airline earning £18000 gross per year for 37.5 hour, if i drop my hours down to 20 per week what money would i be entitled to?

Your pay (and other benefits) have to be pro-rata so your gross pay would be about £9,600 p.a. But don't forget child and working tax credits. You might also qualify for other help - check out http://www.entitledto.co.uk/

and would they take my saving in to account?

Would who take your savings into account?

Debt_Free_Chick

mat2113 wrote: »

i don't want to hurt her ( i must be mad).

I don't follow the logic here ... why on earth would you want to deliberately inflict hurt on her? Do you truly, honestly believe that - whatever she is going through - it's "a plan" to deliberately hurt you? Don't start thinking like this - please. My breakup was civil and amicable until my ex decided that I "deserved to suffer" because "I had hurt him". He simply could not - or would not - see that I was already broken

mat2113

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

Your pay (and other benefits) have to be pro-rata so your gross pay would be about £9,600 p.a. But don't forget child and working tax credits. You might also qualify for other help - check out http://www.entitledto.co.uk/



Would who take your savings into account?

the tax credits system

mat2113

Debt_Free_Chick wrote: »

I don't follow the logic here ... why on earth would you want to deliberately inflict hurt on her? Do you truly, honestly believe that - whatever she is going through - it's "a plan" to deliberately hurt you? Don't start thinking like this - please. My breakup was civil and amicable until my ex decided that I "deserved to suffer" because "I had hurt him". He simply could not - or would not - see that I was already broken

i don't think that she set out to hurt me, but she has hurt really badly. It is the thought of lossing my son that really hurts. I am a good father. My ex has and is going through a lot, she has never know want she wanted. I hope and pray that we can sort out the mess for my son!

Edinburghlass_2

mat2113 wrote: »

the tax credits system

Tax credits take the interest/income on any savings into account but not the actual savings.

Witsend_2

mat2113 wrote: »

i don't think that she set out to hurt me, but she has hurt really badly. It is the thought of lossing my son that really hurts. I am a good father. My ex has and is going through a lot, she has never know want she wanted. I hope and pray that we can sort out the mess for my son!

Dear Mat2113 you have said throughout your postings that your GF has hurt you really badly. I am sorry to read this however I just have a feeling that you are not telling the full picture what has hurt you so much? Is there physical abuse involved?

mat2113

Witsend wrote: »

Dear Mat2113 you have said throughout your postings that your GF has hurt you really badly. I am sorry to read this however I just have a feeling that you are not telling the full picture what has hurt you so much? Is there physical abuse involved?

no there is no physical abuse involved. She has hurt me by trying to take my son away, she says that she would never stop me see him ,however alot can change in time. I belive that a child should have a mum and a dad both living in the same house.

MrsTinks

Sorry but they don't My parents split when I was about the age of your son if not a little earlier and I did just fine thank you Ok I might not have agreed with my fathers choices of step mums (he's currently married to a very nice lady - the first one I've liked since he divorced my mum. This is wife number 5 btw) but because my parents never fought infront of me, never made me choose I don't think I'm any the worse for wear. In fact I used to feel cheated because I couldn't play them against each other like other divorced kids so I never got playstations or bikes or barbies :rotfl:
Your son will be far better off with 2 loving parents who care deeply for him but don't fight because they feel they OUGHT to stay together for his sake.
Keep telling him it's not his fault mummy and daddy can't work it out and that you both still love him very much and he will do fine NEVER argue infront of him no matter what happens though